Hi. Welcome to February.
What do mean you don’t care what month it is, they are all the same. Actually for quite a few people they do feel like this. day after day, week after week, month after month, it’s the same old. As a trained hypnotherapist and TFT/EFT Master Practitioner I work with my clients to change these thoughts and really that’s all they are thoughts that are controlling you. What you need to do is control your thoughts.
Your mind is the most powerful tool you have in your life, but if not used correctly, can also be the most destructive force in your life. Your mind, more specifically, your thoughts, affect your perception and therefore, your interpretation of reality.
I have heard that the average person thinks around 70,000 thoughts a day. That’s a lot, especially if they are unproductive, self-abusive and just a general waste of energy. You can let your thoughts run amok, but why would you? It is your mind, your thoughts; isn’t it time to take your power back? Isn’t it time to take control?
Choose to be the person you want to be. Not who someone else wants you to be.
When you change your thoughts, you will change your feelings as well, and you will also eliminate the triggers that set off those feelings. Both of these outcomes provide you with a greater level of peace in your mind.
Thoughts Are Things
Most people, most of the time, are not consciously aware of what they are thinking about – me included. At the same time, you know the impact that your thoughts can have on you. You can become depressed, angry, frustrated, lonely, disappointed, fearful, worried, sad, and doubtful – just to name a few.
On the positive side, some thoughts can make you smile, laugh out loud, feel a sense of pride, cause you to relax, make you feel confident, or – in the case of passing by a McDonald’s – make you crave an ice cold Coke.
The majority of the time, your thoughts directly control how you are feeling at any given moment – regardless of whether you are consciously aware of it or not. With that in mind, wouldn’t it be great if you could better control what you were thinking so that you could change how you were feeling at any time?
Number 1 – Learn to Stop Your Thoughts
One of the first things you need to do is to learn to stop in the middle of your thoughts (good, bad, or just strange). At various times throughout the day, catch yourself thinking. How are you feeling? What are you thinking about? Why are you thinking about that topic?
Easier said than done I know.
Number 2 – Identify Your Negative Thoughts
The better you become at stopping your thoughts, the faster this step will become for you. In the meantime, I can give you a tip to make it a little bit easier: begin with how you’re feeling and work backwards. Every feeling we have is the direct result of something we were thinking. Therefore, if you’re feeling anxious, begin by stepping back for a minute, and asking yourself, “Why do I feel anxious?”
Number 3 – Find the Lie
Behind every negative thought is a lie about ourselves that we are choosing to believe whether consciously or subconsciously. A key step is to identify what that lie is. The lie could be that you’re worthless or that you’re a failure or that you’re a nobody. Maybe you were told that you are dumb or that you’ll never find a spouse who will love you. Whatever it is, identify it and discard it.
Stop listening to your critical voice.
Your a grown up now. Make your own decisions, praise yourself for a job well done. Have total self belief.
Until next time.
Have a great time.