Do you remember that quote from Dirty Harry (Old Clint Eastwood film. What do you mean who is Clint Eastwood) Actually it’s a misquote, what was actually said was, “You’ve got to ask yourself one question. Do I feel lucky? Well, do ya, punk?” Do you feel lucky?
I know I do, but why. I’m short (not far off from an Elf according to my youngest son who is 6 foot tall) I’m balding rapidly, I’ve had two major heart attacks, 2 strokes, I have metal shoulders and I’m registered disabled. So what have I go to feel lucky about? Easy answer, Everything. I’m still here, I’m loving what I do helping other people and for me and my health each day is a gift, which I enjoy opening.
know I know if you were to go by my medical records I am a mess. (Thought they were going to name a bench after me in the grounds of the local hospital at one point) but I am lucky. Lets go back to the early 60s I was born in Gloucester to a woman who decided for whatever reason she could not keep me. Now I could have just been abandoned somewhere. Left in a doorway or worse, but no. I was put up for adoption (Lucky break) at 18 months I was adopted by the best family ever and that goes for the extended family as well. (Lucky break) I had the best childhood down in London and without being spoilt I couldn’t have asked for more. I was bought up knowing I was adopted, and the way it was told me was that I was special as I was chosen. (Ok Dad wanted a girl, but luckily she was a messy eater, so they chose me) (Lucky break).
As a young adult I was a drummer in a band and thought that was going to be my future. However my shoulders had other ideas. 16 dislocations of the left shoulder in one year (Bloody painful) I had my first pin put in on the day John Lennon was shot. 8th December 1980. (Ok I can see you thinking that’s not lucky) stay with me.
That pin didn’t last long nor did the next, or the next. Then my right shoulder started to dislocate a lot. More ops. So how is this lucky? My dislocations were wearing away my shoulder blades. Back then I could have easily have lost use of my arms but there was a surgeon in Cambridge who wanted to try something a bit radical on a young man A shoulder fusion (Lucky break). Which means I have no use of my shoulders and very restricted movement, (which I have got use to), but I have the use of my arms. Now my operating theatre must have looked like the hardware shelf in B&Q
See what I mean
So my drumming career was over as was my very short love of golf. but I had my arms. now after some sick time I had to think which direction my career would go. Now because I had become a house husband I was responsible for getting my eldest ready for school and on on the school bus each day, which I did for quite a time but each morning the head teacher use to drive past and one day she stopped (Lucky break) she asked what I did with my days while I was undergoing physiotherapy. I said not a lot so she offered to drive me in each day and I could listen to readers and help with art (my other love). Well to cut a long story short I was there for 25 years and I ended up becoming the IT manger. In that time I made some wonderful friends and met so many lovely families and worked with some lovely children. (Lucky break)
Because I believe in myself I am still achieving. I’ve written and illustrated 9 books now. (6 children’s books, 2 poem books and and a book on anxiety. I’m still setting new goals and while I am breathing I always will
Now at long last I get to the point. I didn’t have much to feel lucky about but my mindset remained positive and it always will do. When I lost my confidence and self esteem I turned to hypnotherapy to get me through, and it did. Not only did it get me through It got me beyond where I was. I used the Paul Mckenna Self hypnosis videos back then and continued to use them as my life took a whole new direction. I am now a qualified hypnotherapist and having left the school. I have my own private practise in Suffolk helping people who want help to improve their lives. I’ve written this blog because on Facebook this week I saw a post from someone saying “only bad things happen to me.” well that isn’t true. I know this person. They have their health. They are married, they have their own house, they have a job, they have a car and they have two very healthy children. Yes they have ups and downs in life but we all have them. It’s how we deal with them and how we let it effect us.
If you ignore all the good things that happen in your life and just focus on the bad times then yes you will think you have a bad life. Those negative thoughts will consume you and you will miss out on the good points as you are sat waiting for the next bad thing to happen.
We can’t be happy all the time but we can be positive and we can flip those thoughts.
Fall down the stairs.
Negative thought… I’m gonna be in pain all day.
Positive thought…Wow I got down here quick.
Don’t let a bad 5 minutes in the day ruin that day and sometimes the rest of the week. Move on, learn from the mistake and improve yourself.
If you need help I’m here and there are many great hypnotherapists around the world that can help you. If it’s the past or your past learnings that’s holding you back. We can help with that too. We can’t change the past, but we can change how you think about it how you let it affect you.
Change the way you talk to yourself, quiet down that critical voice in your head. You are in control of your thoughts.
Think positive, smile more and appreciate all that you have.
Have a great weekend