So last weekend I did something very special, I met up with my Half-Sister and Half-Brother. We had never met before and we share the same birth mother. Now the reason I’m blogging about this is that we had arranged to meet in the afternoon, nothing formal, just an initial chat in a pub local to them. If you know me, you know I like waistcoats even with jeans. When I turned up my half-Brother who doesn’t follow me on any social media was wearing almost identical clothing smart jeans, waistcoat and a white shirt. So, it got me thinking. Even though we had never met we obviously have a very similar taste in clothes, our sense of humour was very much the same and immediately we all hit it off. The connection was amazing. So, is it possible that the genes from our mum still stand strong even though we had very different upbringings and very different lives? It certainly made me think.
As I work with the subconscious in my work as a hypnotherapist, I know full well That the subconscious mind is the powerful secondary system that runs everything in your life. Learning how to stimulate the communication between the conscious and the subconscious minds is a powerful tool on the way to success, happiness and riches.
The subconscious mind is a data-bank for everything, which is not in your conscious mind. It stores your beliefs, your previous experience, your memories, your skills. Everything that you have seen, done or thought is also there.
It is also your guidance system. It constantly monitors the information coming from the senses for dangers and opportunities. he communication between the subconscious and the conscious mind is bidirectional. Every time when you have an idea, or an emotion, a memory or an image from the past, this is the subconscious mind communicating to your conscious mind. The communication in the other way is not so trivial and is achieved using the principle of auto-suggestion.
This blog will introduce the powers of the subconscious mind and how they can be used on the way to success. You will learn how to communicate better with your subconscious and how to set it on the track you want it to follow.
What is the subconscious mind?
Have you ever read that humans only use a portion of their brains? Well, this is most of all, because of the subconscious mind. Scientists have never really studied it in depth and we still do not know enough about it. But we do know that it could run and control almost everything we do.
For example, when you meditate and you start controlling your breath, you get the control from the subconscious mind and give it to your conscious mind. You start breading deep and with your stomach. Then you stop to control it and your subconscious starts doing it. You do not have to think about it any more. Your breathing will continue to be relaxed until another stimulus changes it (stress for example). Everything is controlled in the back of your head.
Another example of the tasks of the subconscious mind is the information coming from the senses. Your brain is bombarded with hundreds of MB per second of information. It would explode if it had to review and process everything. This is why you have a barrier in between – the subconscious mind. It processes everything and it would only pass this information which is relevant for you in this very moment.
Communicating to your subconscious mind
Communicating thoughts from your conscious mind to your subconscious mind is difficult because it should be done with emotions. Only the thoughts that are conveyed with genuine emotions make it to the back of your mind. And only the thoughts that are backed up by a strong emotion stay there. Unfortunately, this is true both for the negative and the positive emotions. And also, unfortunately, the negative emotions are usually stronger than the positive ones.
Fear and negative self-talk
Your first step in harnessing the power of the subconscious mind is to eliminate the thoughts loaded with negative emotions. You also need to stop the negative self-talk or at least make sure that it is not loaded with emotions. Your fears often tend to come true, especially when you are very emotional about them. And this is why negative self-talk could produce such harmful effects. Eliminating these negative thoughts, or countering them as soon as possible is very important step towards success.
There is story about the guardian angel that always follows you. When you say to yourself “my life is awful”, it writes down awful life. When you say “my job is boring”, it writes down boring job. And when you say “my body is ugly”, it write down ugly body. And then it goes on and grants you all those wishes, because they are filled with strong emotions (sadness, disappointment, regret, self-loathing). That angel is your subconscious mind. Stop here and ask yourself: “Do you can afford letting negative self-talk enter your mind?”
The countering technique
One of the best practices in reducing negative self-talk is the counter technique. Every time a negative thought comes to your mind, you counter it with the extreme positive counter-thought. For example if you have an important presentation and you think to your self: “I am going to embarrass myself in front of all those people”, immediately counter it with: “NO! I am going to be so good that the audience will applaud me for five minutes”. The truth will often be somewhere in between.
The delete button technique
Another power tool in countering the negative self-talk is the delete button. When a negative thought enters your mind, you press the delete button in your mind and image how the thought, written on a piece of paper, is destroyed.
Now you may have noticed I’ve used a lot of technical computer references in this blog. The reason, well funny you should ask. This week I launched a new hypnotherapy package entitled Update and Reboot 2020. Where I can offer you the chance to delete all those old injustices, and negative thoughts that you have been holding on to. Followed by a reboot allowing you to think and feel different about yourself. You can read more about it here.
Next week I will give you some more tips and advice on how you can talk to your best friend, your subconscious.
As for the opening question in this blog. Perhaps My Half-Brother just has good taste in clothes, just like me. 😊
Until next week. Have a great week.
Hypnotherapy in Suffolk, Essex and Cambridge.
Jon Adkin Author of ‘Can I Change?’ Available from Amazon.