Welcome to this week’s blog. Well what a strange time we are living in at the moment. Covid-19 is effecting everyone in some way, and this week I have witnessed the best and worse in people. It seems we are once again a divided nation. There are those who are only thinking of themselves and stock piling products and essential commodities. In doing this they have taken those essentials away from the more vulnerable who cannot afford to buy in bulk. This sadly is very selfish, Then you have the small independent shops who we are asked to support and we find that they are vastly inflating prices to cash in on the situation. At this time we should be sticking together and helping our family, friends and our neighbours, and this is the flip side of the coin, the good ones. The caring ones.
I have noticed this week that a lot of Covid-19 support groups popping up in different areas. People offering to do shopping for others, people asking if anyone needs anything as they are going a bit further afield than the local shops. Paperboys and girls offering to drop of groceries for their older customers. That is the attitude we want to survive this uncertain time. Pull together, help each other and look for the good in the situation.
No one could have predicted this, and no one expected it to escalate like this. Covid-19 is still not as dangerous as the flu. (Flu deaths around 56,000 per year) but it’s here and we have to deal with the situation.
So how will you deal with it? At this time of writing Schools were shutting today (20/03/2020) until further notice. The latest rumour says London possibly the country will be going on full lock down, and at the moment there is not end in sight. So you can choose to be positive or negative about the situation. You can make a difference or you can remain selfish, and angry at the world and live in a constant dark mist for the next month or so.
Me I’m choosing to stay positive. Now those that know me will think how, why? I am self employed, so no clients, no income. I am a high risk for catching the virus, (dicky heart and I’ve had pneumonia) and other medical conditions that make me an easy target.
So why stay positive? Well that is easy. I cannot control what is going on so I cannot worry about it. I can take all the necessary precautions, and follow the guidelines but beyond that there is nothing more that I can do. So I have to make the best of a bad lot.
If you can’t control it don’t worry about it. If you suddenly find yourself at home with your family. Make the most of it. Do silly things with the kids remember they are as scared as you and they need their mind taking off of the current situations. Don’t just sit in front of the TV and moan. Do something different, so that when this has all passed the kids will look back with a smile.
- Make dens, get some sheets and old quilts out, make a den over the dining room chairs, take a torch in there with you and join your kids for lunch. Use your imagination because outside that den can be a magical mystical world.
- Dig out an old puzzle, and complete it as a family. Assign bits to find to different members of the family, (Youngest find the corner pieces, Middle kids find a dominant colour etc)
- Play hide and seek. Kids love it when Mum and Dad play games with them and the sillier the better.
- Find those old board games, those ones that you haven’t played in years.
- Take the kids out in the garden, do some research on what flowers you have growing there, dissect a flower to show the kids all the different parts.
- Go on a bug hunt. Challenge your children to find say 5 bugs and name them and then write down 5 facts about that bug (number of legs, habitat, texture etc).
- Get some coloured pens and paper and draw. Be creative,
- Cut up some old magazines and as a family make a collage but give each one a theme.
- At the end of the day, sit down as a family and watch an old classic film possibly even an old black and white film and show the kids that you don’t need all the swearing and violence like they get nowadays.
Use this time to bond as a family. Without the need for social media, phones, tablets etc.
If you are on your own, or just you and your partner. Don’t take it out on each other, work together.
- Do those jobs that you have been putting off all this time,
- Clear out the garage but do it together and enjoy some of the memories of the objects that you come across.
- Clear out your wardrobes and drawers.
- It’s Spring so actually do a Spring clean.
- Sit down together and dig out the old photo albums, laugh at the fashions and the hairstyles that you once had. This is a good one to do with the kids as well.
- Sit together and see if your joint favourite film or perhaps the first film you went to the cinema together to see is on Sky, or Netflix (You may want to watch it this time as you may have been busy the first time).
- Play cards or dominoes. Real games, not on your phone or tablet.
- Cook together. Work together and make your favourite meal.
These are just some suggestion to make the time more pleasurable. There are so many more.
Even on bad days you can find something positive, Remember we are all in the same boat.
Let’s pull together, let’s work together. Be there for each other. Read, write and focus on the future.
You know what is important in this world and that is family and friends. Let’s rebuild these relationships and come out the other side better people.
I wish you every happiness, Stay safe and stay healthy. Look after each other.
Until next time
Hypnotherapy in Suffolk, Essex and Cambridge.
Jon Adkin Author of ‘Can I Change?’ Available from Amazon.