Hi Welcome to my weekly blog.
This week I re opened my doors for one to one clients. As lock down eases here in the UK we need to get back to normal, but what is normal? are we ready for the new normal? Along with many things at the moment I don’t think anyone knows what the new normal is going to be. However what if we could make our own new normal. There is no reason why we can’t do that.
Make two lists and compare.
Think of your life before lockdown. What would you change given the Chance? in fact let’s have some fun, get a pen and some paper put a line down the middle of the paper, and put two headings. One heading saying before lockdown, the other heading saying after lockdown.
Now make a list of things that you used to do before lockdown that you did every day , things like drive the kids to school, meet friends for coffee, go to the gym, make dinner in the evening, Watch TV, etc etc. So, you’re making a list of the things that you used to do. Now make a list of what you plan to do after lockdown. Perhaps walk the children to school, meet your friends in a park, plan a healthy meal, and prepare it with the children, go out for an evening walk, spend more time interacting with the family etc, etc.
Do you see a difference in your two lists? are there things that you are now doing that you would like to continue to do after lockdown? Are you enjoying spending more time playing with the children or talking to your partner? Have you started to enjoy walking again cause you got out to do your daily exercise? We can get a lot of positives out of this strange situation, and as individuals if we each bring out the good perhaps our new normal will be so much better.
If you’ve enjoyed playing with the children being creative, being silly, being parents. There is no reason why this must stop. Have the children enjoyed having their parents around more? Are they spending less time on the computer or their tablets or phones? They are all positives.
have you found a new hobby? perhaps you’ve been a bit more adventurous with your cooking, or found a new love for doing puzzles, or you have discovered reading again. again, all these are positives. Positives that you can continue well after lockdown is over.
Now once you’ve made those two lists, compare them and see what good things you can bring out of this lockdown with you. Yes, You may have to make adjustments in your lifestyle, once the children go back to school and you go back to work but changes can be made. Just because things get back to normal doesn’t mean they have to be the same as they always were.
Think of the money you will save by not meeting friends for coffee each day, but by making your own and going for a walk around the park chatting. Think how much fitter the children and you will be if you can walk to school (I know not always possible) and the added bonus of that is that you don’t feel the frustration and anxiety of driving on the school run, so your day starts so much better. How many of you drive to the gym (to get fit) whereas actually, you could have walked or jogged there? It is all the little changes that you can make that could make your new normal so much better for everyone.
Now on the flip side, there will be a lot of people that entered lockdown in a happy or happyish relationship, but because of the isolation, tension and frustration have built up and tempers have flared. If that is you Don’t panic. I want you to get a pen and paper and again put a line down the middle, but this time Your headings will be How it was. And How it is. And again make 2 lists. However, this time it will show you what you had, and it will be up to you to get it back.
If you were happy going into lockdown, then you can get that happiness back. Not everyone wants to be around their partner or their kids 24/7 Not everyone has the patience to keep the kids entertained, and that is ok. As long as all parties were happy and safe and well.
You must do what works for you. This lockdown has bought out the best and the worst in people. What all of us need to do now is say we survived that and look forward now and leave the worse parts behind. As I said in one of my Facebook posts, We may not all be in the same boat, but we are all in the same storm.
Until next week
Stay safe, Stay healthy and look after yourself.
Jon Adkin Author of ‘Can I Change?’ Available from Amazon.