Since I started my hypnotherapy business, I’ve had multiple people point it out to me how much I’ve changed and that I’m much happier. Some have even thanked me for having a positive impact on them and asked exactly what I’m doing that’s clearly had such obvious changes in my happiness.
I realized internally that things were shifting but had no idea how obvious it was to people outside and it’s because of these people who have reached out (seriously I am so grateful that you did) that pushed me to start creating videos on TikTok and youtube and writing content on the exact things, the tools and inspiration that I implemented to help get me so much happier.
I will be honest that not everything is going to work for everyone. Why? Because some people just aren’t ready to make the change yet. But if you are then I can guarantee that these small tips will most certainly help change your life.
There are a few key things that I think everyone should be doing because of the massive impact it can have on your life and in this blog I am going to discuss what I think is the easiest and most important tool.
Before you click away thinking that it’s too easy, stay with me.
There are many “little” things that so many people turn away from because they think that it is just too easy. They think, “There’s no way gratitude is going to change my life.” Well, have you tried? How do you know for sure? For many years I thought this was all a bit woo woo, a bit tree huggy. So I know what you are thinking.
The truth that is you probably didn’t try and don’t know. So I’ll let you in on a little secret…gratitude will change your life. And yes, it is that simple.
Some things are really, ridiculously easy to do, the hard part is just making a habit of it. Or we like to tell ourselves that’s the hard part. The truth is that it’s not that hard either, we just tend to work it up in our minds.
Practicing gratitude daily helps your mind shift from a negative to a positive state. Being grateful will encourage you to feel happy with what you already have and contribute to helping you stop always wanting more. Sure, you may still want the newer version of the iPhone or a bigger house, nicer car or more clothes but being grateful will certainly help you feel these constant needing thoughts less and replace them with happiness for what you already own.
Think about people who are poor. How can they be so happy and you, someone who has so much be unhappy? They’re grateful for what they have even if it’s much less than what you have.
If you’re reading this you’re probably spoiled in some sense which means that you already have a lot to be grateful for. You just have to make the mind shift to see how great the things you have already are.
If you don’t believe me when I say that gratitude is actually really, ridiculously beneficial for you, then believe science.
It has been proven that gratitude improves our mental health, makes people happier and less depressed. Its been proven that practicing gratitude affects the part of your brain (hypothalamus) which controls eating, drinking and sleeping and also influences your metabolism and stress. Can you imagine how awesome you would feel if you’re eating, drinking, sleeping and stress improved? You’d feel great.
Practicing gratitude also works a part of the brain that releases dopamine, a chemical that makes you “feel good” and tells the brain to keep doing that same thing. So every time you practice gratitude your brain will be saying “Oh yeah! Give me some more of that gratitude!” It’s impossible for you to feel both positive and negative at the same time. Practicing gratitude will force you to think positively and the more you do it the easier it will become.
What Gratitude is Not
It’s very important to realize that gratitude is not comparing. Do not look at others and think that you’re grateful because you have more. This kind of ruins the point. You want to be grateful for what you have not because of what others don’t have.
How Does Gratitude Work?
First off, you have to truly appreciate what you have. To do this, try thinking about what it would feel like to not have it. Not so great is it.
Now you can truly appreciate your car, home, comfy bed, the food on your plate, the clothes on your back, your body, anything!
How to Put Gratitude into Practice. Make it a habit.
I know, I know, saying that you’re going to make it a habit is easier said than done, so why don’t you start with doing it right now. Or when you’re done reading this blog. You are the only one who can hold yourself accountable. Without you and your commitment, there is no change.
If you do it now, like right now, you can feel the effects of what gratitude does for your mind and mood and you’ve already completed your first day of making this a habit.
I personally started off with writing down three things a day that I’m grateful for. I have a 6 minute diary, I find it helps to do it at the same time every day so I’ve incorporated this into my daily routine. Attaching a new habit to an old habit also helps make the habit easier to adapt. For example, I drink coffee every morning so I write the three things I’m grateful for as I drink my coffee. I’m at the point now that I’m so practiced that now I realise I’m practicing gratitude throughout the day like when I’m taking a walk and the sun is shining or opening my laptop and realize that I’m so grateful this piece of technology allows me to do my work.
Your brain really does like it and will start doing more of it on its own. I also find that it’s helpful to say why you’re grateful for something. For example, I’m grateful for my peaceful night’s sleep, because that means I will have a busy and productive day. Or I’m grateful for my body even with all that’s wrong with it, because it carries me throughout the day every day.
Try to think not only of the things around you but also YOU, what’s on you, what you’re putting into your body, what you’re using, and your body itself (including your flaws). This is the key that will help you love yourself more: being grateful for your body despite your flaws.
At first, you may be grateful for the big things but over time I can guarantee you will start to notice the little things and that’s when you’ll realise how grateful for you are for your entire life, when you’ll really notice the change in your happiness, mental wellbeing and truly start to love yourself.
Just before I finish, during June I am offering a free 30 page e-book all about self love and the mistakes we make. For your free copy please email me at email@example.com Thank you
Remember IT ALL STARTS WITH YOU.
Until next time.
Stay safe. Stay healthy.
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