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Ease your Anxiety Advent Calendar

Hello Happy December.

So the Christmas playlist is on. the decorations are up. Up in the loft where they will stay for a couple of more weeks, but it is starting to feel a bit like Christmas.

I’m still sadly getting enquiries from people who want the sessions but put themselves on hold for the Christmas period. It is a shame as they could possibly have the best Christmas ever by lifting that anxiety, that worry, that THING. However Not going to rant anymore. I want to help wherever I can so what I am doing on my Facebook business page is running an Ease that Anxiety Advent Calendar. Facebook Advent  Each day I will offer you tips on how to ease that anxiety. It may even be worth jotting them down so that you can return to them at any point.

It’s not much but even if just one of the tips helps you to enjoy the festive period more than you would have, then I will be happy.

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So Are you ready for the big day? do you have plans? Are you dreading it or can you not wait? Isn’t it strange how we all get worked up over one day (and some even sleep most of the afternoon) Now don’t get me wrong I’m not a Bah Humbug at all, I love the build up, I love the day (Usually) but it never ceases to amaze me how much pressure people put on themselves both financially and mentally just for one day.

What did Santa get you?

Forget hello, the first words kids will be excitedly shouting to their friends on the first day of school after the holidays will undoubtedly be to ask their friends what special gifts that Santa brought them on Christmas morning.

As some children jump about and happily share their answers, you’ll notice other children becoming more withdrawn or even upset at this line of questioning.

Because while Santa brought their friends everything they asked for, he may have only brought them a modest gift.

Or not visited at all.

Yes, as adults we can understand that this is due to income inequality – “rich kids” and “poor kids” – but for kids, Santa represents rewarding good behaviour and punishing bad behaviour. (Regardless of what you try to teach at home.)

Despite our best intentions, kids quickly determine that their friends who got everything they wanted must have been very good and those who didn’t get lavish presents must have been naughty.

That’s why this year, I’m encouraging you to consider letting Santa bring the smaller gifts – and put your name on the big presents.

I mean, after all, why should Santa get the glory for your hard work and effort?

It doesn’t mean that those presents can’t still be special and meaningful. In fact, we all know that it’s not often the jaw-droppingly expensive presents that end up being the most special. And Christmas magic is often best captured in other ways, beyond gift bringing:

  • Making Santa footprints on the floor with a bit of flour
  • Tracking Santa on Google GPS
  • Leaving out milk and cookies – and some reindeer mix, too!
  • Hot chocolate and special Christmas stories
  • Christmas Eve traditions like tobogganing or getting to open one gift
  • Singing Christmas songs and baking
  • – or crafting
  • – or building LEGO!
  • Doing something special for someone else

In a season where we try a little extra hard to think about others and practice kindness, it makes sense to me to want to let other children’s feelings and self-worth be preserved. Our children lose nothing from having a simple name swap on their gift tags. They’re still getting the same presents we planned – we’re just taking all of the credit for the big ticket items!

Of course, we can encourage our children to be humble and not brag about all the gifts they received, but we can’t expect kids to not want to share their good fortune with their friends. What we can do is ensure that when our kids do share, that it doesn’t leave other children wondering, “Why did Santa bring Johnny an XBox and I got slippers? I must have been bad this year.”

 

Santa is real for a short window of time, but the scars of feeling bad and inadequate can last a lot longer than that. There’s enough opportunities out there for kids to feel unequal – let’s do what we can to let all kids have a magical Christmas.

Speak again soon.

Have a great week.

Name XX

Pursue your Dreams

It’s funny isn’t it. As children we dream big. We want to be spacemen, Football players, Artists, Dancers, We want to be whatever our passion is. sadly as we grow older the drive, the desire is knocked out of us or leaves us.

Others don’t mean to destroy our dreams, you don’t even mean to do it, it just happens.  You either feel you are not good enough, or your told you will never be good enough. Our peers shatter our dreams or our elders tell us to grow up and then you have to conform.

We listen to others too much. at some point in our lives we stop listening to ourselves.

I was very lucky I had parents that believed in me and allowed me to pursue my dreams. I was a drummer. I wanted nothing more than to appear on the stage, and for many years that happened. I loved every moment of it. However my dreams were shattered when I suffered a series of shoulder operations which put pay to my drumming career.

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It put pay to my drumming career but it didn’t stop me dreaming. Yes I got a regular job (actually had a few as I still wanted that dream) but it didn’t stop me doing what I loved which was entertaining. I like to make people smile, laugh and be happy. So even in my regular job If I had the chance to dress up (you should see the pictures), I was there. If I had the chance to host a quiz, I was there mic in hand.  I never gave up.

Today I’m building up a hypnotherapy business, I’m helping others turn their life around and in turn making them happy. I offer free consultations where we chat and inevitably we have a laugh. No I’m not up on stage but I’m living the dream.  I could have taken the route of a stage hypnotist but I decided not too. The pleasure I get from helping people of all ages from all walks of life. is giving me quality of life, knowing that I’m helping others.

This Friday is black Friday but I’m going one better. I’m having a Freebie Friday. I’m giving away free of charge my 20 minute motivational sound file. ‘Pursue your Dreams’

It’s not a hypnotic recording. It’s an inspirational sound file just to remind you that it’s never to late to follow your dreams.

If you would like to receive this sound file Please email me your email address at jadkin.bahyp@gmail.com Many thanks.

I’m doing it, so join me on my journey.

Have a lovely week.

Name XX

I’m Dreaming of Anxiety Free Christmas.

Well I knew it wouldn’t last. I didn’t get round to blogging last week. Did you miss me? Actually did anyone notice? Anyone? Never mind I am back.

This weeks (or months Just in case) blog is all about Anxiety.

Anxiety Definition : a feeling of worry, nervousness, or unease about something with an uncertain outcome.

a nervous disorder marked by excessive uneasiness and apprehension, typically with compulsive behaviour or panic attacks.

Do you suffer from anxiety? Do you know someone who suffers from anxiety?

Here are just a few of the symptoms of Anxiety.

Panic disorder is an anxiety disorder where you regularly have sudden attacks of panic or fear. Anxiety is a feeling of unease. It can range from mild to severe, and can include feelings of worry and fear. The most severe form of anxiety is panic.

You may start to avoid certain situations because you fear they’ll trigger another attack.

This can create a cycle of living “in fear of fear”. It can add to your sense of panic and may cause you to have more attacks.

A panic attack is when your body experiences a rush of intense mental and physical symptoms. It can come on very quickly and for no apparent reason.

A panic attack can be very frightening and distressing.

Symptoms include:

  • a racing heartbeat
  • feeling faint
  • sweating
  • nausea
  • chest pain
  • shortness of breath
  • trembling
  • hot flushes
  • chills
  • shaky limbs
  • a choking sensation
  • dizziness
  • numbness or pins and needles
  • dry mouth
  • a need to go to the toilet
  • ringing in your ears
  • a feeling of dread or a fear of dying
  • a churning stomach
  • a tingling sensation in your fingers
  • feeling like you’re not connected to your body

Most panic attacks last for between 5 and 20 minutes. Some panic attacks have been reported to last up to an hour.

The number of attacks you have will depend on how severe your condition is. Some people have attacks once or twice a month, while others have them several times a week.

Although panic attacks are frightening, they’re not dangerous. An attack won’t cause you any physical harm, and it’s unlikely that you’ll be admitted to hospital if you have one.

Be aware that most of these symptoms can also be symptoms of other conditions or problems, so you may not always be experiencing a panic attack.

For example, you may have a racing heartbeat if you have very low blood pressure.

Now I’ve just told you all that but really. you know it. you suffer with it or a friend or family member suffers from it. what you really want to know is

HOW DO I GET GET RID OF IT HOW DO I CONTROL IT?

This is where I can help and not just me but any hypnotherapist that specialises in Anxiety..

We can get to the root of your problems and in doing so we can talk to your wonderful subconscious brain, that part of you that wants to keep you safe.

Did you know your subconscious brain holds on to everything that you have ever, seen, touched, smelt, experienced.  and among the memories is the root of your anxiety.

We as hypnotherapists can help you remove that memory. We can help you control your thought’s and in turn live a happier more fulfilling life.

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Remove that block before you tumble. Just like a Jenga tower. the more that block is slid out the less stable you become. Let me or one of my wonderful colleagues push those blocks back in and make you feel tall.

It’s not brainwashing, it’s just us giving you the positive suggestions, enabling you to go forward but in control of you.

Many thanks for reading. I will see you soon.

Name XX

PS. Don’t leave it till the New Year to get yourself sorted. Do it now feel the benefits over this Christmas. It is possible. One less gift is all it will take.

Anxiety. At what cost?

Look at this yet another blog. I’m starting to get the hang of this. Actually it won’t last believe me, but let’s make the most of it while I’m here. How are you? I’m doing fine. I was in Lincoln last weekend meeting up with some of my fellow Blueprint practitioners. We had a lovely day and It was great to meet many for the first time. Not only was it fun it was also very informative. We were all therapists and we all had one aim. To help our clients.

However we all seemed to have the same issue. People don’t spend money on themselves to improve their standard of living. People pay to have their pets groomed, pay to have their car washed, pay big money to have their nails or hair done which will last for a day or two, but they hesitate or say “I will think about it” when it comes to helping themselves deal with the anxiety. For less then the cost of a Spa Day they could rid themselves of the anxiety which holds them back and stops them living the life they want and deserve.

As I said last weekend was all about the Blueprint. It is a fantastic protocol that really works. Have you ever dreamed about resetting your mind so that all the bad stuff from the past can be removed? Not only have I trained in it but I have had it done to me and boy it’s powerful. I have now trained in it as part of my own on going personal development.
What is does is basically reset your mind so that all the junk and bad stuff that you’ve built up over the years is released all the guilts, the injustices, the hurt and so much more. So you can basically start afresh. It is also content free so you don’t have to rake up anything nasty from the past to do it. It’s like an MOT for the mind. You can read more about it here. Blueprint FAQs

SO I know Christmas is coming, but wouldn’t it be the best present ever to give your loved ones back the you that you want to be.

If you would like to know more details or where you can have the Blueprint session, contact me and if your not local to me then I will find one of my fellow practitioners who is local to you. They are a lovely bunch.

Have a great weekend

Best wishes

Name XX

It’s all about you isn’t it…

I had a call this morning enquiring about my hypnotherapy. I could hear she was in a bad place and clearly needed some help. I offered my free consultation and she readily agreed to come and see me. By the end of the call she sounded much happier.

Within half hour she rang back. her husband had asked her to ask me how much it was all gonna cost. I told my prices and emphasised to her what she would be getting for her money. IE quality of life, being able to do the things she had discussed with me etc. Again she seemed really happy and actually couldn’t wait to start. the call ended.

10 minutes later this lovely lady rang back and again sounding very sad and not in a good place cancelled the free consultation and apologised for wasting my time. I assured her she hadn’t wasted my time at all but I was curious as to why she had cancelled the consultation. her reply is unfortunately all to common.

“My husband says we can’t afford it. He wants a new Apple Watch for Christmas, so I need to save the money.”

I wished her well and let her know that I’m always available if she needed to talk.

Now I think that story is very sad, but it is all to common. Many of us think of others and don’t look after ourselves or in this case a selfish partner (Sorry but he is) is putting a watch before his wifes health.

That call has not only upset me but it made me realise that so many of us care about what others think rather than caring what we ourselves think. We do things to keep the peace or for an easy life. Some of that I understand I do it myself, but NOT where our own well being is being neglected or even ignored. straight after those call I put out this post on Facebook.

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Now I don’t usually put out posts like that but I wanted to make people aware that they need to put themselves first.

Ok rant over. Hey but look on the bright side it’s another blog. 2 weeks in a row. I can’t promise that I will keep this up, but enjoy it while it lasts.

Have a great week, and I will speak to you soon.

Name XX