I’m a Hypnotherapist. GET ME IN THERE!

It happens each year at this time. I’m a celebrity get me out of here comes on and my phone starts to ring. People’s fear and phobias raise their head. Spiders, bugs. Etc etc.

Don’t let fear control you.

So why does this happen? Fear is one of the most powerful emotions. It has a very strong effect on your mind and body. Fear can create strong signals of response when we’re in emergencies – for instance, if we are caught in a fire or are being attacked. It can also take effect when you’re faced with non-dangerous events, like exams, public speaking, a new job, a date, or even a party. It’s a natural response to a threat that can be either perceived or real.

Anxiety is a word we use for some types of fear that are usually to do with the thought of a threat or something going wrong in the future, rather than right now. Fear and anxiety can last for a short time and then pass, but they can also last much longer and you can get stuck with them. In some cases they can take over your life, affecting your ability to eat, sleep, concentrate, travel, enjoy life, or even leave the house or go to work or school. This can hold you back from doing things you want or need to do, and it also affects your health. Some people become overwhelmed by fear and want to avoid situations that might make them frightened or anxious. It can be hard to break this cycle, but there are lots of ways to do it. You can learn to feel less fearful and to cope with fear so that it doesn’t stop you from living.

What makes you afraid?

Lots of things make us feel afraid. Being afraid of some things – like fires – can keep you safe. Fearing failure can make you try to do well so that you won’t fail, but it can also stop you doing well if the feeling is too strong. What you’re afraid of and how you act when you’re afraid of something can vary per person. Just knowing what makes you afraid and why can be the first step to sorting out problems with fear.

What makes you anxious?

Because anxiety is a type of fear, the things I’ve described about fear above are also true for anxiety. The word ‘anxiety’ tends to be used to describe worry, or when fear is nagging and persists over time. It is used when the fear is about something in the future rather than what is happening right now. Anxiety is a word often used by health professionals when they’re describing persistent fear. The ways that you feel when you’re frightened and anxious are very similar, as the basic emotion is the same.

Question Yourself
Why do I feel like this when I’m not in any real danger?

Early humans needed the fast, powerful responses that fear causes, as they were often in situations of physical danger; however, we no longer face the same threats in modern-day living. Despite this, our minds and bodies still work in the same way as our early ancestors, and we have the same reactions to our modern worries about bills, travel and social situations. But we can’t run away from or physically attack these problems!

The physical feelings of fear can be scary in themselves – especially if you are experiencing them and you don’t know why, or if they seem out of proportion to the situation. Instead of alerting you to a danger and preparing you to respond to it, your fear or anxiety can kick in for any perceived threat, which could be imaginary or minor.

Why won’t my fear go away and leave me feeling normal again?

Fear may be a one-off feeling when you are faced with something unfamiliar, but it can also be an everyday, long-lasting problem – even if you can’t put your finger on why. Some people feel a constant sense of anxiety all the time, without any particular trigger. There are plenty of triggers for fear in everyday life, and you can’t always work out exactly why you are frightened or how likely you are to be harmed. Even if you can see how out of proportion a fear is, the emotional part of your brain keeps sending danger signals to your body.

What is a panic attack?

A panic attack is when you feel overwhelmed by the physical and mental feelings of fear – the signs listed under ‘What do fear and anxiety feel like?’ People who have panic attacks say that they find it hard to breathe, and they may worry that they’re having a heart attack or are going to lose control of their body.

What is a phobia?

A phobia is an extreme fear of a particular animal, thing, place or situation. People with phobias have an overwhelming need to avoid any contact with the specific cause of the anxiety or fear. The thought of coming into contact with the cause of the phobia makes you anxious or panicky.

You will know.
How do I know if I need help?

Fear and anxiety can affect all of us every now and then. It is only when it is severe and long-lasting that doctors class it as a mental health problem. If you feel anxious all the time for several weeks, or if it feels like your fears are taking over your life, then it’s a good idea to ask for help. The same is true if a phobia is causing problems in your daily life, or if you are experiencing panic attacks.


Hypnotherapy is great for dealing with fears and phobias. The aim of hypnotherapy is to communicate with the subconscious and change the way you feel and behave towards your phobia. The process itself involves putting you into a very relaxed, hypnotic state. Your hypnotherapist will talk you through this and you’ll be in control the whole time.
Many phobias exist in our subconscious and are learned responses. This makes them particularly vulnerable to hypnotherapy. Hypnotherapy can help you unlearn the fear response, build up your exposure to the phobia and in time ease the associated anxiety.

Want to know more? Contact me or a hypnotherapist near you. Don’t let a fear or phobia control your life.

Until next time.
Stay safe. Stay happy.

Jon X

Hypnotherapy in Suffolk, Essex and Cambridge. and online via Zoom

Jon Adkin Author of ‘Can I Change?’ Available from Amazon. and 100 days in isolation. A collection of funny original images of one mans decent into comic madness during lockdown

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Lockdown 2 Survival tips

So lockdown 2 has begun. Or Jamanji level 11 2020 As I like to call it.

We have survived it once we can survive it again but this time with an added strength because we know that we can do it.
Since it was announced I was looking for clarification as to whether I would be able to stay open and offer support to those that are anxious about lockdown, I was going to offer online sessions anyway but I do have a lot of clients where they prefer face to face rather than online. I understand that. I also understand how this new lockdown could be a tipping point for many. It’s colder, so we are not so quick to go out and do our daily walk. The days are so much shorter, and that means that you sit down and overthink so much more. So the lockdown take a different shape this time around.

I’m Open


Anyway I was given the all clear to stay open with guidelines of course, but at least people will know that there is help out their for them if not from me, from one of my very capable friends. So don’t let this lockdown get into your head. You are in control of your thoughts so keep them positive ones.


I’ve put together tips to survive this lockdown below. Some are mine, some are ones that I thought were great suggestions from various websites. As long as they help you I’m happy.

  • Keep to a routine – everyone is in unfamiliar territory with the current pandemic, so
    keeping some normality and routine is vital. Try to get up and go to bed at your normal time.
    Getting enough sleep, eating regularly and keeping hydrated will help optimise your health to
    fight the bugs off. Children can be particularly sensitive to upheaval, so try and make their day
    structured with set ground rules/boundaries, and stick to them.
  • Variety is the spice of life – A variety of activities will help stave off any boredom, you
    don’t have to just resort to box-sets and daytime TV. Gardening is a great activity, and fun to
    do with kids. Giving it a good old clean up at this time of year is ideal and if the kids are helping all our creepy crawly friends are out in force. You don’t even have to have a garden, as many things can be grown easily on a window sill. Local garden centres are also offering free home delivery. Reading a book or keeping your mind active with puzzles/quizzes/crosswords etc. are easy activities to get
    started with, and there are loads of activities available online, for adults and kids, that have
    been made free during the lockdown. Why not try to learn a new language, a musical instrument
    or broaden your horizons with a free opera broadcast?
  • Regular Exercise & fresh air – exercise is often the first thing to go out of the window
    when our daily routine is disrupted. Exercise not only keeps us physically well, but is also a great
    way to de-stress and protect our mental health. It doesn’t have to be anything fancy, if you are
    stuck indoors there are lots of HIIT (high intensity interval training) sessions you can do
    quickly, or do something simple like walking up and down the stairs a few times. Anything is
    better than nothing. If you can get outside even better, 30 minutes of a brisk walk/run/bike is
    plenty (maintaining your social distancing!).
    If you are lucky enough to have your own garden or outside space make the most of it if the weather is nice. If you don’t, or if you struggle to get out, then open the window and let some fresh air in.
    If it’s a clear night why not go out for a walk in the evening and do a bit of stargazing?
Don’t start snacking
  • Healthy eating – like exercise, when our routine is disrupted or we get stressed, eating
    habits can go to pot. Try and eat regular meals. Avoid too much snacking, or if you do, try to
    choose healthy snacks like nuts or fruit. Use it as an opportunity to get adventurous with
    cooking, and learn some new culinary skills. If you have kids at home, baking or cooking is a fun
    activity to do together and educational for them too. There are loads of recipes ideas online if
    you need them.
  • Limit social media & news feeds – it’s great to stay informed, but getting obsessive and
    tuning in all the time can be detrimental. If you are finding your anxiety ramping up, try to stay
    away and limit access to once a day. Also make sure you get your info from reputable sources,
    have a healthy scepticism of anything you read online or on social media. If you are not sure,
    look on official websites (NHS, Gov.uk) or ask your friendly GP (practice website or e-consult if
    available).
  • Help neighbours – elderly, unwell, or immobile neighbours are going to be at greater risk
    during this period. If you have time why not give them a call to check on how they are doing,
    and if you are doing an essential shopping run ask them if they need anything. Many communities
    are setting up formal volunteering groups which you could get involved in.
  • Stay connected, make the most of technology – we are fortunate to live in an age
    where there is a huge number of ways to keep connected. Just because you are in isolation
    doesn’t mean you can’t keep in contact via telephone or video call. Many methods offer group
    chats/calls so you can get the extended family all together, or your kids can keep in contact
    with their friends. Facetime, Skype, WhatsApp, Zoom are a good starting point.
Keep in touch.
  • Support local businesses – restaurants, bars and shops are going to take a big hit in the
    coming weeks, and without support may struggle to keep afloat. If they continue to offer home
    delivery or takeaway why not treat yourself now and again and support your local community.
    We will miss them when they are gone if we don’t!
  • Look after you mental health – as mentioned already, routine, exercise and avoiding too
    much social media/news can all help safeguard your mental health. However, if you are starting
    to struggle there is help out there for you. Calm and Headspace are great resources for
    anxiety which usually need a subscription but currently are offering free content. Your GP can
    also help or signpost you if needed, and there are many other charitable organisations that
    offer support online or by telephone*.
  • Relax, give yourself a break – particularly relevant if you are trying to juggle working
    from home I would hope that most employers will be supportive and understand that productivity just isn’t going to be the same in the current situation. So cut yourself some slack and don’t put yourself under too much pressure – everyone needs a bit of me time and a break.
    And finally…remember this isn’t going to last forever. Stay safe, be kind and supportive to
    each other and we will come out of this stronger.

Until next week, or possibly the week after 

Have a great week or two.

Take care and stay safe.

Jon X

Hypnotherapy in Suffolk, Essex and Cambridge. and online via Zoom

Jon Adkin Author of ‘Can I Change?’ Available from Amazon. and 100 days in isolation. A collection of funny original images of one mans decent into comic madness during lockdown

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IEMT What is it? What could it do for you?


Over this Covid period I wanted to use this time to expand my knowledge and learn something new that would help even more of my clients. I didn’t want to learn new hypnotherapy techniques as I believe that you should hone in on the skills that you have and expand on those and I’m getting some fantastic results with my clients and that makes me happy. So I looked for something that would compliment my hypnotherapy practice but offer something that was non hypnotic. I did lots of research and joined various groups to get an insight as to what was available.
Believe me there are lots. Now I’m not going to rubbish any of them or the courses that are available, as some were very credible but boy there are loads of scammers out there. If you are thinking of expanding your knowledge please be careful with who you sign up for. Don’t be so quick to throw your money away.
Anyway I digress. After months of research I decided that IEMT was a great fit for my practise. There are some great trainers out there and I decided to work with Matt Kendall at the IEMT Academy. I took the IEMT Practitioners course, and I am so glad I did.


So what is IEMT? Well the academy’s tag line is ‘Creating change in the blink of an eye’ and that sums it up perfectly. Integral Eye Movement Therapy (IEMT) is a developing area rapid change work that explores the area of undesired emotions and our ways of being. The process explores the question, “How did we learn to feel the way that we do?” and opens up the possibility of creating the appropriate change in our emotional lives. By teaching resources and skills inside the problem state, IEMT appears to bring the client more into the present moment and enables them to better stay out of past negative experiences.

Practitioners consistently report that IEMT has created change in their clients where no other approach has worked previously. IEMT is an excellent tool for dealing with a wide range of emotional issues. It is particularly effective in dealing with:
• Stress and Anxiety
• PTSD and Flashbacks
• Insomnia
• Feelings of guilt, regret and remorse
• Fears and phobias Dealing with overwhelm
• Removing negative memories and traumatic experiences
• Panic attacks
• Overcoming long term identity issues such as divorce

IEMT now available from Jon Adkin Hypnotherapist.

Now you may have heard or even had EMDR. So what’s the differences Between EMDR and IEMT Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing (EMDR) and Integral Eye Movement Therapy (IEMT). Both the EMDR and IETM models use eye movements but in practice that is where the similarity ends. You may be told that EMDR and IEMT are exactly the same in the same way that Freud’s ‘Psychoanalysis’ and Bandler’s ‘NLP’ are exactly the same because they both use words. EMDR is a model used mainly by licenced medical professionals such as psychologists and psychiatrists. IEMT can be used by anyone trained in the model.

Where EMDR is primarily used to treat “trauma”, something it is very effective at doing. However IEMT is much more about the Patterns of Chronicity. These are 5 primary patterns that appear common to many chronic patients with, or without a history of trauma.
To summarise the differences:
Integral Eye Movement Therapy (IEMT)
• Is a model built around addressing and resolving The 5 Patterns of Chronicity
• Has applications in resolving PTSD
• Traumatic imagery is largely irrelevant to the process
• Addresses imprints of emotion for creating kinaesthetic change
• Addresses imprints of identity for creating change in self concept
• Uses eye movement as the dominant mechanism for change
• By design readily creates introspection and an alpha state with free floating imagery
• Prior qualification is not necessary for training in IEMT
Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing (EMDR)
• Is a model built around resolving trauma
• Is an application for resolving PTSD
• Traumatic imagery is central to the work and the client is encouraged to “observe” trauma
• Uses eye movement as well as tapping and alternating sounds
• Utilises affirmations and positive belief statements

Want to know if IEMT can help you?

So I’ve done my training, I’ve done my case studies (with fantastic results, Their words not mine) and now I’m ready to offer it to clients. Working with me and IEMT is just two sessions. No fluff, no reliving the original issue. And best of all during this Covid period it can be done online via Zoom or face to face in my practice.
I will also offer an IEMT/Hypnotherapy combination. This will be offered to clients who feel they need the hypnotherapy change alongside the IEMT release.
The bottom line is that I will always offer what is the best solution for my clients to be able to live and enjoy their life.

Until next week, or possibly the week after 

Have a great week or two.

Take care and stay safe.

Jon X

Hypnotherapy in Suffolk, Essex and Cambridge. and online via Zoom

Jon Adkin Author of ‘Can I Change?’ Available from Amazon. and 100 days in isolation. A collection of funny original images of one mans decent into comic madness during lockdown

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It’s a bit like torture.

When people come to my hypnotherapy practise in Haverhill, I find a lot of the time that the issue isn’t the issue. What I mean by that is that they come to me for and say anxiety, but they don’t know what set it off, or they blame the wrong event, anxiety is a mixture of emotions and it’s when those emotions all get together that you start to suffer. So when people come to see me, we always talk first, and I do this for two reasons. firstly, by talking I can begin to understand what the client is feeling, I can build up trust and make notes on what they say and how they feel it’s affecting them. However more importantly, is that by talking about their issues and how it’s affecting them I know that the subconscious is listening, and it is the subconscious that needs to make the changes.

So why have I said it’s a bit like torture? Well, if you think of your mind like a bucket under a dripping tap, and over the years, even when you small child, all the things that you have ever seen, heard, smelt, and felt are all stored  in your subconscious mind. All the happy memories, all the good times, times when you laughed, times when you felt happy on the inside and on the outside. Times when you may have heard a certain song, and if you were to hear that song today you go straight back to when that melody got into your head. Certain smells may transport you back to perhaps your grandparents house, something like a real fire burning or in my case A paraffin heater. At this time of year if I go out for a walk and I see some conkers on the floor, it brings a smile to my face because at the end of my street that I was brought up on were some huge conker trees, and me and my mates which stand there for ages throwing sticks as high as we could to get the biggest conkers down. For me they were great days and those memories will forever stay in my head. However our subconscious doesn’t only store the good stuff, all the bad stuff is in there too, The insults, The putdowns, the bullying, the injustices, the guilt, the grief every bit of negativity that we have had said to us or we have put on ourselves is stored in our subconscious. So that bucket under the dripping tap has been filling up bit by bit and then one day out of the blue something happens, that makes that bucket overflow, and it all comes out.  

Our mind is like a dripping tap

Now, that thing that made that bucket overflow could be something really simple, on its own not a problem at all, but because it was the straw that broke the camel’s back you focus on that as the problem that you come to see me with. And if you don’t go and see somebody, you end up focusing on the wrong problem for the cause of your anxiety. Think about it you are at home and your child accidentally drops a plate or a glass, and because your mind (your bucket) is full of unwanted thoughts and memories You overreact. You start shouting at the child, you angrily try to pick up the pieces of the broken glass or crockery and you may cut yourself so you shout more at the child As that plate or glass hit the floor that was the drip that made your bucket overflow.  

Now you are annoyed, now you are angry, the child is upset crying perhaps hiding away from you and because they are crying and making irritating sounds you get even more annoyed. So the cycle begins, you blame the child for your anxiety , you blame the child because you cut your finger, you blame your child for ruining your day she blamed the child for everything, but hang on that’s not right.

Just one drip can make us overreact

Let’s take a step back, let’s look at the situation but from a Birds Eye view.

There you are resting on the sofa, you just been speaking to work and you’re a bit stressed, your daughter senses that mum is a bit stressed, she wants to help, she notices the washing up on the side so while mum is resting she decides to do the washing up, she can’t quite reach the sink but she does her best, she washes the plates, the pans and she is reaching into the Sink And with her soapy slippery hands she picks up the last glass, but as she lifts it up it slides out of her hands and on to the floor. You go running into the kitchen, you see the broken glass, you see the water on the floor, and you shout you lose it. You shout at your daughter you become angry, you become irrational, you’re annoyed and you pick up the glass from the floor and as you do you cut yourself, in your eyes that’s your daughters fault as well. Now look at the scene your daughter is crying and looking scared, you’re angry and bleeding from the cut on your hand, and you feel the anxiety rising in your body.

When the issue isn’t the issue

So let’s look at the facts, your daughter sensed the stress and she wanted to do something nice for you, she wanted to give you one less thing to have to worry about, so she decided to do the washing up. It was a lovely gesture because she didn’t want to see mummy stressed. She did her best, and through no fault of her own she accidentally dropped a glass, actually she didn’t drop it, it slipped, slipped from her soapy hands because she was trying to do something nice for you. You were stressed on the sofa, you heard the glass break and before you assessed the situation you got angry, you overreacted, you lost it. Whereas what you should have done is comforted your daughter, make sure she was okay, after all to please you she had pulled a chair up to the sink, she put her hands in hot soapy water, there might have been some sharp knives in there, she didn’t care, she wanted to make life easier for you, when that glass slipped out of her hand she obviously became very upset, and had you not overreacted you would have notice that.

That incident is not the cause of your outburst, that incident was just the straw that broke the camels back. Perhaps the call from work started that bucket to overflow, perhaps it was the fact that you stubbed your toe this morning and it put you in a bad mood, or perhaps it was because when you came down this morning the cat had been sick and you had to clean it up. But you lost it, you overreacted to something that was being done to help you.

Now you know what was really going on, take a deep breath, relax and now what would you do?

How many of you can relate to this?

It’s so common, Hypnotherapy can help. We can release some of that clutter, imaging having a valve that you can open at any time. We can change the past but we can change the way it affects us.

If you would like to know more about hypnotherapy contact me, and if I can’t help you I have a network of other therapists that can.

Asking for help is not a sign of weakness. It’s actually a sign of strength.

I look forward to hearing from you.

Until next week, or possibly the week after 

Have a great week or two.

Take care and stay safe.

Jon X

Hypnotherapy in Suffolk, Essex and Cambridge. and online via Zoom

Jon Adkin Author of ‘Can I Change?’ Available from Amazon. and 100 days in isolation. A collection of funny original images of one mans decent into comic madness during lockdown

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Here we go again.

So Boris has imposed new guidelines, Do you think it’s enough? As a therapist the uncertainty is certainly playing havoc with people’s emotions. The only good thing to come out of all this is that online Zoom sessions are proving to be as effective as one to one sessions. I will admit in the beginning I wasn’t as keen to do online sessions, I offered them but not with the same confidence as I have with One to One sessions. However, once I realised that this thing was here to stay for a lot longer. I knew I had to get onboard.

Getting ready for online.

I updated my software, I updated my webcam. and then most importantly I updated my skills. I contacted former clients, first of all to ask if they wanted to be my guinea pigs. and then I got to work with them. Without exception all of them went into trance and all of them felt a shift. That was a great start. Now those people had done trance work before with me and knew how I worked, so now I had to do some work with people who had never seen me before. I offered my online services, but at a reduced rate so that I could try my online techniques. I received the enquires and they were happy to give it a go.

Now one funny story that did happen was with my second client. She was siting at her desk in a very nice leather chair. and I started to notice as she became more and more relaxed he started to slide down the chair a little. Now her camera was set quite high so I did most of the trance session talking to her forehead. Another session there were some very weird noises in the background that become more apparent as the session went on. Turns out my guinea pig had his own guinea pigs but in his bedroom. but I learnt from both those sessions and it was a huge learning curve.

I set myself a target of 6 clients to work online with and as long as they were happy and experienced the required changes. I was happy to proceed. I ended up working with 8 clients purely because 2 people contacted me after the time frame that I had advertised and both cases sounded interesting.

All the clients were very happy with the results and I felt confident enough to offer online to any future clients.

A new era was about to start.

A new way of Working.

So is online as good as one to one? Easy answer YES! I have done a blog on this before but there are advantages for clients to have online sessions. Lets highlight some of them.

  • You stay in the comfort of your own home. Perhaps in your most comfortable chair or on your bed.
  • No travelling. It’s not always convenient for people to get to me, what with children or work commitments.
  • You may relax more being in your own surroundings.
  • For those people who feel they may not be in control. (you always are by the way.) being in your own home, may settle you more.
  • For me it also means I can extend my reach to include people that are not local.
  • If you are unable to get to me or for any reason feel uncomfortable in a one to one sessions. Then online sessions using Skype or Zoom may just be the answer you are looking for.
I’m Zooming.

By offering Online I can help people who don’t live close by or perhaps don’t like to travel, and in this period of uncertainty what with Covid, the less travel we do the better. If you want to know more email me at jadkin.bahyp@gmail.com or message me from my Facebook page at FB.me/adkin23

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And that’s it.

As long as your WIFI is not prone to dropping out then you will be good to go. Even if for any reason we lose connection, you will not be left in trance I promise you. Just find somewhere you can relax for an hour. Ideally with headphone and peace and quiet.

We will have a phone consultation first, make a date and time that suits you for the session. even if it’s late at night, once the kids are bed, that’s not a problem. The fee can be paid by BACs before the session. Once all that is in place, all you have to do is relax and let change happen.

I look forward to hearing from you.

Until next week, or possibly the week after 

Have a great week or two.

Take care and stay safe.

Jon X

Hypnotherapy in Suffolk, Essex and Cambridge. and online via Zoom

Jon Adkin Author of ‘Can I Change?’ Available from Amazon. and 100 days in isolation. A collection of funny original images of one mans decent into comic madness during lockdown

Find me on You TubeFacebook and Instagram.