So long May, Hello June

Hi.

Welcome to my weekly blog, and yes I’ve been good recently and been doing a weekly blog. So if you haven’y been keeping up, you have some catching up to do.

This week I want to talk about coming out of lockdown. What will it mean for you? I’m opening my hypnotherapy practice from Monday with new guidelines in place for the safety of my clients. I felt the time was right to open, because as we ease out of lockdown, there are a lot of people that are scared I want to help those people.

Have you learnt anything about yourself during this lockdown? I know I have. Is there anything that you are going to bring out of it that you like? Or are there somethings that you didn’t like that you want to leave behind?

Isolation has definitely put a strain on relationships, but that can be repaired before the damage is done. Perhaps you have been drinking or eating too much. Once again those patterns of behaviour can be stopped, before they become a habit.

I want to share with you some things not to do as lockdown is eased. As I am opening on Monday I have been doing a lot of research regarding do’s and don’ts for the safety of my clients. A lot of this is common sense but as we have all seen sometimes that doesn’t apply.

Don’t worry, just take care.

What NOT to do as lockdown restrictions are lifted.

A phased approach to lifting lockdown restrictions has already begun here in the UK and around the world, but that doesn’t mean the deadly coronavirus has gone away. In the UK, over 38,000 people have already died from the COVID-19 disease, and the numbers are growing. We know that life will look different when cities reopen as politicians attempt to restart the economy while trying to keep a second wave of coronavirus infections at bay.

As we count down the days until you can hug your friends, throw a party, file into a football stadium and board an airplane, just remember that even as some restrictions loosen, that there’s still much we don’t know about the long-term behavior of this particular coronavirus strain.

Don’t toss out those face masks

As shopping centres and nonessential businesses begin to open, look for more coronavirus-slowing policies to go into effect, not fewer. That means social distancing, and both employees and customers wearing face masks or other face coverings. There may be a lot of other rules, too, depending on where you live and what you’re doing.

Expect more sanitation stations with hand sanitizer and gloves, and a less personal experience wherever you go, like being entry if your temperature is too high or ordering at counters with plexiglass dividers between. Expect that some shopping and socialising experiences won’t go back to normal for some time.

Don’t go to the gym without a plan

Gyms and fitness centers are part of early phase reopening in some spots, but think before you grab your water bottle and lace up your shoes. You’ll have to decide if you think it’s safe to return so soon. Enclosed areas where people breathe the same recirculated air for long periods of time are especially high risk, and that’s what gyms are.

Even if you sanitize the same common equipment between use, gyms are ripe for exchanging germs. Severely limiting the number of people in the gym at a time — and how long they can work out — is one approach. Requiring gym-goers to exercise with a face mask or face covering of some sort is another, which could make breathing more difficult during intense workouts. It’ll be important to assess your personal risk, and risk to others.

Don’t throw a party or hit the bars (When they open)

Social distancing measures exist for a reason, and that’s to slow the spread of viral transmission from people who come into close contact. Hosting a party at home or crowding into a bar when they reopen will jam people together in a room, giving any lingering coronavirus on an asymptomatic host the prime opportunity to infect others, who then could pass it along.

Even if bars reopen in your area, as they are doing in some places around the world, they’ll likely do so with limited hours (e.g. closing at 11 p.m.), social distancing and limited capacity. It’s up to you to be judicious about protecting your health.

Don’t stop washing your hands

Of course you’ll continue to practice common hygiene, but remember that relaxed restrictions won’t necessarily mean that the coronavirus outbreak is over, even after a vaccine eventually arrives. There may be economic reasons for schools and businesses to reopen, while the virus continues to spread, albeit at slower rates than today.

Remember that the goal of stay at home orders and thorough handwashing is to keep hospitals from being overwhelmed with patients in critical condition and minimize your risk for acquiring life-threatening symptoms.

Hopefully, the good hand-washing habits you’ve acquired during this time will stick around, including longer, more thorough washing with hand soap, and more frequently after coming into contact with people and common surfaces.

Don’t immediately visit high-risk people

There’s nothing I’d rather do when quarantine ends than rush out and give the senior citizens and immunocompromised friends in my life a big, warm hug. But that might not be the best move for them. Quarantine measures are likely to loosen before the vaccine arrives that will help protect people most at risk if they do acquire COVID-19.

Though early vaccine testing is underway, an approved vaccine is still thought to be a year out, at the very least. That doesn’t necessarily mean you won’t see your loved ones for a full year.

Antibody testing is a promising method in development right now that could be able to tell you if you’ve already been exposed to the coronavirus. Unfortunately, we’re not at the stage where this test — which isn’t yet available — can confirm immunity.

For people who are in high-risk groups, keeping a healthy distance may still be the best way to keep them safe. That’s something you and your family will need to carefully evaluate.

There will plenty of time for holidays in the future.

Don’t plan a big international holiday

I’ve already started a mental list of every place in the world I want to visit once restrictions lift. However Like me, you’ll have to have a little patience.

While I expect that hotel and airfare prices will be enticingly cheap when nonessential travel is first deemed acceptable again, flying on a plane it isn’t likely to be a fun experience in many ways. Think: wearing masks the duration of the flight, very limited food and beverage service on long hauls and plenty of closed businesses at the airport terminals themselves. On the plus side, you’ll likely have more leg room (Not that I need it).

Intermingling is nearly impossible to avoid in airports and airplanes (though not because of the ventilation system, according to the WHO), which is one major reason flights have been canceled and international travel effectively banned in many countries.

The international movement of people contributed to the coronavirus reaching pandemic proportions so quickly, through person-to-person transmission like coughing and sneezing. If a recurrence were to happen, the last thing you want is the stress of finding yourself quarantined in an unfamiliar country, without a clear or quick way home.

Don’t get too comfortable


Not to be the bearer of bad news, but as a global society, we can’t say for certain what will happen next — if a sudden surge in new coronavirus cases will make it necessary to reinstitute quarantine measures, as has happened in Singapore and Hong Kong, or, worse, fears of a more contagious strain come to be.

The smart thing to do is remain cautiously optimistic about regaining your freedom to move, but remain realistic that we don’t know what the future holds.

Don’t let this control you. Take precautions of course but don’t overthink or worry unnecessarily.

Until next week.

Stay safe, stay healthy

Jon X

Hypnotherapy in Suffolk, Essex and Cambridge.

Jon Adkin Author of ‘Can I Change?’ Available from Amazon.

Find me on You TubeFacebook and Instagram.

How did you handle the lockdown?

Hi, Welcome to this weeks blog.

This week I want to look at how we handled the lock down differently and what was best for you. When this all started. a lot of people went crazy, stockpiling toilet rolls, soap (what were you using before this happened?) and pasta. It all got a little mad and very selfish. Then as the weeks went on many realised that there was no need to stockpile and a sense of normality started to return, but not for all.

Stupidity was still infecting people. families who didn’t think the rules applied to them, and because of their actions this lock down has most probably continued longer than it needed to, had we all obeyed the rules.

So how did you handle it? What have you been doing as a family or alone that has got you through this period? Is there anything that you will continue to do once the restrictions have been lifted?

What did I do? Well I work in a very serious business dealing each day with many different issues, but I made a decision to get through this with humour. I took off my professional head each day just for an hour or two and I posted funny pictures, jokes and videos. I wanted to make people smile. I didn’t want to remind them that things were tough, or that they were feeling anxious. I wanted to make them happy and just for a moment forget about what was happening outside.

A Smile lights up your face.

So why did I take this approach?

Many see smiling simply as an involuntary response to things that bring you joy or laughter. While this observation is certainly true, what most people overlook is that smiling can be just as much a voluntary response as a conscious and powerful choice.

Countless scientific studies have confirmed that a genuine smile is generally considered attractive to others around us. Other studies have shed light on how the act of smiling can elevate your mood and the mood of those around you. Still. others have found a strong link between good health, longevity, and smiling. Most importantly, studies have shown​ that just the act of smiling (making the physical facial shapes and movements), whether the result of real joy or an act, can have both short- and long-term benefits on people’s health and wellbeing.

Still not convinced? Here are the top 10 reasons you should make a conscious effort to smile every day.

Smiling Makes Us Attractive

We are naturally drawn to people who smile. There is a real physical attraction factor linked to the act of smiling.

Not surprisingly, more severe or negative facial expressions like frowns, scowls, and grimaces actually work in the opposite manner, effectively pushing people away. Instead, use the attraction power of your smile to draw people in.2

Smiling Relieves Stress

Stress can permeate our entire being, and can really show up in our faces. Smiling not only helps to prevent us from looking tired, worn down, and overwhelmed but can actually help reduce stress

Believe it or not, smiling can reduce stress even if you don’t feel like smiling or even know that you’re smiling! When you are stressed, take the time to put on a smile. You and those around you will reap the benefits.

You feel better when you smile.

Smiling Elevates Our Mood

Next time you are feeling down, try putting on a smile. There’s a good chance your mood will change for the better. Smiling can trick the body into helping you elevate your mood because the physical act of smiling actually activates neural messaging in your brain.

A simple smile can trigger the release of neural communication boosting neuropeptides as well as mood-boosting neurotransmitters like dopamine and serotonin. Think of smiling like a natural anti-depressant.

Smiling Is Contagious

How many smiles have been described as having the power to lighten up the room? While it is certainly a beautiful sentiment, it carries a hint of truth. Smiling not only has the power to elevate your mood, but it can also change the moods of others and make things happier.

The part of your brain that is responsible for your controlling the facial expression of smiling is an unconscious automatic response area. Meaning that smiling can be completely unconscious, particularly when it comes to our habit of mimicking another person’s smile. Yes, it is scientifically proven that smiles are “contagious!”

Smiling Boosts Your Immune System

Smiling can also boost your overall health. The act of smiling actually helps the human immune system to function more effectively. It is thought that when you smile, immune function improves because you are more relaxed (thanks to the release of certain neurotransmitters).

In addition to taking precautions like washing your hands, why not try to prevent the cold and flu by smiling?

A Smile can relieve stress.

Smiling Lowers Your Blood Pressure

When you smile, there is a measurable reduction in your blood pressure. Give it a try if you have a blood pressure monitor at home.

Sit for a few minutes, take a reading. Then smile for a minute and take another reading while still smiling. Do you notice a difference?

Smiling Makes Us Feel Good

Studies have shown that smiling releases endorphins, natural painkillers, and serotonin. Together these three neurotransmitters make us feel good from head to toe.

Not only do these natural chemicals elevate your mood, but they also relax your body and reduce physical pain. Smiling is a natural drug.

Smiling Makes You Look Younger

Not only can smiling make you more attractive it can also make you look more youthful. The muscles we use to smile also lift the face, making a person appear younger.

So instead of opting for a face lift, just try smiling your way through the day—you’ll look younger and feel better.

Say cheese

Smiling Makes You Seem Successful

Studies have shown that people who smile regularly appear more confident, are more likely to be promoted, and are more likely to be approached.

Try putting on a smile at meetings and business appointments. You might find that people react to you differently.

Smiling Helps You Stay Positive

Try this test: Smile. Now try to think of something negative without losing the smile. It’s hard, isn’t it?

Even when a smile feels unnatural or forced, it still sends the brain and ultimately the rest of our body the message that “Life is Good!” Stay away from depression, stress, and worry by smiling

Fake It Till You Make It


In other words, smiling can trick your brain into believing you’re happy which can then spur actual feelings of happiness. But it doesn’t end there. It has been shown “over and over again” that depression weakens your immune system, while happiness on the other hand has been shown to boost our body’s resistance.

What’s crazy is that just the physical act of smiling can make a difference in building your immunity. “When you smile, the brain sees the muscle [activity] and assumes that humor is happening.”

In a sense, the brain is a sucker for a grin. It doesn’t bother to sort out whether you’re smiling because you’re genuinely joyous, or because you’re just pretending.

Even forcing a fake smile can legitimately reduce stress and lower your heart rate, and there are plenty more studies out there to make you smile (or at least, serve as reference for why you should). Researchers at the University of Kansas published findings that smiling helps reduce the body’s response to stress and lower heart rate in tense situations; another study linked smiling to lower blood pressure, while yet another suggests that smiling leads to longevity

So that’s why I did what I did and am still doing. for the fuddy duddys that were saying I wasn’t being very professional. You are entitled to your opinion, but in my view I was helping people in the best way that I knew how.

If I have made you smile with one of my posts on Facebook or lifted your spirits even if only for a moment. Let me know.

Normal service will resume soon. In the meantime. keep smiling, stay safe and look after yourselces.

Until next week.

Best wishes

Jon X

Hypnotherapy in Suffolk, Essex and Cambridge.

Jon Adkin Author of ‘Can I Change?’ Available from Amazon.

Find me on You TubeFacebook and Instagram.

Is online therapy just as good?

Hi

welcome to this weeks blog, I was hoping to open my doors for one to one sessions this week but after the prime ministers announcement I found that sadly it still wasn’t safe to do one to one with my clients.

So the question is, are online sessions as good as one to one sessions? The answer to that is yes if you want them to be. Hypnotherapy can be a very powerful and helpful way to make you feel and think differently. However hypnotherapy will only work, if you want it to work. So really where you have it done or how you have it done doesn’t matter, as long as you are prepared to relax and follow instruction then online will work for you. It all starts with a call.

It could be the best call you ever make.

There can be some advantages to having a session online. Firstly some people feel more comfortable in their own home. They can choose perhaps their favourite chair or even their own bed to relax on. No travelling is involved, and at the moment I’m working up till 11:30 PM so that you can have your session once the children are in bed and you can relax more fully.

There are somethings that we have to take into account, firstly a reliable Internet connection, Secondly a quiet place, somewhere you can go for about an hour that you won’t be disturbed. Throughout the session I will need to see your face show the laptop or tablet needs to be positioned in a place that it won’t fall down or be knocked over at anytime during the session. For my sessions I have found a piece of software called zoom to be the most reliable, it’s a free piece of software and is easily downloaded. 

Zoom is a free download available here.

So what happens at a session?

As always we start with a pre talk, I explain what I will do, and how I would do it, and you can tell me anything that you think I might need to know regarding the issue that you’ve come to me for. However, as I have found out many times the issue isn’t always the issue. What do I mean by that, I mean, that if you came to me say with a weight problem, there may be an underlying problem as to why you gained the weight. Perhaps, you had a bad experience with a former partner and you ate to make yourself unattractive so that you wouldn’t get hurt again. Or perhaps you have no confidence or self esteem, but why, was you put down perhaps by an adult a sibling even a teacher, And their words stuck in your mind and over the years those words have dictated how you lived your life.

You may not even know why you feel the way you do, but your subconscious mind will know exactly why, And it’s those thoughts that I help you change.

One question people ask me before I do an online session is what happens if we do lose connection for whatever reason, will they stay in trance? And the answer to that is NO!. I put in a suggestion very early to say that if my voice isn’t heard for any length of time then my clients will just wake up naturally, feeling good.

Just before a zoom session.

HOW IT WORKS:

1. To arrange an online zoom session, please email me at jadkin.bahyp@gmail.com or book online at jadkinbahyp.youcanbook.me and include a contact number – I will then call you to arrange an online appointment at a time that suits you, between 9.00AM and 11.00PM

2. We will have a brief chat on the phone so I have a full understanding of your needs – this is free of charge. We will then arrange a time for your session; Payment is made by BACs transfer before the session.

3. During the session, we will be able to see each other – you can use a desktop, laptop, tablet, or even a mobile phone; Ideally if you have a set of headphones, that would be great as they help to block out any unwanted background noises.

4. You will need to sit in a comfortable chair and have a pillow or cushion handy to support your head;

5. Each session is tailored to your own specific needs.

I have been using online hypnotherapy since I went full time, mainly for clients who cannot make it to my practise room on a particular day for some reason, and I have found it to be very effective. I use either Zoom, WhatsApp or Skype, but we can discuss this during your free phone consultation.

During the current coronavirus outbreak it is invaluable to allow you to access treatment whilst maintaining social distancing or self-isolation. Giving you complete peace of mind.

I have a page on my website dedicated to online sessions.

So just to clarify the Benefits of Online Hypnotherapy

Online hypnotherapy also brings some bonus benefits in its own right.

Accessible

Provided a person can make the time difference work, anyone, anywhere in the world can now access hypnotherapy with me. All they need is a device that can run Zoom and some headphones if preferred to listen to my voice.

It has also opened my services up to clients with disabilities who cannot travel to a physical clinical location easily or indeed at all.

Comfortable & Relaxing

One paradoxical problem of in-person hypnotherapy is that, especially for people new to hypnosis, the process of attending is not necessarily a relaxing experience. Myths and misconceptions about hypnosis (and hypnotists!) can make the whole experience seem quite daunting and a bit scary.

Plus, the more professional and ‘clinical’ a practice becomes, the more likely it is to set off a bit of ‘white coat anxiety’ in even the calmest person.

By being able to engage in online hypnosis via 1-2-1 sessions from the comfort of your own home, the above is massively reduced if not eliminated completely.

There will always be new ways to evolve both the art and science of changing minds, but right now online hypnotherapy is one of the most exciting areas to be working in.

And as a special promotion during this lock-down period I am offering my Online sessions for just £65. A 20% saving off my normal price.

Hope to see you online soon.

So there you are. I hope that helps if you are thinking of asking for help but wanted more information. If I haven’t answered your specific question please message me or Contact me and I will be happy to answer.

Until next week, stay safe, stay healthy

Best wishes

Jon X

Hypnotherapy in Suffolk, Essex and Cambridge.

Jon Adkin Author of ‘Can I Change?’ Available from Amazon.

Find me on You TubeFacebook and Instagram.

Plan for the future

As much as it may feel like it, this will not last forever. So, what better way to feel less alone then to plan what you will do when isolation is finally over!  

Make a future fun list with all the places you would like to go when lockdown is lifted. Plan a trip for you and your family or friends, or make a bucket list of places that you would you like to go in your lifetime, it might seem silly it will help you focus on a time that is a little more enjoyable.

Connect with others

perhaps, the most important way to combat loneliness in self isolation he’s connecting with other people. However, instead of sending a text or jumping on Facebook why not send a postcard or a letter? Hello

you will have fun writing it, and you will brighten up someone’s day.

Do something meaningful

losing your sense of purpose can be a huge factor in feeling lonely. All of us wants to feel like we are doing something meaningful and that can be difficult whilst your having to stay at home.

only you know what will give you meaning, but if you are struggling for ideas why not volunteer through a local charity or group or perhaps start an online course.  

Get online

The Internet, when used correctly, to make you feel less lonely. There are so many amazing apps and communities available to help combat loneliness. Here are some suggestions.

Zoom or FaceTime friends and family, you could have a quiz night or dinner date. The possibilities are endless. Join a forum or Facebook group of a hobby that you love, Or join quarantine chat, a service specifically set up to help people connect doing lockdown.

I Got online and offer online sessions

Want some more ideas, how to pass the time in lockdown? How about some of these.

Tour ancient Rome

You may feel cut off from the rest of the world, but you can time travel. 

Current technology means that you can explore other cities and even other times online, such as this virtual tour of ancient Rome which takes you through the forum, capitoline hill, and famous monuments.

Enjoy the Musée d’Orsay

Experiencing these venues from your home does mean that you can visit multiple galleries from different countries or even different continents in the same afternoon. 

Paris’ Musée d’Orsay is home to an incredible collection of Van Gogh and Cezanne’s artistic masterpieces. Take a look around online. 

 Pop into the Tate

Perhaps once you’ve enjoyed Florence, New York, and Paris, you can come to London to see the Tate Britain for free. 

Although you’ll miss out on the lovely river walk to the gallery, you can drop in at any time and see your favourite pieces from the comfort of your own home.  

Experience the British Museum

The British Museum is home to incredible artefacts from around the world and is still open to virtual visitors. 

Exhibits that are usually packed are free to roam around at any time, so you can brush up on your Egyptian knowledge, see the controversial Parthenon Marbles, or just wile away a few hours. 

Go to 500 other museums or galleries 

If you’re still looking for more galleries or museums to visit, Google’s arts and culture collection has virtual tours of 500 top attractions around the world, including national galleries from around the world, individual artist museums, and even the Eiffel Tower.

Throwback.

Have a karaoke night 

Missing karaoke night with your friends? You can still do it from home. 

Apps like AirConsole let you turn your smartphone into a mic, and sing your favourite hits with the usual gang and practice new songs to sing at the bar once lockdown is lifted. 

Try a fitness challenge

Missing the gym? There are plenty of fitness challenges you can try out from home, so you can emerge from lockdown fitter, leaner, or stronger. 

You could try the 100 pushup challengesquat challenge, or just doing a 30-day bodyweight workout challenge to stay healthy at home for free. 

Just make sure that you don’t push too hard early on, and warm up thoroughly before you do any exercise. 

Arrange a Houseparty 

If you still want to meet with your friends – do it at a virtual Houseparty

The app allows for large group video chats so you can get together for a drink, a chat, or just to see some friendly faces for a couple of hours. 

Play a board game

Board game lovers will be pleased to know that there are ways to play your favourite games online, so you don’t have to wait for the lockdown to end to try out your new Scythe strategy or to finally play Terraforming Mars with a friend. 

Websites like Tabletopia have free accounts for players, but you may need to pay to play some of the more popular or newer games. 

Learn a language

Always wanted to speak Italian? Intrigued by Norwegian? Think that Mandarin will be useful for work, or perhaps German

Lockdown gives you plenty of time to dedicate to learning a new language, brushing up on vocabulary, and testing out pronunciation.

Go to the aquarium

It’s almost impossible to recreate the strange grace and tranquility of aquariums but not entirely.

Although they’re closed to the public, Monterey Bay Aquarium have added a number of live cams to let you keep an eye on the jellyfish, kelp forest, coral reef, and even the penguins, completely free. 

Deep clean your house

Between dusty skirting boards, dirty tiling, and stained carpets, your home can offer days of distraction if you feel like doing that deep clean you’ve been putting off. 

There are plenty of online cleaning guides if the task looks too big, and focusing on one room at a time will help you divide up the work. 

Declutter your home

Being stuck at home can make you rethink how much of your stuff you really need. 

Do you really wear all the clothes spilling out of your wardrobe? And do you think you’ll really re-read those GCSE essays sitting in a box upstairs? You can decide what to donate and what to throw out, ready for a full clear out when the lockdown is lifted. 

Volunteer 

Sometimes the best way to get out of your head is to help other people. You may have some local groups that are focused on helping the vulnerable or isolated during lockdown. 

Learn first aid

It’s good to be prepared for an emergency, especially when urgent care centres are overwhelmed or you may not want to leave self-isolation for a relatively minor injury. 

You can learn basic first aid online, for free with FutureLearn. 

Another throw Back

Discover your roots

Wonder where your family was in the flu pandemic of 1918? 

Tracing your family tree can unearth lost memories or even distant relatives. Start by learning about genealogy and you can discover more about yourself and your background. 

Have a kitchen dance party

You can definitely have too much screen time. If workouts aren’t your thing or you just miss a good dance, put together a list of your favourite songs and dance around your kitchen. 

Don’t worry, nobody’s watching! 

I hope that has given you some ideas. We maybe on the home stretch now but even after lockdown is lifted, there is no reason why you can’t carry on any of these activities that you have enjoyed.

Until next week.

Stay safe, stay healthy.

Jon X

Hypnotherapy in Suffolk, Essex and Cambridge.

Jon Adkin Author of ‘Can I Change?’ Available from Amazon.

Find me on You TubeFacebook and Instagram.

Just checking in

Hi. A different type of blog today. I’ve noticed that the lock down is starting to take it’s toll on some people. So today I want to offer you a weekly mental health check in.

Feelings.

Set an alarm on your phone, or a reminder in your calendar, so at a set time each week you can quickly do a check in on a scale from 0(‘not at all’) to 10 (‘extremely’) of how stressed, anxious or down you are feeling.

Body

Take a moment to notice any tension in your body like tight shoulders, chest or jaws. Other signs that you might be feeling stressed include dryness of the mouth, difficulty breathing, and a racing heart.

Sleep

If you are constantly struggling to get to sleep, waking in the night,waking earlier than usual and/or finding it difficult to get back to sleep, these are signs your mind is unable to switch off and relax.

Thoughts

Are you worrying about the worst-case scenarios? Focusing on the ‘what-if’ scenarios is not useful and is best to try to limit this as much as possibe.

Reactions and behaviour

If you find yourself frequently snapping at those you love, finding it extremely difficult to focus, or always depending on things like alcohol or food to cope. It is time to prioritise your mental wellbeing.

Check in buddy

Choose a check in buddy. This may be your partner, housemate or even a friend or colleague you’re keeping in touch with via social media or face time etc. Be honest with yourself and with them about how you are coping.

I sadly can’t see you one to one at the moment but I am offering Online sessions if you need that little bit of extra help.

Be kind to others.

How we can cope with lock down.

We are social animals, So how will we stop getting lonely and crazy as we distance ourselves socially and self-isolate? Well, our first motto should be: “Don’t waste a crisis!” If we are imaginative, we will find silver linings in these very dark clouds. We can experiment with new ways of living. These won’t just help us cope with the emergency. they actually can help us to enjoy it.

Virtual coffees, lunches and dinners

Using face time or What’s app create a group and have a coffee morning. Have a good old chat, moan and more importantly a laugh.

Sing and dance

The Italians are keeping their spirits up by singing from their balconies. But they don’t have a monopoly on bel canto. or how about remote dancing. Friends in Italy are already using an app called House Party to have virtual parties. let’s use the technology for good.

On yer bike

Public transport isn’t safe. So for short distances, why not walk? And for middling distances,as part of your daily exercise, why not bike? It’s also a good way to keep fit.

Virtual gyms

So many personal trainers are offering work outs for all ages and all fitness levels. Find one that suits you and make it a routine.

Enjoy some happy memories

Time to reflect

Most people’s lives are dictated by routines: take the kids to school, rush to work, endless emails, get home, crash. The rat race isn’t great. But sitting around home twiddling our thumbs won’t be much fun either. So we need new routines.

Every morning, I have started to say out loud 5 things I am grateful for. Every evening I do the same and think why they are meaningful. These habits provide bookends to my day and help me make the most of what happens in between. I’ve also used my music streaming service and I’m listening to all the albums that made a mark on my life. (boy, some of them are crap when you re-listen), but that is what makes it a great thing to do.

Deepen our friendships

Much of the time, we’re too busy to think deeply about our friends and family. But now we’ll have more time. We can use some of it to think about what our loved ones really need and then help them get it… remotely. this time also shows who the true friends are. The ones who check in on you, the ones who make you smile. The ones who care.

Enjoy a good book

Virtual book groups

People will also have time to read. But that can be a lonely activity – and we get more intellectual stimulation if we share our ideas with others. How about when you finish a book, type out your thoughts and send them to friends to provoke discussion. Why not go further and organise virtual book groups?

Connect with far-away friends

Just because you’re not in the same room doesn’t mean you can’t have a deep friendship. Indeed, the virus offers an opportunity to connect with those who live far away. After all, if you are distancing yourself physically from others, it doesn’t matter whether they are in London, Cayman or Milan. The more we reach across the world and show we care for one another, the more we’ll help defeat that other terrible virus: nationalism.

Other people will have different ideas about how to make the most of this virus crisis. We can all experience the pleasure of inventing and experimenting with new ways of living.

Until next week. Stay safe, stay healthy.

Best wishes

Jon X

Hypnotherapy in Suffolk, Essex and Cambridge.

Jon Adkin Author of ‘Can I Change?’ Available from Amazon.

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