It’s that time of year again.

Audio Version of this months blog.

Have you noticed that your child or children have gone a bit quiet recently? Don’t blame it on the lousy weather, or their age. Look at the date. In a few short weeks they will be returning to school. Some will be changing schools some will just be moving up. However whatever they face, it can be very scary for them.

Do you remember how you felt all those years ago? Perhaps there was a school bully who has been out of your mind during the Summer break. or perhaps just the thought of a BIG new school with so many new faces is a scary thought. Whatever the reason, this can be a very anxious time for our children.

Remove that anxiety from returning to school

Don’t ignore their silence, Speak to them, ask them questions. Show them that you care and want to help. Many children are of a mindset that asking for help is a weakness. They couldn’t be more wrong. Asking for help takes such strength.

What can you as a parent or a guardian do to help? First thing is to notice any changes in their body language, in their manner. They may become more withdrawn, or even almost become invisible. Give them words of encouragement.

Words of encouragement when your child is struggling

  • All you can do is try your best.
  • I am so glad you asked for help when you needed it.
  • Trust your instincts.
  • I believe in you.
  • Nobody is perfect, and that is ok.
  • You can learn from your mistakes.
  • Your perseverance will help you succeed.
  • Believe in yourself, you can do it.

They say education is the key for success. Students therefore need to have a purpose to succeed in their studies. There is always a challenge to produce brilliant results. Words of encouragement are important to remind students that hard work never goes unrewarded. Parents, teachers and fellow students can spread this Words of Encouragement to give students hope for better days. It is important to note that students have different abilities. Producing good results is a teamwork effort. Teachers have to take the responsibility of encouraging weak students to continue working hard. Encouragement gives hope, hence a positive attitude to success.

What phrases do you say each day to your kids? Which ones do you want them to remember?

In the years since my parents passed, I am still inspired to notice the good things in life when I remember the way they would pause at those good moments and say, “This, now, this is good.” To this day I can hear my mother encouraging me when I try new things. Her voice of confidence from my childhood continues to give me confidence now.

Many years after my dad died, I can still hear him, when I get too serious saying, “Lighten up,” In moments of complete self-doubt and embarrassment, I still bolster myself by thinking of him singing, smiling and being there.

All of these words of encouragement from my parents and grandparents have stayed with me. Certainly, words can become meaningless when they aren’t followed with action, but nonetheless, words have great power. You can choose to add more positive ones to your days.

Below is a list of encouraging phrases to say to children. Choose which work for you. What can you see or hear yourself saying. It has to come across genuine and not just something you read once on a sign on a random wall.

  1. You are loved
  2. You make me smile
  3. I think about you when we’re apart
  4. My world is better with you in it
  5. I will do my best to keep you safe
  6. Sometimes I will say no
  7. I have faith in you
  8. I know you can handle it
  9. You are creative
  10. Trust your instincts
  11. Your ideas are worthwhile
  12. You are capable
  13. You are deserving
  14. You are strong
  15. You can say no
  16. Your choices matter
  17. You make a difference
  18. Your words are powerful
  19. Your actions are powerful
  20. Your emotions may be powerful
  21. And you can still choose your actions
  22. You are more than your emotions
  23. You are a good friend
  24. You are kind
  25. You don’t have to like what someone is saying in order to treat them with respect
  26. Someone else’s poor behavior is not an excuse for your own
  27. You are imperfect
  28. So am I
  29. You can change your mind
  30. You can learn from your mistakes
  31. You can ask for help
  32. You are learning
  33. You are growing
  34. Growing is hard work
  35. I believe you
  36. I believe in you
  37. You are valuable
  38. You are interesting
  39. You are beautiful
  40. When you make a mistake, you are still beautiful
  41. Your body is your own
  42. You have say over your body
  43. You are important
  44. Your ideas matter
  45. You are able to do work that matters
  46. I see you working and learning every day
  47. You make a difference in my life
  48. I am curious what you think
  49. How did you do that?
  50. Your ideas are interesting
  51. You’ve made me think of things in a completely new way
  52. I’m excited to see what you do
  53. Thanks for helping me
  54. Thank you for contributing to our family
  55. I enjoy your company
  56. It’s fun to do things with you
  57. I’m glad you’re here
  58. I’m happy to talk with you
  59. I’m ready to listen
  60. I’m listening
  61. I’m proud of you
  62. I’m grateful you’re in my life
  63. You make me smile
  64. I love you

I didn’t do this nearly enough with my own children and for that I feel bad, but if I can help others now and take away the anxiety, the fear, the desire to hurt themselves. Then it will be worth it.

Moving Up Moving On From Jon Adkin

I also run sessions for children at this time of year. Moving Up Moving On is in its 4th year now and I work with the children and sometimes the parents to ease that transition. If you would like to know more please drop me an email or a message and I would be happy to tell you more.

Until next month.

I wish you every happiness.

Jon

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Do you have a negative memory that dictates your life?

Would you like to listen instead of reading? No problem.

Hi, welcome to July’s blog. this month I want to talk about releasing negative memories. The reason I want to talk to you about this is because, Yes, here comes the plug…

NMR from Jon

This month I have launched NMR Negative Memory Release. A protocol that combines Hypnotherapy, IEMT and NLP all of which I am a practitioner in. For a while now I have been looking for a niche. Something that will make me the go to guy for. So, I have used the time throughout the pandemic to look over all my case notes and see where the most impact was made. I contacted former clients to see how they were doing and to see if after the sessions, the suggestions were still working for them. I will be honest their were a couple of smokers that fell off the wagon due to being stuck at home with nothing to do. Well, that was their excuse, but me being me I’ve invited them back. However for my niche I wanted to put something together that used all the skills that I have learnt and offer a quick yet permanent way of helping clients. So, after months of trials, a bit of tweaking and perfecting, I felt ready to launch NMR.


So what is NMR?

Well In a nutshell. Here is the less sciency version. When we think of an event or a happening in our lives, our mind in a millisecond grabs all the parts of that memory, The sounds, the colours, the textures, the smells and forms a picture puzzle. When it offers you that picture an emotion forms from that memory. Now. without the full picture the emotion won’t form. The mind has distanced itself from the memory. It’s now nothing more than like seeing it as an old photograph. something that happened, but not to you. By using a combination of IEMT (IEMT Integrated Eye Movement Therapy) Hypnotherapy, and NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) I can break up that picture by removing elements of the puzzle.
If you want a more in depth description please visit my NMR website by clicking here.

Why would you need Negative Memory Release?


Throughout our lives we accumulate memories we’d rather forget. For people who’ve experienced a serious trauma, such as combat experience, domestic violence, or childhood abuse, these memories can be more than unwelcome — they can be debilitating. Fears and phobias often start from old memories. Sometimes you don’t even know that you are holding on to these memories and the attached emotions. Grief, Hate, even pain. You’re holding on to them long after they are any use to you.

Identify your triggers


Memories are cue-dependent, which means they require a trigger. Your bad memory isn’t constantly in your head; something in your present environment reminds you of your bad experience and triggers the recall process.
Identifying your most common triggers can help you take control of them. When you consciously recognize a trigger, you can practice suppressing the negative association. The more often you suppress this association, the easier it will become, thereby breaking the link between the trigger and the negative memory.
Some memories have only a few triggers, like particular smells or images, whereas others have so many that they are hard to avoid. For example, someone with a combat-related trauma might be triggered by loud noises, the smell of smoke, closed doors, particular songs, items on the side of the road, and so on.
If you have a repressed childhood memory, you may find yourself feeling triggered or having strong emotional reactions to people who remind you of previous negative experiences.
Significant events in life tend to linger in your memory. Some might spark happiness when you recall them. Others might involve less pleasant emotions.
You might make a conscious effort to avoid thinking about these memories. Repressed memories, on the other hand, are those you unconsciously forget. These memories generally involve some kind of trauma or a deeply distressing event. When your brain registers something too distressing, “it drops the memory into a ‘nonconscious’ zone, a realm of the mind you don’t think about.”
Scientists are just beginning to understand the complex process of memory. But there’s still a lot they don’t understand, including why some people develop post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and others do not.


The bottom line


Memories of pain and trauma are difficult to forget, but there are ways to manage them. Although research is progressing quickly, there are no drugs available yet that can erase particular memories. With NMR however, you can find a way to prevent bad memories from continuously popping into your head. You can also work to remove the emotional element of those memories, making them much easier to tolerate.
NMR can help you achieve this. And the best news. It can usually do it in just two sessions. (3 or 4 if really deep rooted) I know that’s a bold claim but it’s true. I have the clients to prove it.
During my trials I worked with Police, Military, NHS front line workers and of course Mums and Dads from all walks of life. Together we broke up the puzzle and without the full picture the emotion can’t return.
This is my niche. I will of course still offer hypnotherapy as a stand alone solution but as I move forward NMR for me is my go to session that will help many many people overcome their issues.
Please feel free to contact me if you would like to know more.
I wish you all the very best for July and I will see you next month.

Best Wishes

Jon

Jon Adkin BAHyp Negative Memory Specialist is a Clinical Hypnotherapist, NLP and IEMT Practitioner.

Jon Adkin Author of ‘Can I Change?’ Available from Amazon. and 100 days in isolation. A collection of funny original images of one mans decent into comic madness during lockdown

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What do we want. Confidence. When do we want it? NOW!

We all need confidence and self-belief. If we don’t believe in ourselves how do we expect others to believe in us. When I speak of confidence, I am not talking about blind arrogance. Those that are overly confident fall into yet another category. There is a fine line between those two.

However, I am referring to the self-confidence needed to believe in one’s own skills, goals, and ability to succeed. When you believe in yourself you are more likely to take action. To stand up and seize the moment. And to persevere long after those who doubt themselves.

Here are 10 Reasons That Self-Confidence Leads to Success:

  • The Drive to Start Things – Confident people start things. They are not shy about striking out on a new idea even when those around them are still pondering it.
  • The Ability to Stand Up for Oneself – Confidence allows you to stand up for yourself in a fair and consistent manner. Otherwise, you may find yourself unheard or unfairly treated.
  • The Ability to Say No – Confident people have the ability to say “No” where appropriate. They do not take on unnecessary or inappropriate work or obligations.
  • The Ability to Say Yes – And at the same time, confident individuals say “Yes” to opportunity. They do not miss new options because they are shy. I have seen individuals’ pass up opportunities (even promotions) because they didn’t think they were “worthy.”
  • Confidence Overcomes Fear – Lack of confidence can lead to paralysis from fear. Fear of failure. Fear of what others think. Fear of the unknown. To succeed, you need the confidence to face and overcome your fears.
  • Believe In Themselves – Self-confidence means believing in yourself. Henry Ford said, “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t — you’re right.” He was right.
  • Set the Bar High Enough – Confident individuals set the bar high and aim high. Lack of confidence leads to weak goals, setting the bar too low, and mediocre results.
  • Stretch Your Limits – Confidence lets you know your limits and test them. By stretching your limits you increase them. You are stronger than you think.
  • Confidence Asks Questions – Confidence allows you to ask questions, even when others are silent. Confidence even lets you “ask for the job.”
  • Believe In Winning – Confident people believe in success. And more importantly, they believe in their ability to succeed.

Why Confidence Matters

Confidence helps us feel ready for life’s experiences. When we’re confident, we’re more likely to move forward with people and opportunities — not back away from them. And if things don’t work out at first, confidence helps us try again. It’s the opposite when confidence is low.

We have it all inside of us. It just gets buried. Or covered up, so we have to unearth it. Or peel back those layers. Just like an onion.

Confidence is a belief in the ability of yourself in certain aspects of life. It can involve either confidence in your appearance, talents, or achievements. Self-confidence is the belief in “self” that transcends all that you do and shows others that you know you can accomplish whatever the task is at hand.

In this blog, I will look at some of the different aspects of self-confidence and focus on why we need the confidence to be successful in life.

Why Do We Need Confidence?

Having confidence and avoiding self-sabotage is essential for several reasons. One reason is that it convinces others that we know what we are doing. People tend to trust people that they think exude confidence in themselves more than people who lack this sense of confidence. By illustrating to others that you can do the job or satisfy their request, you will be able to be more successful with your goals and business interests.

When it comes to social situations, self-confidence draws more people to you by promoting a sense of self-worth. People tend to be attracted to people who have confidence in themselves and studies prove that it even makes them seem more attractive.

Also, having self-confidence gives your mind positive self-talk about what you can do, as well. By practicing confidence on a regular basis, you will start to believe it is right and you will react with a more positive attitude to everything you do. This situation can lead to a stronger sense of achievement, even at times when you are not achieving as highly as you would like to do.

Believe in yourself.

Why Self-Belief Is More Important Than You Think

Self-Belief is linked to almost every element involved in a happy life. Self-Belief is linked to almost every element involved in a happy and fulfilling life. I highlight five key rewards of self-Belief below. Understanding these benefits is an important first step toward living your best life with confidence.

Less Fear and Anxiety

The more confident you become, the more you’ll be able to calm the voice inside you that says, “I can’t do it.” You’ll be able to unhook from your thoughts and take action in line with your values. If you’ve suffered from low self-confidence, you’re probably familiar with rumination, or the tendency to mull over worries and perceived mistakes, replaying them ad nauseam. Excessive rumination is linked to both anxiety and depression, and it can make us withdraw from the world. But by filling up your tank with confidence, you’ll be able to break the cycle of over-thinking and quiet your inner critic.

Greater Motivation 

Building confidence means taking small steps that leave a lasting sense of accomplishment. If you’ve ever learned a language, mastered a skill, reached a fitness goal, or otherwise overcome setbacks to get to where you wanted to be, you’re well on your way.

You might be thinking, “Well, sure, I was proud of my ‘A’ in Maths back in high school, but what does that have to do with anything now?” If you think back to a key accomplishment in your life, you’ll likely find that it took a lot of perseverance. If you could triumph through adversity then, you can do it in other areas of your life where you feel self-doubt.

As your confidence grows, you’ll find yourself more driven to stretch your abilities. “What-if” thoughts will still arise: “What if I fail?” “What if I embarrass myself?” But with self-assurance, those thoughts will no longer be paralyzing. Instead, you’ll be able to grin and act anyway, feeling energized by your progress in pursuing goals that mean something to you.

Yes you can

More Resilience

Confidence gives you the skills and coping methods to handle setbacks and failure. Self-Belief doesn’t mean you won’t sometimes fail. But you’ll know you can handle challenges and not be crippled by them. Even when things don’t turn out anywhere close to what you planned, you’ll be able to avoid beating yourself up. As you keep pushing yourself to try new things, you’ll start to truly understand how failure and mistakes lead to growth. An acceptance that failure is part of life will start to take root. Paradoxically, by being more willing to fail, you’ll actually succeed more — because you’re not waiting for everything to be 100 percent perfect before you act. Taking more shots will mean making more of them.

Improved Relationships

It might seem counterintuitive, but when you have more self-confidence and self-worth, you’re less focused on yourself. We’ve all been guilty of walking into a room and thinking, “They’re all looking at me. They all think I look dumpy and that every word I say is stupid.” The truth is, people are wrapped up in their own thoughts and worries. When you get out of your own head, you’ll be able to genuinely engage with others. You’ll enjoy your interactions more because you won’t be so worried about the kind of impression you’re making, and you won’t be comparing yourself to others. Your relaxed state will put others at ease as well, helping you forge deeper connections.

Self-belief can also breed deeper empathy. When you’re fully present, you’re more likely to notice that your date seems to be a little down, or that a friend in the corner looks like she needs a shoulder to cry on. When you’re not preoccupied with your own self-doubt, you can be the person who reaches out to help others.

Stronger Sense of Your Authentic Self

Finally, confidence roots you in who you really are. You’ll be able to accept your weaknesses, knowing they don’t change your self-worth. You’ll also be able to celebrate your strengths and use them more fully.

Your actions will be in line with your principles, giving you a greater sense of purpose. You’ll know who you are and what you stand for. You’ll have the skills to show up, stand up, and speak up. In other words, you’ll be able to let your best self shine through.

A Few Action Steps

Write down a favourite confidence quote and put it somewhere you’ll see it often. I do this all the time.

Do you have a photograph of a time you felt confident and successful? It could be a graduation photo, a picture of you as a kid after you learned to ride a bike or anything else that resonates with you. Hang it on your fridge or bathroom mirror, and reflect on all the steps it took to get to that point.

If you still need help. I offer packages for both men and women to bring out that confidence. Visit. www.jonadkin.com/packages to find out more.

Want to know more? Contact me or a hypnotherapist near you. Don’t let a fear or phobia control your life.

Until next time.
Stay safe. Stay happy.

Jon X

Hypnotherapy in Suffolk, Essex and Cambridge. and online via Zoom

Jon Adkin Author of ‘Can I Change?’ Available from Amazon. and 100 days in isolation. A collection of funny original images of one mans decent into comic madness during lockdown

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I’m a Hypnotherapist. GET ME IN THERE!

It happens each year at this time. I’m a celebrity get me out of here comes on and my phone starts to ring. People’s fear and phobias raise their head. Spiders, bugs. Etc etc.

Don’t let fear control you.

So why does this happen? Fear is one of the most powerful emotions. It has a very strong effect on your mind and body. Fear can create strong signals of response when we’re in emergencies – for instance, if we are caught in a fire or are being attacked. It can also take effect when you’re faced with non-dangerous events, like exams, public speaking, a new job, a date, or even a party. It’s a natural response to a threat that can be either perceived or real.

Anxiety is a word we use for some types of fear that are usually to do with the thought of a threat or something going wrong in the future, rather than right now. Fear and anxiety can last for a short time and then pass, but they can also last much longer and you can get stuck with them. In some cases they can take over your life, affecting your ability to eat, sleep, concentrate, travel, enjoy life, or even leave the house or go to work or school. This can hold you back from doing things you want or need to do, and it also affects your health. Some people become overwhelmed by fear and want to avoid situations that might make them frightened or anxious. It can be hard to break this cycle, but there are lots of ways to do it. You can learn to feel less fearful and to cope with fear so that it doesn’t stop you from living.

What makes you afraid?

Lots of things make us feel afraid. Being afraid of some things – like fires – can keep you safe. Fearing failure can make you try to do well so that you won’t fail, but it can also stop you doing well if the feeling is too strong. What you’re afraid of and how you act when you’re afraid of something can vary per person. Just knowing what makes you afraid and why can be the first step to sorting out problems with fear.

What makes you anxious?

Because anxiety is a type of fear, the things I’ve described about fear above are also true for anxiety. The word ‘anxiety’ tends to be used to describe worry, or when fear is nagging and persists over time. It is used when the fear is about something in the future rather than what is happening right now. Anxiety is a word often used by health professionals when they’re describing persistent fear. The ways that you feel when you’re frightened and anxious are very similar, as the basic emotion is the same.

Question Yourself
Why do I feel like this when I’m not in any real danger?

Early humans needed the fast, powerful responses that fear causes, as they were often in situations of physical danger; however, we no longer face the same threats in modern-day living. Despite this, our minds and bodies still work in the same way as our early ancestors, and we have the same reactions to our modern worries about bills, travel and social situations. But we can’t run away from or physically attack these problems!

The physical feelings of fear can be scary in themselves – especially if you are experiencing them and you don’t know why, or if they seem out of proportion to the situation. Instead of alerting you to a danger and preparing you to respond to it, your fear or anxiety can kick in for any perceived threat, which could be imaginary or minor.

Why won’t my fear go away and leave me feeling normal again?

Fear may be a one-off feeling when you are faced with something unfamiliar, but it can also be an everyday, long-lasting problem – even if you can’t put your finger on why. Some people feel a constant sense of anxiety all the time, without any particular trigger. There are plenty of triggers for fear in everyday life, and you can’t always work out exactly why you are frightened or how likely you are to be harmed. Even if you can see how out of proportion a fear is, the emotional part of your brain keeps sending danger signals to your body.

What is a panic attack?

A panic attack is when you feel overwhelmed by the physical and mental feelings of fear – the signs listed under ‘What do fear and anxiety feel like?’ People who have panic attacks say that they find it hard to breathe, and they may worry that they’re having a heart attack or are going to lose control of their body.

What is a phobia?

A phobia is an extreme fear of a particular animal, thing, place or situation. People with phobias have an overwhelming need to avoid any contact with the specific cause of the anxiety or fear. The thought of coming into contact with the cause of the phobia makes you anxious or panicky.

You will know.
How do I know if I need help?

Fear and anxiety can affect all of us every now and then. It is only when it is severe and long-lasting that doctors class it as a mental health problem. If you feel anxious all the time for several weeks, or if it feels like your fears are taking over your life, then it’s a good idea to ask for help. The same is true if a phobia is causing problems in your daily life, or if you are experiencing panic attacks.


Hypnotherapy is great for dealing with fears and phobias. The aim of hypnotherapy is to communicate with the subconscious and change the way you feel and behave towards your phobia. The process itself involves putting you into a very relaxed, hypnotic state. Your hypnotherapist will talk you through this and you’ll be in control the whole time.
Many phobias exist in our subconscious and are learned responses. This makes them particularly vulnerable to hypnotherapy. Hypnotherapy can help you unlearn the fear response, build up your exposure to the phobia and in time ease the associated anxiety.

Want to know more? Contact me or a hypnotherapist near you. Don’t let a fear or phobia control your life.

Until next time.
Stay safe. Stay happy.

Jon X

Hypnotherapy in Suffolk, Essex and Cambridge. and online via Zoom

Jon Adkin Author of ‘Can I Change?’ Available from Amazon. and 100 days in isolation. A collection of funny original images of one mans decent into comic madness during lockdown

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Lockdown 2 Survival tips

So lockdown 2 has begun. Or Jamanji level 11 2020 As I like to call it.

We have survived it once we can survive it again but this time with an added strength because we know that we can do it.
Since it was announced I was looking for clarification as to whether I would be able to stay open and offer support to those that are anxious about lockdown, I was going to offer online sessions anyway but I do have a lot of clients where they prefer face to face rather than online. I understand that. I also understand how this new lockdown could be a tipping point for many. It’s colder, so we are not so quick to go out and do our daily walk. The days are so much shorter, and that means that you sit down and overthink so much more. So the lockdown take a different shape this time around.

I’m Open


Anyway I was given the all clear to stay open with guidelines of course, but at least people will know that there is help out their for them if not from me, from one of my very capable friends. So don’t let this lockdown get into your head. You are in control of your thoughts so keep them positive ones.


I’ve put together tips to survive this lockdown below. Some are mine, some are ones that I thought were great suggestions from various websites. As long as they help you I’m happy.

  • Keep to a routine – everyone is in unfamiliar territory with the current pandemic, so
    keeping some normality and routine is vital. Try to get up and go to bed at your normal time.
    Getting enough sleep, eating regularly and keeping hydrated will help optimise your health to
    fight the bugs off. Children can be particularly sensitive to upheaval, so try and make their day
    structured with set ground rules/boundaries, and stick to them.
  • Variety is the spice of life – A variety of activities will help stave off any boredom, you
    don’t have to just resort to box-sets and daytime TV. Gardening is a great activity, and fun to
    do with kids. Giving it a good old clean up at this time of year is ideal and if the kids are helping all our creepy crawly friends are out in force. You don’t even have to have a garden, as many things can be grown easily on a window sill. Local garden centres are also offering free home delivery. Reading a book or keeping your mind active with puzzles/quizzes/crosswords etc. are easy activities to get
    started with, and there are loads of activities available online, for adults and kids, that have
    been made free during the lockdown. Why not try to learn a new language, a musical instrument
    or broaden your horizons with a free opera broadcast?
  • Regular Exercise & fresh air – exercise is often the first thing to go out of the window
    when our daily routine is disrupted. Exercise not only keeps us physically well, but is also a great
    way to de-stress and protect our mental health. It doesn’t have to be anything fancy, if you are
    stuck indoors there are lots of HIIT (high intensity interval training) sessions you can do
    quickly, or do something simple like walking up and down the stairs a few times. Anything is
    better than nothing. If you can get outside even better, 30 minutes of a brisk walk/run/bike is
    plenty (maintaining your social distancing!).
    If you are lucky enough to have your own garden or outside space make the most of it if the weather is nice. If you don’t, or if you struggle to get out, then open the window and let some fresh air in.
    If it’s a clear night why not go out for a walk in the evening and do a bit of stargazing?
Don’t start snacking
  • Healthy eating – like exercise, when our routine is disrupted or we get stressed, eating
    habits can go to pot. Try and eat regular meals. Avoid too much snacking, or if you do, try to
    choose healthy snacks like nuts or fruit. Use it as an opportunity to get adventurous with
    cooking, and learn some new culinary skills. If you have kids at home, baking or cooking is a fun
    activity to do together and educational for them too. There are loads of recipes ideas online if
    you need them.
  • Limit social media & news feeds – it’s great to stay informed, but getting obsessive and
    tuning in all the time can be detrimental. If you are finding your anxiety ramping up, try to stay
    away and limit access to once a day. Also make sure you get your info from reputable sources,
    have a healthy scepticism of anything you read online or on social media. If you are not sure,
    look on official websites (NHS, Gov.uk) or ask your friendly GP (practice website or e-consult if
    available).
  • Help neighbours – elderly, unwell, or immobile neighbours are going to be at greater risk
    during this period. If you have time why not give them a call to check on how they are doing,
    and if you are doing an essential shopping run ask them if they need anything. Many communities
    are setting up formal volunteering groups which you could get involved in.
  • Stay connected, make the most of technology – we are fortunate to live in an age
    where there is a huge number of ways to keep connected. Just because you are in isolation
    doesn’t mean you can’t keep in contact via telephone or video call. Many methods offer group
    chats/calls so you can get the extended family all together, or your kids can keep in contact
    with their friends. Facetime, Skype, WhatsApp, Zoom are a good starting point.
Keep in touch.
  • Support local businesses – restaurants, bars and shops are going to take a big hit in the
    coming weeks, and without support may struggle to keep afloat. If they continue to offer home
    delivery or takeaway why not treat yourself now and again and support your local community.
    We will miss them when they are gone if we don’t!
  • Look after you mental health – as mentioned already, routine, exercise and avoiding too
    much social media/news can all help safeguard your mental health. However, if you are starting
    to struggle there is help out there for you. Calm and Headspace are great resources for
    anxiety which usually need a subscription but currently are offering free content. Your GP can
    also help or signpost you if needed, and there are many other charitable organisations that
    offer support online or by telephone*.
  • Relax, give yourself a break – particularly relevant if you are trying to juggle working
    from home I would hope that most employers will be supportive and understand that productivity just isn’t going to be the same in the current situation. So cut yourself some slack and don’t put yourself under too much pressure – everyone needs a bit of me time and a break.
    And finally…remember this isn’t going to last forever. Stay safe, be kind and supportive to
    each other and we will come out of this stronger.

Until next week, or possibly the week after 

Have a great week or two.

Take care and stay safe.

Jon X

Hypnotherapy in Suffolk, Essex and Cambridge. and online via Zoom

Jon Adkin Author of ‘Can I Change?’ Available from Amazon. and 100 days in isolation. A collection of funny original images of one mans decent into comic madness during lockdown

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