It all Starts With You

June Blog In Audible Format.

Welcome to June’s Blog.

When you believe in yourself, you can overcome self-doubt and have the confidence to take action and get things done. When you’re drowning in fears, doubts, and self-sabotaging behaviors, success feels out of your grasp. All of the skills, training, and tools in the world won’t change your life
Some people say it’s resources, luck, background or connections that create successful people. Whereas I surely agree that all these and many other factors influence the path of every individual, the most contributing factor to achieving something significant is self-belief. Without this key ingredient, there’s not a lot that could help you.
To put yourself on the track to success, you need to understand that your brain always plays against you. It doesn’t care about your big goals, the only thing it wants is to keep you alive. Therefore, we experience procrastination, self-doubt, negative thinking, anxiety and so on. The sure-fire way to overcome these obstacles is to not believe in them and truly believe in yourself.
If you don’t believe in yourself, who else will?
Honestly, if you don’t believe you’re going to succeed, then how on earth would anybody else do? Let’s say you want to build a successful business and you need to convince the investors that your idea is the one worth putting funds into.

You build self-confidence

If you are not confident enough, you’ll break like a twig the first time you face an obstacle. Whatever you want to achieve, there will be countless barriers questioning your competences. The only way to get through them is by being confident enough that you can and will.

This confidence comes from within, from the deep belief in yourself and your abilities.

Most of my work is with women who have fallen out of love with themselves. They come to me because they are struggling,  and they want me to help them get the skills they need to live their life better. They want something quick and clear, a top ten list of items to implement in order to live effectively. If it were only that easy.

You Can Do It

THE IMPACT OF BELIEVING IN YOURSELF

Believing in yourself affects everything you do. Everything. From your professional life to your personal life to your solitary life. In your relationship with yourself and in your relationships with others. In the choices you make and in the dreams you dream. How you view yourself, how you measure your value, how you assess your potential and how you determine your worth all combine to create the life you will live.

From your days as a student, the choices you make are determined by your belief in yourself. You choose your classes, your major, your training, your first job, not just based on what you think you might enjoy but based on what you think you are capable of and even deserve.

Parents, guidance counsellors, friends and neighbours may have influenced your belief in yourself by the judgement and advice they have given you- good, bad or otherwise. By ascribing certain schools as longshots or safeties based on their perception of your ability. By telling you which jobs you were qualified for or had enough experience in.

Sometimes these messages were shared with words like, “that’s a really hard school to get into” or “only the top students are ever chosen for that program.” Other times the message was more of a reaction, a look even, when you told someone, you trusted what you wanted and hoped for. Their eyes, their smile, their surprise indicated their support or disbelief. You may be receiving these messages still.

When we internalize the messages we receive, we often give them more weight than we do our own beliefs about ourselves. We start to take on the identity others ascribe to us and make choices based on that identity. We believe the version of ourselves that others project, a version that often reflects their own beliefs in themselves. We let others determine our value and worth. We let others write our stories.

In other cases, we receive great support and encouragement from those around us. We are fortunate to be told, over and over again, that we are valuable and worthy and capable of oh so much. That we can do anything we set our minds to. That the world is ours for the taking and that we can live the life we choose. But then, we reject these messages and raise the voice inside of us that says, “What do you know?”

So wherever you are coming from, whatever messages you have been told, whatever voices you have chosen to listen to, you are in a position today, right this moment to tell yourself that you are worthy and valuable and filled with potential and that you believe in yourself. No matter what anyone else has ever told you, including yourself.

It All Starts With You

START BELIEVING IN YOURSELF BY BELIEVING IN YOURSELF

Too often we look at others and compare our worth to theirs. Or we look at our past and use it to determine our future. Neither of these has any bearing whatsoever on what your life can be. No matter how successful and talented you deem everyone else to be or how many times you think you have failed, when you believe that the future is whatever you choose to make it, that is exactly what it begins to be.

You will decide what jobs to apply for based on your belief in your ability to secure them and do them well. You will pursue promotions based on your belief that you have earned them and that you are ready for the next level. You will take chances, risks and opportunities based on your belief that they are valuable for your growth and that you are valuable and deserving of them. You will negotiate and ask for raises based on your confidence in doing so and your belief that the money is rightfully yours. You will learn to confront people and situations because being liked by others is far less important to you than being respected and liked by yourself and believing in your strength to do the right thing. You will lead with confidence and vision because you recognize how great you can be, even if your skills are not yet where you would like them to be.

BELIEVING IN YOURSELF STARTS BEGINS AND ENDS WITH YOUR MINDSET

And like everything else, it all starts with your mindset, with the conversations you have with yourself and the messages you choose to believe. You can tell yourself that you are simply not good at something, or you can tell yourself that you can get better at anything you dedicate your energy to. You can talk yourself out of applying for a job you want because you think you will never get it, or you can prepare a powerful cover letter explaining why you are a fabulous fit for the position. You can tell yourself that you are just not good at public speaking or confrontation you excel or you can invest in your growth to get better at what will help you shine.

So how do you believe in yourself in moments or even a lifetime when you don’t? Some people will tell you to fake it until you do not have to fake it anymore. If that works for you, then do that. But more than faking it, I think being honest and starting exactly where you are is more effective. When I work with clients who want to quit smoking, the most powerful advice I ever give is all they had to do to quit smoking was to not smoke. Believing in yourself works exactly the same way. If you want to start doing it, you simply need to start doing it.  It is a process and it may be slower and harder than you would prefer., but know that you will get better at it if you choose.

Until next month

Start believing in yourself. and make your dreams a reality.

Have a good month

Jon X

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Remember. You’ve Got This

Audio Version of January’s Blog

Hi Happy New Year and welcome to 2022. Have you made any New Years Resolutions? Or will you just continue as you are? Without doubt it’s been a very strange past 2 years and it bought the best and worst out in people. But how have you handled it? Have you made improvements to your life? Have you changed any dally routines to make you day run smoother?

This month That’s what I want to talk about. What we do to help ourselves!  It all starts with you.

What do I mean by that, Well simply put. If you don’t like you or Love you how can you expect others to love or like you? Take a moment and step outside you. If you met you at a party or in a coffee shop would you spend time with yourself? Would you even bother to talk to you?

If you don’t even want to talk to you why would others want to? This is what we need to change. Each morning. You have to love who you see in the mirror. That person in that reflection has been with you every step of the way and needs to be shown some appreciation. So what can you do to help yourself? Well just by reading this you ae telling yourself you are up for change. So let me help.

Let’s start from the beginning. You don’t just happen to stumble upon the best version of yourself. You need to start from the beginning and take a high number of small steps in order to become what you envision. Just show up. Say you want to run a marathon, but have no prior experience. The first step is lacing up you shoes and hitting the pavement. Even if you only make it half a mile on your first training run, you’ll be about 2% closer to your ultimate goal than if you didn’t put in any work at all. Recognize that the best version of yourself should be your vision, not anybody else’s. Don’t waste energy trying to live up to what somebody else wants you to be. Stop looking for a secret trick. There is no miraculous shortcut to the better version of yourself. Are you still with me? Great. Let’s continue. Use Social Media to network. It’s never been easier to get in touch with influential and powerful people. Earlier in my career as a hypnotherapist, I reached out a very well known and well respected hypnotherapist. I asked him for advice about how to build my business, and not only did he reply with some helpful tips, he also connected me and we have become firm friends.  Don’t sweat the details. Just make sure that you’re moving in the right general direction. You probably don’t have the knowledge you need today to know the shortest path to your happiness five years from today. But you probably have some idea about how to move in the right direction. Take those steps.

Time to peel back the covers.

Recognise the opportunity at hand. The Internet has fundamentally changed everything. Previously, knowledge was locked away in the minds of industry experts and in the pages of books that you needed to buy or check out from a library. But now, it’s easier than ever to learn new skills. This is essential to becoming the best version of yourself. Don’t count the hours. They don’t matter. Think about the last time you ran on a treadmill. If you looked down at the timer every few seconds, you probably didn’t enjoy your run. In turn, this made it far more difficult to run far. But what if you took the opposite approach? You plugged in your headphones, lost yourself in the music, and took it one stride at a time….while resisting any temptation to look at the timer at all. If you did this, you probably discovered that you enjoyed the run and made it pretty far. Counting hours just slows you down from reaching your goal.

Accept help from other people. Don’t let your pride get in the way. Most successful people needed help along the way, too.

Some quick and helpful tips to help you become the you you want.

  • Ignore the social media scoreboard. People depict an extremely exaggerated version of life on Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, and other social platforms. We only share the good things, not the bad. So when you compare yourself to what you see on social media, you’re just hurting yourself.
  • Celebrate the small wins. Appreciating what you’re doing in the present gives you the motivation to keep making strides towards your ultimate goal.
  • Stop pretending to know things you don’t know. You’ll never learn anything if you pretend to already know everything.
  • Embrace failure. You can’t become the best version of yourself by playing it safe. Heck, getting fired could even be the best thing that ever happened to you.
  • Call your family. This is just the decent thing to do. But you can also learn lessons from your family that aren’t available through any Google search and aren’t accessible to pretty much anyone else in the world.
  • Exercise in the morning. Once I started doing this in the morning, I became far more focused and relaxed throughout the day. Science backs that up, too.
  • Create a side project. Doing something productive outside of work that makes you happy helps you become a better version of yourself. So, whatever it is…an app, film, album, whatever….start doing it on your nights and weekends. And who knows? It might just turn into a full-time job that you love.
  • Help other people become the best version of themselves. Pay it forward. Doing so keep you motivated on your own path, and you’ll find that the lasting connections you build from helping others will greatly benefit you moving forward. I do this on TikTok and the lovely comments I get still make me smile and makes me realise I’m making a difference to someone, and it doesn’t matter how small.
  • If you’re not satisfied with the current version of yourself, then the quickest way to solve the problem is to begin working towards the better version today. There is no “right time” to get started.
It Could Be Your Time

It can be tempting to think about the best version of yourself as some intangible point in the future. You know, the one where you are:

  • More successful
  • Doing what you love
  • Existing as an overall happier person

But if all you do is wait for the best version of yourself to happen, you’re forever going to be stuck with the current version. So, how do you launch the best version of yourself? Start making progress today.

Sometimes, you need to make a big change in order to unleash the best version of yourself. If one thought recently entered your mind, then it’s time to do it.

Until next month

Stay safe, Stay healthy

Jon X

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Christmas Cheer or Christmas Grrrrr.

Audio Version Of This Blog.

Welcome to December. Now., this month. Can be really joyous. Or really stressful? It really depends. On your mindset. Perhaps events of the past have ruined the festive season for you. Whatever your feelings are for this time of year. You don’t want to be stressed or miserable unnecessarily. Love it or hate it Christmas will soon be upon us.

If you don’t like Christmas. Have you ever really thought? Why? Perhaps your parents never liked it and you have just followed in that same mindset. Or your memories of Christmases when you were young, were, not so Happy. Or perhaps like me? Other people in the household don’t like. Christmas. And you struggle with their moods.

Growing up as a child I loved Christmases. Family would pop over. Games were played. Drinks would be had. Neighbours would pop in. Even the milkman. Decorated his float. And on Christmas Eve his bottles would rattle as he came down the street. And as a child, that was a magical memory for me. However. As we grow older. Trying to recreate that magic. It’s not always possible. Times change. People change. Families get bigger and they do their own thing. So trying to relive that childhood Christmas becomes impossible. I love the build up to Christmas. I start my Christmas playlist on the 1st of December. To the annoyance of others in my house. I try to get the decorations up as early as possible, in December of course. I try my best to recreate the magic. The fun, the laughter. But it never really works.

If I had my way, the television wouldn’t go on on Christmas Day. The Christmas tunes will be playing loud around the house. Drinks would be flowing. (not for me as I don’t drink, but that doesn’t bother me) The dinner would be cooking. And stupid games would be played. Too much food will be ate, Perhaps too much drink will be drunk. But fun would be had.

But that’s not how it will be. We will have breakfast. We will open the presents. And then the stress starts.

So how do I, not let the stress ruin. My Christmas?

Love it or loathe it, there’s no denying that the ‘season to be jolly’ is, for many, the ‘season to be super stressed’. Christmas can be a magical time, but it can also be the one time of year that takes the biggest toll on our mental health.

Christmas induced pressure can be horrendous. Pressure to have a great time, the pressure to look amazing, the pressure to buy the best presents, the pressure to avoid weight gain, the pressure to see all your family and friends. And the pressure to do it all with a big smile on your face as you go round spreading festive cheer.

Sound achievable? Of course not.

The strain on us to have a fantastic time for just one day in itself sets us up for an almighty fall. All around us are images of people seemingly happy in huge families, cosy couple and big social groups. We compare and we despair!

According to the Stress Management Society, one in 20 people considers Christmas more stressful than a burglary, and over half of Britons will have had an alcoholic drink before lunch on Christmas day to try to cope with the stress.

As a hypnotherapist, the key piece of advice I would give right now is to get to work on changing those patterns that have created Christmas stress in the past, so that you can create a Christmas that will leave you feeling fulfilled, settled, content and ready for 2022.

The key concept is that our thoughts, feelings and behaviour are all interconnected and that by understanding them and increasing awareness of our negative behaviour and emotional patterns, we can alter them and improve our wellbeing. In a nutshell, it’s about changing unhelpful patterns into more helpful patterns.

What is Stress?

Stress is a mixture of pressure and anxiety; it can come from external factors such as work or financial worries or from internal factors such as self-criticism and high expectations. Stress increases levels of cortisol and adrenaline in the body; both of which impact negatively on physical health as well as our mental health.

Tips To Tackle Christmas Stress

Write it out: Putting pen to paper and writing a list of the things you find most unmanageable about Christmas helps you to really hone in on the problem areas. We can’t change things unless we become more aware of them and are willing to acknowledge the issues they are causing. Everyone’s trigger points will be different but awareness is the first point of change. Planning comes next! Write down your goals and plan, in manageable steps, how you will reach them. When we write down our goals we are 10 times more likely to achieve them.

Seeing friends: It might not always feel that way but, by nature, we humans are social beings and feeling connected is a major part of our wellbeing. This means personal contact – actually seeing people – rather than relying on social media to manage our friendships. Feeling connected with people we are close too lowers stress levels and also improves our immunity, so will help you fight the winter bugs too.

Lower expectations: We all need to lower our expectations on having a fantastic time, and ultimately setting ourselves up for major disappointment. This doesn’t just apply to Christmas time; we are guilty of expecting too much year-round, on a multitude of things. If we want to feel a certain way then you have to monitor the ways you don’t want to feel. Having more flexibility in our expectations around how we feel will give us more resilience when things don’t go to plan.

To do lists: My advice would to write your list of things to do, prioritise it, and half it. We are generally very bad at overestimating what we can achieve in the time we have, ultimately creating huge stress for ourselves.

Plan you’re downtime: Whilst many of us are great at scheduling all the things we need to do, not so many of us are good at booking in some downtime. Take time to yourself, or spend days and hours with your family and friends or doing the things you love. Christmas is a holiday time after all.

Shop online: Not to take anything away from local traders but with what’s happening in the world at the moment the best best idea for your own mental health is online shopping. Throngs of crowds, traffic jams, and mile-long queues at the tills are not good for stress levels! Shopping from the comfort of your own home usually means saving time and money, and always means protecting stress levels. Set a date and do it in one go.

So the bottom line. If you had great Christmases as a child, remember them with gratitude, they will stay in your head and heart forever. If you weren’t so lucky, realise you are the adult now and you can make the Christmas what you want. Don’t let your Children or Grandchildren grow up dreading this magical time of year.

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Have a great one whatever you do. Stay safe, Stay well and enjoy.

I will see you in 2022

Best wishes and Merry Christmas and a very Happy New Year to you all.

Jon X

Jon Adkin BAHyp Clinical Hypnotherapist and IEMT Practitioner.

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Why we need to love ourselves.

Audio Version of this months Blog

Have you ever heard the expression, “You can’t help someone else until you help yourself”? The same idea applies to self-love. How can you love someone or someone love you, if you don’t love yourself first?


Loving yourself provides you with self-confidence, self-worth, and in general, you feel more positive. If you can learn to love yourself, you will feel happier and will learn to take better care of yourself. Accepting the pain and allowing yourself to be honest with who you are is a big step to loving yourself.
Why you must love yourself first?


When you love yourself first, you can create real change. You have that new confidence, bravery, and conviction to do it. You stop depending on someone else to give you all the emotional benefits that come with love. As soon as you make that happen, greatness follows suit.

This month on my Facebook page and on my TikToks I will be offering two daily videos to help you self love.

It all starts with you.


You Have To


Loving yourself first is essential if you want to be happy and live your life with no regrets. You may have been holding back because you have been told you aren’t worth loving at some point. Thus, you’ve been bullying yourself about it ever since. But that is the glass ceiling that this generation must break through immediately.

You deserve to be loved. You are a wonderful human. Life on this planet is short; do you really want to waste it with self-loathing? Hate only leads to hate, misery, and war. Do you want to be at war with yourself forever? Or do you want to be at peace and create new and amazing things? You have a whole life waiting for you on the other side of all that.

It Is Your Responsibility


By taking self-love out of your control and leaving it in the hands of others, you can only ever be disappointed. After all, it isn’t someone else’s job to do that. Pressuring other people to do it for you is unfair. You need to love yourself, not your parents, spouse, or kids. It is time to take responsibility for that now.

It Isn’t Selfish


They say in every flight that you have to put your own life mask on before helping another person. It isn’t selfish to do that because you will die before you can help someone who can’t help themselves. It is impractical — not heroic — to make yourself suffer while trying to be there for others. Similarly, you need to love yourself first so that you can help anyone you want. Put yourself first, say no to draining circumstances, and make choices in your best interest.

It Makes It Okay To Be Unloved By Others


When you love yourself, you live on another level, another vibe. Some people won’t like that, and that is okay for you. It may be even good, considering you will see who cares for you, who is happy to see you happy, and who just wants you to be miserable. When you prioritize yourself, you can see who matters and clear out all the toxic people in your life.

You can do this.

You Deserve It

All of your life, it may have been heavily implied that you aren’t supposed to love yourself. You are supposed to help others first and only gain it as a result of your acts of service. As we have all experienced, love isn’t always equal. Still, let us reiterate: you deserve to love yourself. You are a beautiful, caring, selfless human being, so why on earth would you deserve any less?

Why Not?

Are you afraid of being perceived narcissistic and reducing your likeability? That might happen, but wouldn’t it be better if you were around people who loved you for loving yourself? You create your reality, so it is possible. There are no downsides to loving yourself. Even if something seems wrong, your life will be better for it.

You Can Inspire Someone


By taking up the chance to love yourself first, you can inspire other people to make that same change. Most people are just waiting for a leader to step up, take the scary steps, and show that it is safe. This new way of living is okay and acceptable without suffering from a social setback. Come forward and say, “Hey, I love myself! It’s scary, but it’s okay. If I’m honest, it’s nice not to rely on other people to know my self-worth.” Watch how many people will turn around and say, “You inspired me. I started my journey to self-love, and I couldn’t be more excited.” To love yourself, you just need to give yourself permission to try, so set a positive example to someone else and do it now. Who knows, it might change their life.

It Can Only Improve Your Life


The thing about self-love is that it can improve your mental state. You can only feel better, more confident, more secure, and happier when you are in a better space. Once that happens, you can create a better life for others. Your life will be full of laughs. You will try new things because you won’t be afraid to fail and get out there and not care what people think of you. More importantly, you will live your life to the fullest and have the confidence and grit to go after your dreams.


You Can Change the World your World


When you love yourself first, you can create real change. You have that new confidence, bravery, and conviction to do it. You stop depending on someone else to give you all the emotional benefits that come with love. As soon as you make that happen, greatness follows suit.

You Can Love Someone for Real


You can spend your life by giving love away, hoping to gain it in return, but life isn’t a business transaction. Some people just take, and you keep giving without realizing that it chips away at your own self-esteem and self-worth. When you love yourself without expecting anything in return, you can love someone the way they deserve to be loved. After all, you have an endless source of it, and it can never deplete.

You are the solution.

Bottom Line


If you want to find you and reconnect with an unlimited source of love, take a day off to do that. Find out who you are and be compassionate to yourself. Buy something nice, go do something that pleases you. Compliment yourself, and make other hard choices that are in your best interest. That’s the only way to reignite your light and love yourself.

I hope that you take a moment to feel that love inside you after reading this. Love is beautiful, and you deserve to feel it all. It doesn’t make you a wrong person to want that.
So here is your homework.
Start smiling at yourself in the mirror. Appreciate yourself, except your faults and make changes.
We get one shot at life. Make the most of it.

Until next month.
Stay safe and well.
Best wishes 

Thank you to Jade Nyx. For the inspiration for this blog.

Jon

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It’s that time of year again.

Audio Version of this months blog.

Have you noticed that your child or children have gone a bit quiet recently? Don’t blame it on the lousy weather, or their age. Look at the date. In a few short weeks they will be returning to school. Some will be changing schools some will just be moving up. However whatever they face, it can be very scary for them.

Do you remember how you felt all those years ago? Perhaps there was a school bully who has been out of your mind during the Summer break. or perhaps just the thought of a BIG new school with so many new faces is a scary thought. Whatever the reason, this can be a very anxious time for our children.

Remove that anxiety from returning to school

Don’t ignore their silence, Speak to them, ask them questions. Show them that you care and want to help. Many children are of a mindset that asking for help is a weakness. They couldn’t be more wrong. Asking for help takes such strength.

What can you as a parent or a guardian do to help? First thing is to notice any changes in their body language, in their manner. They may become more withdrawn, or even almost become invisible. Give them words of encouragement.

Words of encouragement when your child is struggling

  • All you can do is try your best.
  • I am so glad you asked for help when you needed it.
  • Trust your instincts.
  • I believe in you.
  • Nobody is perfect, and that is ok.
  • You can learn from your mistakes.
  • Your perseverance will help you succeed.
  • Believe in yourself, you can do it.

They say education is the key for success. Students therefore need to have a purpose to succeed in their studies. There is always a challenge to produce brilliant results. Words of encouragement are important to remind students that hard work never goes unrewarded. Parents, teachers and fellow students can spread this Words of Encouragement to give students hope for better days. It is important to note that students have different abilities. Producing good results is a teamwork effort. Teachers have to take the responsibility of encouraging weak students to continue working hard. Encouragement gives hope, hence a positive attitude to success.

What phrases do you say each day to your kids? Which ones do you want them to remember?

In the years since my parents passed, I am still inspired to notice the good things in life when I remember the way they would pause at those good moments and say, “This, now, this is good.” To this day I can hear my mother encouraging me when I try new things. Her voice of confidence from my childhood continues to give me confidence now.

Many years after my dad died, I can still hear him, when I get too serious saying, “Lighten up,” In moments of complete self-doubt and embarrassment, I still bolster myself by thinking of him singing, smiling and being there.

All of these words of encouragement from my parents and grandparents have stayed with me. Certainly, words can become meaningless when they aren’t followed with action, but nonetheless, words have great power. You can choose to add more positive ones to your days.

Below is a list of encouraging phrases to say to children. Choose which work for you. What can you see or hear yourself saying. It has to come across genuine and not just something you read once on a sign on a random wall.

  1. You are loved
  2. You make me smile
  3. I think about you when we’re apart
  4. My world is better with you in it
  5. I will do my best to keep you safe
  6. Sometimes I will say no
  7. I have faith in you
  8. I know you can handle it
  9. You are creative
  10. Trust your instincts
  11. Your ideas are worthwhile
  12. You are capable
  13. You are deserving
  14. You are strong
  15. You can say no
  16. Your choices matter
  17. You make a difference
  18. Your words are powerful
  19. Your actions are powerful
  20. Your emotions may be powerful
  21. And you can still choose your actions
  22. You are more than your emotions
  23. You are a good friend
  24. You are kind
  25. You don’t have to like what someone is saying in order to treat them with respect
  26. Someone else’s poor behavior is not an excuse for your own
  27. You are imperfect
  28. So am I
  29. You can change your mind
  30. You can learn from your mistakes
  31. You can ask for help
  32. You are learning
  33. You are growing
  34. Growing is hard work
  35. I believe you
  36. I believe in you
  37. You are valuable
  38. You are interesting
  39. You are beautiful
  40. When you make a mistake, you are still beautiful
  41. Your body is your own
  42. You have say over your body
  43. You are important
  44. Your ideas matter
  45. You are able to do work that matters
  46. I see you working and learning every day
  47. You make a difference in my life
  48. I am curious what you think
  49. How did you do that?
  50. Your ideas are interesting
  51. You’ve made me think of things in a completely new way
  52. I’m excited to see what you do
  53. Thanks for helping me
  54. Thank you for contributing to our family
  55. I enjoy your company
  56. It’s fun to do things with you
  57. I’m glad you’re here
  58. I’m happy to talk with you
  59. I’m ready to listen
  60. I’m listening
  61. I’m proud of you
  62. I’m grateful you’re in my life
  63. You make me smile
  64. I love you

I didn’t do this nearly enough with my own children and for that I feel bad, but if I can help others now and take away the anxiety, the fear, the desire to hurt themselves. Then it will be worth it.

Moving Up Moving On From Jon Adkin

I also run sessions for children at this time of year. Moving Up Moving On is in its 4th year now and I work with the children and sometimes the parents to ease that transition. If you would like to know more please drop me an email or a message and I would be happy to tell you more.

Until next month.

I wish you every happiness.

Jon

Find Jon on Facebook, Instagram, You tube and TikTok.

Books available by Jon Can I Change? a book to help you handle your anxiety on a daily basis. 100 days in isolation a fun book for both adults and children showing the funnier side of lockdown.

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