Motivate you.

May’s Blog in Audio Form

Hi welcome to May’s blog. Following on from last months motivation in yourself and the people around you.  How did you get on? Did you make changes? Did you motivate yourself or others? 

Reflect on How Far You’ve Come

How often do you pause, reflect, and appreciate how far you’ve come?

If you’re like many people, you probably don’t give yourself enough credit for all the growth you’ve gone through.

Take a few minutes to close your eyes and remember your successes, however small – relive and feel into them.

Do this often to help you stay motivated.

Remind Yourself of Your “Why”

Motivation comes from working on things we care about. Take a moment to write down three reasons you want to find motivation to get things done. Do you want to improve your fitness, get an education, save money, or start a business?

Why?

Keep coming up with answers until you find ones that will help you stay motivated.

Eliminate Distractions Mercilessly

Distractions are the enemy of focus. If you want to get motivated, you must eliminate distractions. Difference between successful people and very successful people is that very successful people say ‘no’ to almost everything.”

The saying goes, “You can have anything you want. However, you can’t have everything you want.”

So, turn your phone off and leave it in a different room. Close the door. Turn the music off. Delete distracting apps.

Remind yourself that you are not punishing yourself – you’re just focusing on your goals. Then, remember what you truly want in the long-term.

What do you want in life?

Commit 100% to the Deal You’re Making

Remember, nothing comes for free. When you want something, you have to give something in return – whether it’s time, effort, hard work, or emotional discomfort.

That’s the deal.

Take a moment to recognize and appreciate the deal you’re making. Then commit to it 100%.  “Nothing will work unless you do.”

Declutter and Tidy

It’s extremely difficult to motivate yourself if you can’t see your bedroom floor and your desk looks like something has exploded on it. Have you ever heard the expression, “tidy space, tidy mind”?

What’s your environment like? Is it tidy, neat, and clean? Or is it messy and cluttered? Work from the outside in and create an environment that helps you to stay motivated.

Change Your Inputs

You know the saying, “you are what you eat.” And we consume a lot every day – food, music, podcasts, TV, social media. So, if you’re finding it challenging to motivate yourself, mix things up a bit. Listen to motivational podcasts, check out a must-read book, or watch some inspiring videos.

This can help you to freshen up, get energized, and find motivation to get things done.

Look to People in Your Life for Motivation

Some people energize us, others we find draining. So, when possible, seek out enthusiastic, motivated people to spend time with. Let yourself get wrapped up in their positive energy, and you may start developing self-motivation, too.

Ask for Help From Friends and Family

If you’re really struggling to motivate yourself, consider asking a close friend or family member for help. You could ask them to hold you accountable and check up on your progress.

By expressing your goals out loud to someone else, it can help to make them feel more real. Plus, if you know someone will check in on your progress, you may be more likely to follow through.

You Can Do It

Follow Inspiring People Who Motivate You

There are so many inspiring people out there who can help you to motivate yourself. Is there an entrepreneur, teacher, musician, or politician you find inspiring?

You can also learn how people you admire stay motivated, and then apply the lessons to your own life. As the ancient Greek philosopher Socrates once said, “Smart people learn from everything and everyone, average people from their experiences, stupid people already have all the answers.”

Listen to an Upbeat Song

If you need to motivate yourself quickly, try this super-simple tip: listen to a song you love that’s upbeat, inspiring, and full of energy. For bonus points, dance like a crazy person at the same time. Then, as soon as the song finishes, don’t pause – dive straight into action. It may become one of your favourite ways to stay motivated.

Remember Your Power and Potential

Look, you are powerful, and you have enormous potential. You may not feel like it sometimes, and you may even feel like I’m silly for saying it to you, but it’s true.

 “The most common reason people give up their power is because they think they don’t have any.”

So, please, take a moment to dig deep and try to connect with your inner power and potential – imagine what you could achieve.

Become still. Then listen to that quiet voice in your head saying,

 “You’ve Got This.”

How to find motivation?

The hardest part of finding motivation is often starting your search. You don’t need a perfect plan to get started. If you’re feeling overwhelmed by a task or full of negative emotions, find something small—no matter how small—to get started. This could be as simple as something you’re already doing—like reading an article on motivation.

Where to find motivation

You may find it difficult to get motivated to complete a big task or achieve a goal that may take years to realize. One way to find motivation is to break things down into smaller tasks. That way, you can make real progress in a day (or maybe just an hour or a few minutes).

You may also want to do a “retrospective” on achievements in months or years past—you may be surprised at how far you’ve already come.

What to do when you have no motivation

You don’t have to find motivation on your own. If you’re feeling stuck or preoccupied with negative energy, ask friends or family to provide more perspective or help you talk through your goals.

Don’t have anyone to talk to right now? There are hundreds of inspirational personalities online who share their wisdom in every format—short and long, text and video. Find a few people in your area (e.g., business, relationships) who fill your inbox or social media feed with positivity.

How to Motivate Yourself: A Summary

Getting motivated can be tough – and it can be even more challenging to stay motivated. In summary, here are 20 ways to motivate yourself:

  • Just start and wait for the motivation to catch up with you.
  • Break tasks down into smaller, more manageable steps.
  • Create a positive mindset by asking yourself, “what’s good about this situation?”
  • Create positive feelings by writing down three things you’re grateful for.
  • Be kind to yourself when you make a mistake, then come back to the task at hand.
  • Know that mistakes are a necessary part of progress – accept and learn from them.
  • Cut overwhelming to-do lists down and focus on just one thing at a time.
  • Let go of goals that overwhelm you and set attainable goals that energize you.
  • Imagine your future if you don’t motivate yourself.
  • Reflect on your past successes and use the positive feelings to stay motivated.
  • Remind yourself of the reason why you want to find motivation to get things done.
  • Remember the trade-off you need to make to get what you want, then commit 100%.
  • Eliminate the things that distract you and then focus on one thing to achieve your goals.
  • Tidy space, tidy mind – declutter and organize your space to help motivate yourself.
  • Stay motivated by experiencing different food, music, books, or podcasts.
  • Look to people in your life who inspire and motivate you.
  • Ask close friends and family to help hold you accountable.
  • Follow people who inspire you online.
  • Listen – and dance! – to an upbeat song. Then dive into action when it finishes.
  • Connect with your true potential – you’re more powerful than you think.

Until next month

Stay motivated, Stay Positive and Stay healthy

Have a good month

Jon X

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Motivate Yourself and Your Staff

Audio Version of April Blog

“Stay away from those people who try to disparage your ambitions. Small minds will always do that, but great minds will give you a feeling that you can become great too.”

Mark Twain

Welcome to April’s blog. This month I want to chat about motivation. For some time now I have been posting on TikTok, just 15 second motivational videos, Giving words of encouragement and strength and letting people know they are not alone. I don’t have a massive following (about 1600 but rising daily) but what I do have is a loyal following. I record these videos to help others. But you know what, their words back to me of thanks and appreciation help me as much as I like to help them.

So this got me thinking, We all need a bit of motivation in our lives. What do you do or say to motivate yourself? First of all you need to find out what motivates you or perhaps you employ people and you want to motivate them. Find out what motivates them.

Do you know what gets you or them out of bed in the morning? What are you or them passionate about –your goals, their goals, aspirations, and interests? In other words, do you really know your yourself or your employees? Great leaders show an interest in their people’s jobs and career aspirations in order to motivate them the right way. Once that’s been established, they look into the future to create learning and development opportunities for their people or themselves. They find out what motivates their best people by getting to know what desires will drive each person as an individual. This is about emotional engagement.

Praise and compliment them often.

“I don’t like to be recognized,” said no human being, ever. Managers have to get into the habit of praising and complimenting their people for their good qualities and work. Companies in a recent study with the highest engagement levels use recognition and praise as a powerful motivator to get their commitment. They found that employees who receive it on a regular basis increase their individual productivity, receive higher loyalty and satisfaction scores from customers, and are more likely to stay with their organization. How regular are we talking? Praise should be given once per week. Praise yourself, praise the people who are around you.

Help co-create purposeful work.

People want meaning and purpose in their work. You want meaning and purpose in your life. Give and Take, when people find purpose in their life or work, it not only improves that person’s happiness, it also boosts productivity. One way to give employees that purpose, is to have them meet the very people they are helping and serving, even if just for a few minutes. Managers giving their people access to customers so they can see first hand the human impact their work makes is the greatest human motivator.


“Success is not final; failure is not fatal: It is the courage to continue that counts.”

Winston S Churchill

Help yourself to develop new skills. Help them develop new skills.

Although important, I’m not so much talking about putting them through another required technical or safety training program to keep them or the business compliant, but actually giving them meaningful new skills or knowledge in other areas that they can use to leverage their natural strengths for future roles, whether with their current company or another company. The point is to serve and value them so exceptionally well as people and workers that they have no reason to leave but use their newfound skills for new projects.

Actively involve yourself. Actively involve them.

Great managers recognize that leadership doesn’t travel one way but is multi-directional. While it can come from the top down at critical times, the best scenario is allowing decisions, information, and delegation to travel from peer to peer or from the bottom up, where the collective wisdom and involvement of the whole team help solve real issues in real time on the frontlines.

Believe in yourself. Believe in them.

The best managers delegate often and give their employees responsibility for delivering challenging work. If this doesn’t happen in your workplace, consider two hard questions that work in business and in day to day life:

  • Do you trust your knowledge workers to do what they’ve been hired to do?
  • Do they have the right competence for the job to carry out the work with confidence?

So often managers underestimate the potential and ability of their employees to use their brains! If you answered yes to the questions above, be of the mindset to always accept that they can do the work. Then, give them the room to perform and support them with whatever they need to make them even better. This is how you motivate them to the rafters.

So how do you find that motivational Mindset?


“Don’t let yesterday take up too much of today.”

Will Rodgers

How to Find Motivation

1. Just Start

Urgh. Don’t you just hate this advice?

Still, there’s a reason we’ve all heard it a million times: it can work wonders.

You don’t always need to reason with your emotions or rationalize why you need to do something. You can deal with those negative feelings later on, at the right time. Instead, try setting aside all of the negative emotions and simply START.

As the famous writer Mark Twain once said: “The secret of getting ahead is getting started.”

2. Break Tasks Down Into Small Steps

Woah… another piece of ground-breaking, never-heard-before advice, right?

Again, there’s a reason so many people recommend that you use this tactic when trying to motivate yourself – sometimes it’s the simplest things done well that work the best.

Remember, you can’t do everything at once.

Here’s a method to help you find motivation to get things done: Write down what you need to do on a piece of paper. Then, write down every single step you need to take to make it happen. Finally, ignore everything except the step you’re working on.

Once in the flow, you may just find it easier to continue with the next task.

3. Create a Positive Mindset

Getting motivated is almost impossible if you’re looking at the situation from a negative viewpoint. On the other hand, positivity can be energizing and help you to motivate yourself.

So, pause and ask yourself, “what’s good about this situation?”

As the author Catherine Pulsifer said, “If we have the attitude that it’s going to be a great day it usually is.”

4. Create a Feeling of Gratitude

When you find yourself stuck in a rut, it can feel impossible to motivate yourself. So before you try to motivate yourself, take a step back and try to appreciate how you feel.

When you feel appreciation for yourself, it’s much easier to stay motivated.

One of the quickest ways to feel good about yourself is to practice gratitude – it’s almost entirely impossible to feel low and grateful at the same time.

To practice gratitude, start by writing down three things you’re grateful for. These could be anything – from your morning coffee, to your pet, or even the comfortable chair you sit on.

Ideally, you could make this part of your daily routine to find everyday motivation.


“There are three ways to ultimate success: The first way is to be kind. The second way is to be kind. The third way is to be kind.”

Mr Rodgers

5. Be Kind to Yourself

When you procrastinate or make a mistake, it’s easy to beat yourself up. In fact, if you’re like many people, you may find that you internally “speak” to yourself in a mean way.

If you notice yourself doing this, pause and try to speak to yourself kindly instead. You wouldn’t speak to someone else that way, so why do it to yourself? You deserve your own kindness.

Try to remember your true inherent value as a human being. Then, allow yourself to gently come back to the task at hand.

6. Be Constructive

When you realize you’ve made a mistake or finally bring yourself back from a procrastination session, you have a golden opportunity to learn and improve.

Ask yourself, “Why did I make this mistake? How can I avoid making the same mistake in the future?”

If you do this and act on what you learn, you’ll transform mistakes into opportunities.

An entrepreneur once said, “We need to accept that we won’t always make the right decisions, that we’ll screw up royally sometimes – understanding that failure is not the opposite of success, it’s part of success.”

7. Cut Your To-Do List Down

To-do lists can help us organize our tasks and focus on what’s important. However, they can also overwhelm us so much that we end up procrastinating even more.

So, if you find yourself struggling to stay motivated, cut your to-do list down to a more manageable size.

Each day, choose no more than three tasks and make that your new to-do list. Then, ignore all but the first item. You may find that with time, you can take on a longer to-do list.

8. Set Attainable Goals That Excite You

If you have a goal that feels too big or unattainable, it may make you feel crippled with anxiety and fear. This is a surefire way to prevent yourself from developing motivation.

For now, let go of goals that paralyze you. Instead, choose exciting enough goals to help you motivate yourself, but not so big that you freeze when facing them.

Keep your eyes on the stars, and your feet on the ground.”

9. Imagine Your Future If You Don’t Change

This tip can make inspiring yourself easy: Instead of focusing on the change you want, imagine the life you’ll have if you don’t stay motivated.

Ask yourself, “What will life be like in one year, five years, and ten years?”

I will continue this blog next month. Let me know if you implement any of these ideas and if you do, let me know how you get on.

Until next month.

I wish you health and happiness.

Take care

Jon X

Jon Adkin BAHyp Clinical Hypnotherapist and IEMT Practitioner.

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New Beginnings

Audio Version of This Months Blog

Whether you welcome a fresh beginning or dread it, I want to help you move forward with confidence. Changes happen for a variety of reasons–sometimes we want a change and sometimes we need it. Other beginnings happen because life is hard and time marches on.

Let your past make you better. NOT bitter

You’ve Got This

When You Want A New Beginning

There’s nothing like the feeling of starting something new when it’s a change you choose to pursue. You’re confident about a new direction, but nervous energy is very real. I can help you channel that nervousness into genuine excitement.

Of the four types of new beginnings, this one is my favourite. I admit, I love change. I honestly don’t know why…maybe it’s the thought of a challenge and conquering new things for the achiever in me? I realize however, not everyone is as enthusiastic about change as I am, but there are definitely times when people look forward to fresh beginnings that are exciting or compelling.

A New Start

Why You Might Want A Fresh Start

New beginnings are welcomed for a variety of reasons, like trying something new, taking on a new challenge or finally stepping outside of our comfort zone. I love the energy that comes with a fresh start.

  • getting a new job
  • moving to another city or state
  • buying or building a home
  • starting a business
  • pursuing a new hobby
  • traveling internationally
  • getting married
  • having or adopting or fostering children (My adoption story is a great one, but I realise I was very very lucky)
  • learning a new language
  • changing careers
  • following a dream

When we start something new, we do it  because we want it, it can lead to some pretty amazing adventures. Never allow waiting to become a habit. Live your dreams and take risks. Life is happening now. Remember, we only get one shot.

When You Need A New Beginning

Sometimes you start something new because you know you need a change. Self-awareness can make this pretty obvious, but it takes work to really be in tune with ourselves and our circumstances. A new beginning can motivate you to make a productive change.

Being intentional about reflection is one of the best ways to assess our lives and make adjustments in a positive direction. If we’re unhappy about an area of our life, then we should figure out a way to change it. And if we can’t change it, we can commit to a new attitude about it.

I’ll be honest here. I don’t have a whole lot of patience with modern day attitudes when they’re unhappy about something that’s in their power to change. I struggle in conversations with teenagers or other adults who feel like life happens to them and there’s nothing they can do about it.

We always have a choice about how we respond and whether we stay where we are or move forward toward something better, even if it’s hard to get started.

Don’t live the same year 75 times and call it a life.

It all Starts With You

Why You Might Need A New Start

You might know you need a fresh beginning, but it’s still hard to take the first step toward something unfamiliar. If you know the outcome will be worth the effort, you can do the hard work it takes to get there.

  • exercising more often
  • ending toxic friendships or relationships
  • taking care of your mental health
  • choosing gratitude (I wrote about how I choose gratitude even when it’s the last thing I feel like doing.)
  • establishing healthy boundaries with family and friends
  • making rest and sleep a priority
  • eating healthier food
  • losing weight
  • fighting addiction
  • finding community (Life is busy, but here’s how and why you need to make time for friends.)
  • facing our fears
  • going back to work after staying home with kids
  • changing jobs or careers
  • When my marriage hit its lowest point.

Sometimes you need an extra push to make a change you know you need to make. New beginnings can give you the encouragement and confidence you need.

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A New Beginning Because Life Is Hard

At some point, crisis will touch us all. The aftermath of a crisis demands something different because you can’t go back to the way things were. New beginning will help you put one foot in front of the other to keep moving forward. These new beginnings are the hardest. Sometimes we just don’t see them coming or they’re forced upon us. We can’t avoid them and we certainly didn’t choose them:

Why Life Can Be Hard Sometimes

These are the most difficult new beginnings and the ones we resist the most. A painful ending often transitions into a new beginning that feels forced upon us.

  • losing a job
  • the death of a loved one
  • a divorce or breakup
  • losing a close friend after an argument or misunderstanding
  • saying goodbye to friends or family because of a move
  • financial difficulty
  • physical or emotional struggles after an accident
  • losing someone to suicide
  • dealing with the heartbreak of a miscarriage
  • struggling with infertility
  • parenting a child with a disability
  • dealing with a frightening diagnosis like cancer or dementia

New beginnings will remind you that there’s more life to live on the other side of crisis, and you can make it there.

Don’t be afraid of new beginnings. Don’t shy away from new people, new energy, new surroundings. Embrace new chances at happiness.

Believe in Yourself.

A New Beginning Because Time Marches On

Sometimes we start something new simply because we can’t stop time. Seasons of life come and go, regardless of how ready we are. When we find ourselves in those moments, new beginning quotes can remind us to enjoy each step of our life’s journey.

As I get older, I’m much more aware of the passing of time. If I’m not paying close attention, I end up in a different season of life and struggle to adjust because I don’t even know it’s happening. These fresh beginnings sometimes creep up on us, even though we know they’re coming eventually.

Make this your Month

How Time Marches On

Life moves so much faster than we realize. We welcome a new year every 365 days, but it can still surprise us. Sometimes we welcome the passing of time and other times we resist it.

I feel like I’m in the middle of some significant life changes right now that I wasn’t quite ready for, perhaps the last few years, I’ve had a lot of pretty major things happen and although it’s pretty normal for people in their 50s,

At 54 I decided to leave a job I had been in for 26 years. I had no financial backing, no support from my wife but I had one thing, which I had in abundance. Belief in myself. I knew I wanted to help others and hypnotherapy had got me through a vary bleak period in my life due to a lot of serious illness. And I wanted to do the same for people who were struggling.

5 years down the line, I’m still in business, I’m building a good reputation and I’m helping people get back on track to enjoy their lives. Thanks to Zoom I now work all over the world. And since the pandemic hit I have found a new outlet in TikTok which allows me to get messages of support and encouragement to a much wider audience If you want to follow me you can by clicking here. Each month I offer words of comfort, support and encouragement on different subjects and this month it is New beginnings.

If you are ready to start again (but this time with experience) or just ready to take a new path Contact me. I would love to support you on your next chapter.

Until next month

Stay safe, stay healthy.

Take care.

Jon X

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Love Yourself First

February Blog in Spoken Word

In This Month Of Love. Love you first.
Welcome to my February blog. So this month I would like to talk about self-love. Well, it is February and that means the month of love, but why is self-love important. Well, there is a quote that says
“Self-Love is not selfish; you cannot truly love another until you know how to love yourself.”
And that is so true. As I’ve said many times “It all starts with you.”
How can you expect others to love you if you don’t love yourself. Think about it. Could you love you if you met yourself at a party? To fall in love with yourself is the first secret to happiness. Work on being in love with the person in the mirror who has been through so much but is still standing.


So how can you love yourself? Well let me help you.
The first step in learning to love yourself is understanding the meaning of self-love. Think of it in the context of the love you have for your partner or a close friend: You are aware of their flaws but appreciate how those imperfections make up the person you care about, trust and support. Now turn all that compassion, forgiveness and understanding inward. “Self-love means accepting your strengths, your weaknesses and everything in between
It’s so easy to tell someone “Love yourself” and much more difficult to describe how to do it. Self-love is not simply a state of feeling good; it is an action. Self-love is a choice. It is a way of relating to yourself that involves being understanding for your mistakes, understanding in your losses, and being able to effectively communicate with yourself about life without harshly judging or punishing yourself.

It all Starts With You

Research has shown that learning how to self-love is associated with:

  • Less anxiety and depression
  • Better recovery from stress
  • An overall more optimistic outlook on life
  • Better adherence to healthy behaviour changes

In short, self-love is how you view yourself and how you treat yourself.

Why is Self-Love Important?

Learning how to self-love is important to living happier and healthier in every aspect of your life. It influences who you pick to be your mate for life, the image you project at work, how you accomplish your work, the way you raise your children, the way you interact with those around you and the way you cope with the problems in your life.

Why You Might Be Lacking Self-Love

Low self-esteem or lack of self-love is something that could be developed in childhood and carry through to adulthood. Or, it is something that could present itself solely in adulthood.

Some negative behaviours that can be attributed to a lack of self-love, according to the National Association for Self-Esteem:

  • Earlier sexual activity
  • Alcohol and drug abuse
  • Self-harm
  • Eating disorders

You might be lacking self-love for a variety of reasons or habits, as noted above. It can be because of the actions of those around you, because of a traumatic event in your life, because you lacked a good example of self-love, or simply because of a way of thinking that you innately practice. But, one important thing to remember is that low self-esteem due to a lack of self-love is not an accurate reflection of reality, rather a reflection of your perception on reality.

Tips to Learn How to Self-Love

While self-love is not necessarily innate, it can be taught. Here are some helpful tips on how to self-love today:

Recognise How You Are Feeling

You’ve probably heard the cliché saying that “the first step to overcoming a problem is admitting that you have one.” Well, one of the first steps to learning how to self-love is kind of similar – it is becoming aware of yourself. We all feel a variety of emotions throughout our life – sadness, anger, frustration, loneliness, happiness, and more. When something is off, it is important to take a moment to recognise how you are feeling at that moment and why.

Why are you sad? Why are you angry? Why are you happy? In self-love, you must be mindful so that you can begin to shift any negative state that is involved in those feelings.

Accept How You Are Feeling

While there is nothing wrong with feeling any of the emotions we mentioned or others, it is important that once you recognise your emotions you can accept them. Whether you want to feel it or not, the feeling is there. Take a moment to pause and sit with that feeling. Now, scan your body to see where you feel it.

Think About Your Feelings from an Outsider’s Perspective

How would you feel if you saw a loved one experiencing the feeling you are experiencing at that moment? Then, think about how you might encourage them to proceed. What is funny about life and our brains is that we treat ourselves entirely different than we treat others. While we might try to enforce a positive behaviour on our friend or family member experiencing a negative emotion, we would beat ourselves up for feeling this way. View this situation with a kind eye and be kind to yourself. Love yourself in that moment and all moments.

Forgive Yourself

This self-love tip really has two points to it: First, decide what it will take to forgive yourself for whatever the situation is. Second, make a conscious decision to forgive yourself. We can be so hard on ourselves sometimes, but it is important to give yourself a break. You can be your own worst enemy at times. When you believe you have made a mistake, decide what action you can take to make it right in your own eyes. Then, use self-talk to encourage yourself to take that step toward forgiveness.

Say No to Others

Sometimes practising self-love isn’t just about speaking kindly to ourselves when we are feeling certain emotions. It can also be about taking care of ourselves when others are around. Set boundaries. Make time for yourself. It is okay to tell people “no” if you think that you need to. Love yourself enough to make the right decision for you, not for anyone else. Self-love is a continuous action, a continuous process, a continuous choice. You should constantly be investing in yourself by working on doing things that promote self-love.

Accept Help

One way to continuously ensure you are focusing on how to self-love and putting tips like these into practice is to consider seeing a therapist regularly for support. Book an appointment and start your journey to learning how to self-love.

Self-love is vital to your overall well-being. Invest in your self – you matter.

You Are important

Until next month. Stay Healthy, Stay Happy and Start to LOVE YOURSELF that little bit more.

Jon X

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Mental Health is not taboo

Audio Version Of This Months Blog

Mental health isn’t and shouldn’t be a taboo subject. Life can just get to us. We don’t always know why it just happens, but when it does you need to ask for help before it takes root. Ignoring it is not going to help you. It’s not going to go away on its own. It will need some help. You will need some help.

It’s not going to go away on its own

So who do you turn to?

I understand that coping with mental illness is HARD, and not knowing who to talk to can make it feel a hundred times worse. You might be worried about what people will think of you, you might feel ashamed, you might feel that they won’t understand. I do. I get it. I get you.

So is this the new normal? As we adjust, it’s normal that we will all have different reactions. You may be looking forward to life getting back on track you may still feel nervous about the rules being relaxed. You could be feeling uncertain about what will happen over winter, or worried about the new pressures that have come with restrictions easing. Whatever you are feeling is OK. There is no right or wrong way to react. It’s natural that many of us are feeling the effects of a year of social distancing.

This autumn, it’s important to be kind to yourself and take things at your own pace. We’ve all faced challenges over the past year and many of us will need time to readjust. If you’re finding things tough, try to talk about how you are feeling with others. Family, Friends, A Doctor a professional. Remember, You’re not alone.

Tips for taking care of your mental health

You can Do It

Go at your own pace

Take time to plan. As workplaces and business open up again, it’s natural that any changes to our routine may feel overwhelming. Planning ahead of time can help you manage your time and feel more in control. If you’re feeling uncertain about meeting with other people in person, whether for work or socially, try to talk about how you are feeling and what you are comfortable with beforehand.

Set achievable goals. If you’re feeling anxious about doing something, try breaking it down to a list of smaller tasks. For example, if you haven’t been to the shops in a while, you might want to try walking in that part of town before going inside. Focus on what you want to achieve and try not to compare yourself to what you think others are doing.

Try a relaxation exercise. Sometimes something simple like controlled breathing can help us feel calmer. Muscle relaxation exercises can also help reduce feelings of stress or anxiety. If you can, find a quiet space and try out the exercises that suit you.

Find your balance

Pay attention to how you are feeling. A self-help web app can help you track your mood and includes practical tips and techniques to help you look after your emotional health.

Make time for yourself. It could be something creative, playing sports or taking a copy of the paper to a park for half an hour in the sun. Even stepping away and taking a five-minute break over a cup of tea can help you relax and recharge.

Take a break from the news and social media. If you find it hard to stay offline, prioritising other activities can help you switch it off. Try turning off your notifications or leaving your phone in another room for a few hours. If your job involves lots of screen time, taking a break away from your devices after work might help you relax.

Spend time outdoors

Enjoy nature. Whatever way you can, taking some time to enjoy the outdoors can have a positive effect on your mood. Our mental health benefits from getting outside and enjoying nature.

Get active. Exercise can help to reduce feelings of anxiety and other difficult feelings. There are lots of different ways to be active. You could start off with a brisk walk or join a free online exercise class. Setting goals with others is a great way to stay motivated. Try teaming up with friends and family or taking part in an online challenge.

Reach out

Talk about how you’re feeling. Talking can help put things into perspective and help us feel less isolated. It can be hard to reach out but talking to a trusted friend, colleague or family member is something we’d encourage you to try, however you can.

You Are Not Alone

Please remember. You are never alone.

Mental health issues also affect the people close to those who are suffering.

If someone you care about has a mental health issue it can be hard to deal with.

It can be upsetting and difficult to see them struggle, especially if you are a carer or a family member. I know that mental health issues have a wide impact on friends, family members and carers and I am here to support you to live your own life.

Some quick bits of advice I can offer are.

I can provide support service for carers – offering advice and support.

Let the person you care about know you are there for them.

Support them to find suitable services to help them to manage their mental health issues.

Offer practical help such as making a telephone call to a key worker or other person, or by going with the person to their GP or mental health centre.

2 in 3 people report having experienced a mental health problem in their lifetime. Many of us go through tough times and supporting someone you care about can be enough to help them through. Sometimes people need extra support, and this is where People like me and my therapy friends and colleagues can help.

There are many national and local charities which offer various support services, such as:

The Samaritans, MIND.org, National Suicide Prevention Helpline UK. Rethink.org

And many more.

Don’t suffer alone. Ask for help. It’s not a sign of weakness. It’s actually a sign of strength.

Reach out before it takes hold.

Until next month.

Stay safe, Stay well.

Jon

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