So, the football is back, Shops are starting to open and more people are venturing out. How do you feel about that? I opened my doors at the start of this month, all with social distancing in place of course. However, something still doesn’t seem right. Like the football with no crowds there still seems to be something missing. My theory is that a lot of people are still scared. Scared to go out, scared to shop and scared to go to places where there may be people. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not judging those people at all, I don’t think any of us know what exactly is going on.
If you are one of those that are still scared, what is it that is actually scaring you? Is it what you are reading on social media or hearing on the news or is it your own thoughts? Are you a worrier or an overthinker and this lock down has set your mind racing? If it’s the latter, you are very much not alone.
I receive calls every week at my hypnotherapy practice from people who are getting themselves so worked up because of what they have read or heard and then they overthink it and before long Armageddon has arrived. They are expecting to see Zombies to be walking past their windows. I know it sound a bit over the top but that is what’s happening. I’ve had clients that are too scared to open the door to a delivery driver, who is delivering something that they ordered, and they were expecting. However, as soon as that ring of the doorbell sounds or the knock on the door happens. The anxiety kicks in, and suddenly they feel as if they are in danger. Their mind starts convincing them that they may be in danger. The person may have the virus-Don’t open the door. They may not be wearing a mask and may cough on you – Don’t answer the door. The last person they delivered to may have been ill – Don’t answer the door. Do you see how your thoughts convince you and you run with it?
Now the subconscious mind is a fantastic thing and even though you may not think it, it always has your best interests at heart. By not opening the door, you will remain safe, so job done. That is how the subconscious mind works. It has positive intentions but no logic. So sometimes its solution is not suitable for your own lifestyle.
So, what can you do about it? Actually lots. If you are a worrier or an overthinker, take a moment now and recall a list of say five things that you worried about or got yourself worked up because you over thought the situation. Got five? Ok now, how many of those five things actually happened in the way you thought about it? I bet one or none. Yet you worried, you affected the people around you, you may have even lost sleep over it. All for nothing.
You had no control over the situation, so what was the point of worrying. If you have no control, there is no point in worrying. All you are doing is adding to your own anxiety and stress and to those closest to you.
Don’t let those thoughts control you, If a negative or worrying though starts to enter your head, don’t let it in. Don’t let that thought, that word, become a sentence, which becomes a paragraph which becomes a story. Your story. You don’t want those negative thoughts writing your next chapter, do you?
So, an easy fix is start talking to yourself as if you are your own best friend. If you don’t want that thought getting in, then tell yourself that you don’t want it, you don’t need it, so you won’t have it. If your best friend were worried about something silly, you would be the first to tell them to stop being silly and to get on with life.
It’s your thoughts that control your emotions your feelings. Make those thoughts positive and you will feel so much happier and so much more in control.
In my hypnotherapy practice I see so many people who have allowed their thoughts to control their behaviours and ultimately their lives. Visit my testimonial page to see how are just a few sessions you can turn your life around.
Now some people want to change, they want to lose their ‘thing’ but they just can’t do it on their own. This is where hypnotherapists can help. We can’t change the past, we know that, but we can change how we allow it to affect us.
So start telling yourself what you do want and not what you don’t want. That’s the mistake that so many tend to make.
This leads me nicely to a new Anxiety Freedom system which I’m launching next week. I wanted to help the people who have suffered through lockdown but either don’t want to attend a hypnotherapists office, or just don’t have the time, but they know they need help. So, I am offering a totally online system that the clients can do at their own home in their own time. It’s a very comprehensive solution but and here is the good bit, I’m offering it at a price affordable to most people. A single payment gets you the full system and remote access to me.
I will expand in my next blog what’s included but in the mean time visit my site ans see what you think.
Until next week
Hypnotherapy in Suffolk, Essex and Cambridge. and online via Zoom
Jon Adkin Author of ‘Can I Change?’ Available from Amazon.