HOW TO BEGIN BELIEVING IN YOURSELF

July’s Blog In Audio Form

To begin, take some time to write down what you know you are good at. Do not limit yourself to professional skills and don’t put any judgments on your list by labeling things as small or not that important. Write everything you are good at from parallel parking to pushups to making the world’s best pumpkin pie. Say them out loud to yourself. Share them on your social media. Use them to introduce yourself during the next icebreaker. Get in the habit of acknowledging and appreciating your gifts, skills and talents and sharing the news with others. Don’t minimize your gifts and accomplishments. Share them with the world proudly and often. Challenge yourself to come up with 20. And then later on 30. Get yourself up to 100. Or 1000. Just keep going. Keep going until you can say, “damn, I’m really something” and then go on some more.

If it is helpful, ask people you love and trust what they think you are good at. Do not do this before you make your first list and do not do it in lieu of it, but as a supplement to the one you make about yourself. To avoid generic or surface answers, phrase the questions as, “what would you hire me to do?” or “what would you pay me to do?” This will allow people in your life to think about what skills are most obvious and impressive to them. Add them to your list, even if you’re not quite ready to embrace them.

After you make your list, write down three moments in your life, from any point, where you have felt proud of something you did or said or accomplished. Again, don’t judge or diminish these. Be honest and take the time to remember them. What about these moments made you proud? How does it feel remembering them? What gifts and values were you accessing during them? How can you capture these feelings again and again and again? Add to your list as you remember more and more moments. Come up with three more and three more and three more after that. Share these moments with people you love, with your team at work, with your boss. Make them a part of your story. Share them with pride. Open the door for others to do the same.

Make a list

Finally, make a list of statements or affirmations that are both true and maybe a little bit of a stretch for you. Statements like:

I am ________________________________________

I know I can _________________________________

I deserve ____________________________________

I am proud of ________________________________

I am capable of _______________________________

I believe that I _______________________________

I will _______________________________________

Come up with different prompts and different answers each time. Or repeat them as they are salient for you. Add more. Or do the same ones over and over again. Practice saying them out loud to yourself, in the mirror if it helps. Email them or text them to yourself. Put them somewhere you can see them. Be creative and try different ways to incorporate them into your life. Notice where you feel good and where you feel uncomfortable. Spend some time reflecting on why.  Make it a habit. Push through when it feels slow or hard. Just keep on going. Whatever you do, don’t ever stop reminding yourself of who you are.

Believe in You

BELIEVING IN YOURSELF DOESN’T MEAN IGNORING CHALLENGES

To those who are used to focusing on what they believe to be wrong and in need of fixing, rest assured that believing in yourself does not in any way necessitate a delusion of self or a pretension of perfection. We all have our struggles and challenges. The reason I am advocating for this focus and dedication solely on strengths and self-belief is that too many of us already spend far too much time focusing on that which we feel we lack. Too often, those around us, both personally and professionally focus on these things too. I am not the least bit concerned that you are not spending enough time on these areas. In fact, my heart breaks when I think about how much you probably do.

So start doing something different. Start believing in yourself. Right this minute. I promise, if you keep at it and learn to fully embrace your own potential, you will begin to live a life you enjoy and are proud of. I believe in you. Now go start believing in yourself!  

It is a very well-known fact that if anyone wants to succeed in life, they must believe in themselves. We have to believe in ourselves and in our abilities because our inner faith will create our external results.

People easily lose faith in themselves when encountering setbacks, failure and fear. When you lack confidence in yourself, others will pick up on that and won’t take you seriously.

Not many people live the life that they have always wished to live; they give up on their life goals as soon as they encounter the first setback. One of the main causes for this is that they do not believe in themselves.

“Believe in yourself, and the rest will fall into place. Have faith in your own abilities, work hard and there is nothing you cannot accomplish.” – Brad Henry

The world that we are living in is extremely competitive and challenging, and people start to doubt themselves and their abilities when they come across failure. But a few failures are not the end. You must get back up again. Here’re 10 ways to believe in yourself again:


  1. Accept Your Current Situation

The first thing you need to do if you want to get back up and start believing in yourself again is to accept your current life situation. You have to make peace with how your life looks at the moment and what led to this situation that you are in.

Fighting with your situation won’t do you any good. Being resistant is pointless, so we must accept first. Only then will we have enough energy to change our life.

2. Think About Your Past Success

If you are feeling down and out, use your past to get motivated again. Remember the time when you used to just kick butt. When you were awesome and you used to rock it! Put yourself in that past and think about the awesome things that you used to do.

Now remember that you can do it again. It is easy to think about the times when you got hurt, but it is just as easy to think about those times when you were successful as well. Use your past to your advantage.

3. Trust Yourself

This is one of the most important things that can help you get that belief and confidence back. All the energy, power, courage, strength and confidence is within you.

Spend time with yourself to access it, whether it be through meditation, journalling, or activities that make you trust in yourself again.

4. Talk with Yourself

We are the ones who create who we will become. We do that every day by our daily beliefs and self-talk. It’s really important that we talk to ourselves and motivate ourselves.

We don’t ultimately need others’ approval. You deserve your own self-approval and supportive self-talk.

5. Don’t Let Fear Stop You

Fear stands for False Evidence that Appears Real.  It is the main thing that holds you back from believing in yourself again more than anything else.

Face your fears and don’t let them stop you from achieving your goals

6. Let Yourself Off the Hook

You have to forgive yourself for any failures or mistakes that you have committed in the past and move on.

You have to look at the future and stop living in the past. Be compassionate towards yourself.

7. Go with a Positive Attitude

Having a positive attitude towards everything is the quickest way in achieving that belief and confidence in yourself.

Be thankful for whatever you are and whatever you have. Always have a positive approach and see the good in the world.

8. Let a Life Coach Help You

A life coach is a professional that helps, supports, and guides you. A life coach can help you recognize your abilities and skills. They can help you refocus on your goals and remember your past successes.

When you’re full of doubt, your life coach will believe in you and help you to believe in yourself again.

9. Keep Moving Forward And Never Look Back

There are going to be countless times in your life when you will feel down and you will feel like giving up. The voice in your head will tell you to stop and you will start to doubt yourself, but never listen to that voice.

Be strong and keep moving on. Never give up on yourself. You have to keep on going and eventually you will reach your destination. And when you do, you will realise how much more powerful you have become.

10. Let Life Move You

Let your life follow its own natural flow.  When you learn to follow your life’s flow, you’ll realize that life is marvellous and precious.

If you let your life guide you, it will shower you with its gifts and riches. You have to accept the life you are given and you have to learn to relax. Allow it to let you move in the direction you are meant to go, and you will find success.

Until next month

Start believing in yourself. and make your dreams a reality.

Have a good month

Jon X

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It all Starts With You

June Blog In Audible Format.

Welcome to June’s Blog.

When you believe in yourself, you can overcome self-doubt and have the confidence to take action and get things done. When you’re drowning in fears, doubts, and self-sabotaging behaviors, success feels out of your grasp. All of the skills, training, and tools in the world won’t change your life
Some people say it’s resources, luck, background or connections that create successful people. Whereas I surely agree that all these and many other factors influence the path of every individual, the most contributing factor to achieving something significant is self-belief. Without this key ingredient, there’s not a lot that could help you.
To put yourself on the track to success, you need to understand that your brain always plays against you. It doesn’t care about your big goals, the only thing it wants is to keep you alive. Therefore, we experience procrastination, self-doubt, negative thinking, anxiety and so on. The sure-fire way to overcome these obstacles is to not believe in them and truly believe in yourself.
If you don’t believe in yourself, who else will?
Honestly, if you don’t believe you’re going to succeed, then how on earth would anybody else do? Let’s say you want to build a successful business and you need to convince the investors that your idea is the one worth putting funds into.

You build self-confidence

If you are not confident enough, you’ll break like a twig the first time you face an obstacle. Whatever you want to achieve, there will be countless barriers questioning your competences. The only way to get through them is by being confident enough that you can and will.

This confidence comes from within, from the deep belief in yourself and your abilities.

Most of my work is with women who have fallen out of love with themselves. They come to me because they are struggling,  and they want me to help them get the skills they need to live their life better. They want something quick and clear, a top ten list of items to implement in order to live effectively. If it were only that easy.

You Can Do It

THE IMPACT OF BELIEVING IN YOURSELF

Believing in yourself affects everything you do. Everything. From your professional life to your personal life to your solitary life. In your relationship with yourself and in your relationships with others. In the choices you make and in the dreams you dream. How you view yourself, how you measure your value, how you assess your potential and how you determine your worth all combine to create the life you will live.

From your days as a student, the choices you make are determined by your belief in yourself. You choose your classes, your major, your training, your first job, not just based on what you think you might enjoy but based on what you think you are capable of and even deserve.

Parents, guidance counsellors, friends and neighbours may have influenced your belief in yourself by the judgement and advice they have given you- good, bad or otherwise. By ascribing certain schools as longshots or safeties based on their perception of your ability. By telling you which jobs you were qualified for or had enough experience in.

Sometimes these messages were shared with words like, “that’s a really hard school to get into” or “only the top students are ever chosen for that program.” Other times the message was more of a reaction, a look even, when you told someone, you trusted what you wanted and hoped for. Their eyes, their smile, their surprise indicated their support or disbelief. You may be receiving these messages still.

When we internalize the messages we receive, we often give them more weight than we do our own beliefs about ourselves. We start to take on the identity others ascribe to us and make choices based on that identity. We believe the version of ourselves that others project, a version that often reflects their own beliefs in themselves. We let others determine our value and worth. We let others write our stories.

In other cases, we receive great support and encouragement from those around us. We are fortunate to be told, over and over again, that we are valuable and worthy and capable of oh so much. That we can do anything we set our minds to. That the world is ours for the taking and that we can live the life we choose. But then, we reject these messages and raise the voice inside of us that says, “What do you know?”

So wherever you are coming from, whatever messages you have been told, whatever voices you have chosen to listen to, you are in a position today, right this moment to tell yourself that you are worthy and valuable and filled with potential and that you believe in yourself. No matter what anyone else has ever told you, including yourself.

It All Starts With You

START BELIEVING IN YOURSELF BY BELIEVING IN YOURSELF

Too often we look at others and compare our worth to theirs. Or we look at our past and use it to determine our future. Neither of these has any bearing whatsoever on what your life can be. No matter how successful and talented you deem everyone else to be or how many times you think you have failed, when you believe that the future is whatever you choose to make it, that is exactly what it begins to be.

You will decide what jobs to apply for based on your belief in your ability to secure them and do them well. You will pursue promotions based on your belief that you have earned them and that you are ready for the next level. You will take chances, risks and opportunities based on your belief that they are valuable for your growth and that you are valuable and deserving of them. You will negotiate and ask for raises based on your confidence in doing so and your belief that the money is rightfully yours. You will learn to confront people and situations because being liked by others is far less important to you than being respected and liked by yourself and believing in your strength to do the right thing. You will lead with confidence and vision because you recognize how great you can be, even if your skills are not yet where you would like them to be.

BELIEVING IN YOURSELF STARTS BEGINS AND ENDS WITH YOUR MINDSET

And like everything else, it all starts with your mindset, with the conversations you have with yourself and the messages you choose to believe. You can tell yourself that you are simply not good at something, or you can tell yourself that you can get better at anything you dedicate your energy to. You can talk yourself out of applying for a job you want because you think you will never get it, or you can prepare a powerful cover letter explaining why you are a fabulous fit for the position. You can tell yourself that you are just not good at public speaking or confrontation you excel or you can invest in your growth to get better at what will help you shine.

So how do you believe in yourself in moments or even a lifetime when you don’t? Some people will tell you to fake it until you do not have to fake it anymore. If that works for you, then do that. But more than faking it, I think being honest and starting exactly where you are is more effective. When I work with clients who want to quit smoking, the most powerful advice I ever give is all they had to do to quit smoking was to not smoke. Believing in yourself works exactly the same way. If you want to start doing it, you simply need to start doing it.  It is a process and it may be slower and harder than you would prefer., but know that you will get better at it if you choose.

Until next month

Start believing in yourself. and make your dreams a reality.

Have a good month

Jon X

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Motivate you.

May’s Blog in Audio Form

Hi welcome to May’s blog. Following on from last months motivation in yourself and the people around you.  How did you get on? Did you make changes? Did you motivate yourself or others? 

Reflect on How Far You’ve Come

How often do you pause, reflect, and appreciate how far you’ve come?

If you’re like many people, you probably don’t give yourself enough credit for all the growth you’ve gone through.

Take a few minutes to close your eyes and remember your successes, however small – relive and feel into them.

Do this often to help you stay motivated.

Remind Yourself of Your “Why”

Motivation comes from working on things we care about. Take a moment to write down three reasons you want to find motivation to get things done. Do you want to improve your fitness, get an education, save money, or start a business?

Why?

Keep coming up with answers until you find ones that will help you stay motivated.

Eliminate Distractions Mercilessly

Distractions are the enemy of focus. If you want to get motivated, you must eliminate distractions. Difference between successful people and very successful people is that very successful people say ‘no’ to almost everything.”

The saying goes, “You can have anything you want. However, you can’t have everything you want.”

So, turn your phone off and leave it in a different room. Close the door. Turn the music off. Delete distracting apps.

Remind yourself that you are not punishing yourself – you’re just focusing on your goals. Then, remember what you truly want in the long-term.

What do you want in life?

Commit 100% to the Deal You’re Making

Remember, nothing comes for free. When you want something, you have to give something in return – whether it’s time, effort, hard work, or emotional discomfort.

That’s the deal.

Take a moment to recognize and appreciate the deal you’re making. Then commit to it 100%.  “Nothing will work unless you do.”

Declutter and Tidy

It’s extremely difficult to motivate yourself if you can’t see your bedroom floor and your desk looks like something has exploded on it. Have you ever heard the expression, “tidy space, tidy mind”?

What’s your environment like? Is it tidy, neat, and clean? Or is it messy and cluttered? Work from the outside in and create an environment that helps you to stay motivated.

Change Your Inputs

You know the saying, “you are what you eat.” And we consume a lot every day – food, music, podcasts, TV, social media. So, if you’re finding it challenging to motivate yourself, mix things up a bit. Listen to motivational podcasts, check out a must-read book, or watch some inspiring videos.

This can help you to freshen up, get energized, and find motivation to get things done.

Look to People in Your Life for Motivation

Some people energize us, others we find draining. So, when possible, seek out enthusiastic, motivated people to spend time with. Let yourself get wrapped up in their positive energy, and you may start developing self-motivation, too.

Ask for Help From Friends and Family

If you’re really struggling to motivate yourself, consider asking a close friend or family member for help. You could ask them to hold you accountable and check up on your progress.

By expressing your goals out loud to someone else, it can help to make them feel more real. Plus, if you know someone will check in on your progress, you may be more likely to follow through.

You Can Do It

Follow Inspiring People Who Motivate You

There are so many inspiring people out there who can help you to motivate yourself. Is there an entrepreneur, teacher, musician, or politician you find inspiring?

You can also learn how people you admire stay motivated, and then apply the lessons to your own life. As the ancient Greek philosopher Socrates once said, “Smart people learn from everything and everyone, average people from their experiences, stupid people already have all the answers.”

Listen to an Upbeat Song

If you need to motivate yourself quickly, try this super-simple tip: listen to a song you love that’s upbeat, inspiring, and full of energy. For bonus points, dance like a crazy person at the same time. Then, as soon as the song finishes, don’t pause – dive straight into action. It may become one of your favourite ways to stay motivated.

Remember Your Power and Potential

Look, you are powerful, and you have enormous potential. You may not feel like it sometimes, and you may even feel like I’m silly for saying it to you, but it’s true.

 “The most common reason people give up their power is because they think they don’t have any.”

So, please, take a moment to dig deep and try to connect with your inner power and potential – imagine what you could achieve.

Become still. Then listen to that quiet voice in your head saying,

 “You’ve Got This.”

How to find motivation?

The hardest part of finding motivation is often starting your search. You don’t need a perfect plan to get started. If you’re feeling overwhelmed by a task or full of negative emotions, find something small—no matter how small—to get started. This could be as simple as something you’re already doing—like reading an article on motivation.

Where to find motivation

You may find it difficult to get motivated to complete a big task or achieve a goal that may take years to realize. One way to find motivation is to break things down into smaller tasks. That way, you can make real progress in a day (or maybe just an hour or a few minutes).

You may also want to do a “retrospective” on achievements in months or years past—you may be surprised at how far you’ve already come.

What to do when you have no motivation

You don’t have to find motivation on your own. If you’re feeling stuck or preoccupied with negative energy, ask friends or family to provide more perspective or help you talk through your goals.

Don’t have anyone to talk to right now? There are hundreds of inspirational personalities online who share their wisdom in every format—short and long, text and video. Find a few people in your area (e.g., business, relationships) who fill your inbox or social media feed with positivity.

How to Motivate Yourself: A Summary

Getting motivated can be tough – and it can be even more challenging to stay motivated. In summary, here are 20 ways to motivate yourself:

  • Just start and wait for the motivation to catch up with you.
  • Break tasks down into smaller, more manageable steps.
  • Create a positive mindset by asking yourself, “what’s good about this situation?”
  • Create positive feelings by writing down three things you’re grateful for.
  • Be kind to yourself when you make a mistake, then come back to the task at hand.
  • Know that mistakes are a necessary part of progress – accept and learn from them.
  • Cut overwhelming to-do lists down and focus on just one thing at a time.
  • Let go of goals that overwhelm you and set attainable goals that energize you.
  • Imagine your future if you don’t motivate yourself.
  • Reflect on your past successes and use the positive feelings to stay motivated.
  • Remind yourself of the reason why you want to find motivation to get things done.
  • Remember the trade-off you need to make to get what you want, then commit 100%.
  • Eliminate the things that distract you and then focus on one thing to achieve your goals.
  • Tidy space, tidy mind – declutter and organize your space to help motivate yourself.
  • Stay motivated by experiencing different food, music, books, or podcasts.
  • Look to people in your life who inspire and motivate you.
  • Ask close friends and family to help hold you accountable.
  • Follow people who inspire you online.
  • Listen – and dance! – to an upbeat song. Then dive into action when it finishes.
  • Connect with your true potential – you’re more powerful than you think.

Until next month

Stay motivated, Stay Positive and Stay healthy

Have a good month

Jon X

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Motivate Yourself and Your Staff

Audio Version of April Blog

“Stay away from those people who try to disparage your ambitions. Small minds will always do that, but great minds will give you a feeling that you can become great too.”

Mark Twain

Welcome to April’s blog. This month I want to chat about motivation. For some time now I have been posting on TikTok, just 15 second motivational videos, Giving words of encouragement and strength and letting people know they are not alone. I don’t have a massive following (about 1600 but rising daily) but what I do have is a loyal following. I record these videos to help others. But you know what, their words back to me of thanks and appreciation help me as much as I like to help them.

So this got me thinking, We all need a bit of motivation in our lives. What do you do or say to motivate yourself? First of all you need to find out what motivates you or perhaps you employ people and you want to motivate them. Find out what motivates them.

Do you know what gets you or them out of bed in the morning? What are you or them passionate about –your goals, their goals, aspirations, and interests? In other words, do you really know your yourself or your employees? Great leaders show an interest in their people’s jobs and career aspirations in order to motivate them the right way. Once that’s been established, they look into the future to create learning and development opportunities for their people or themselves. They find out what motivates their best people by getting to know what desires will drive each person as an individual. This is about emotional engagement.

Praise and compliment them often.

“I don’t like to be recognized,” said no human being, ever. Managers have to get into the habit of praising and complimenting their people for their good qualities and work. Companies in a recent study with the highest engagement levels use recognition and praise as a powerful motivator to get their commitment. They found that employees who receive it on a regular basis increase their individual productivity, receive higher loyalty and satisfaction scores from customers, and are more likely to stay with their organization. How regular are we talking? Praise should be given once per week. Praise yourself, praise the people who are around you.

Help co-create purposeful work.

People want meaning and purpose in their work. You want meaning and purpose in your life. Give and Take, when people find purpose in their life or work, it not only improves that person’s happiness, it also boosts productivity. One way to give employees that purpose, is to have them meet the very people they are helping and serving, even if just for a few minutes. Managers giving their people access to customers so they can see first hand the human impact their work makes is the greatest human motivator.


“Success is not final; failure is not fatal: It is the courage to continue that counts.”

Winston S Churchill

Help yourself to develop new skills. Help them develop new skills.

Although important, I’m not so much talking about putting them through another required technical or safety training program to keep them or the business compliant, but actually giving them meaningful new skills or knowledge in other areas that they can use to leverage their natural strengths for future roles, whether with their current company or another company. The point is to serve and value them so exceptionally well as people and workers that they have no reason to leave but use their newfound skills for new projects.

Actively involve yourself. Actively involve them.

Great managers recognize that leadership doesn’t travel one way but is multi-directional. While it can come from the top down at critical times, the best scenario is allowing decisions, information, and delegation to travel from peer to peer or from the bottom up, where the collective wisdom and involvement of the whole team help solve real issues in real time on the frontlines.

Believe in yourself. Believe in them.

The best managers delegate often and give their employees responsibility for delivering challenging work. If this doesn’t happen in your workplace, consider two hard questions that work in business and in day to day life:

  • Do you trust your knowledge workers to do what they’ve been hired to do?
  • Do they have the right competence for the job to carry out the work with confidence?

So often managers underestimate the potential and ability of their employees to use their brains! If you answered yes to the questions above, be of the mindset to always accept that they can do the work. Then, give them the room to perform and support them with whatever they need to make them even better. This is how you motivate them to the rafters.

So how do you find that motivational Mindset?


“Don’t let yesterday take up too much of today.”

Will Rodgers

How to Find Motivation

1. Just Start

Urgh. Don’t you just hate this advice?

Still, there’s a reason we’ve all heard it a million times: it can work wonders.

You don’t always need to reason with your emotions or rationalize why you need to do something. You can deal with those negative feelings later on, at the right time. Instead, try setting aside all of the negative emotions and simply START.

As the famous writer Mark Twain once said: “The secret of getting ahead is getting started.”

2. Break Tasks Down Into Small Steps

Woah… another piece of ground-breaking, never-heard-before advice, right?

Again, there’s a reason so many people recommend that you use this tactic when trying to motivate yourself – sometimes it’s the simplest things done well that work the best.

Remember, you can’t do everything at once.

Here’s a method to help you find motivation to get things done: Write down what you need to do on a piece of paper. Then, write down every single step you need to take to make it happen. Finally, ignore everything except the step you’re working on.

Once in the flow, you may just find it easier to continue with the next task.

3. Create a Positive Mindset

Getting motivated is almost impossible if you’re looking at the situation from a negative viewpoint. On the other hand, positivity can be energizing and help you to motivate yourself.

So, pause and ask yourself, “what’s good about this situation?”

As the author Catherine Pulsifer said, “If we have the attitude that it’s going to be a great day it usually is.”

4. Create a Feeling of Gratitude

When you find yourself stuck in a rut, it can feel impossible to motivate yourself. So before you try to motivate yourself, take a step back and try to appreciate how you feel.

When you feel appreciation for yourself, it’s much easier to stay motivated.

One of the quickest ways to feel good about yourself is to practice gratitude – it’s almost entirely impossible to feel low and grateful at the same time.

To practice gratitude, start by writing down three things you’re grateful for. These could be anything – from your morning coffee, to your pet, or even the comfortable chair you sit on.

Ideally, you could make this part of your daily routine to find everyday motivation.


“There are three ways to ultimate success: The first way is to be kind. The second way is to be kind. The third way is to be kind.”

Mr Rodgers

5. Be Kind to Yourself

When you procrastinate or make a mistake, it’s easy to beat yourself up. In fact, if you’re like many people, you may find that you internally “speak” to yourself in a mean way.

If you notice yourself doing this, pause and try to speak to yourself kindly instead. You wouldn’t speak to someone else that way, so why do it to yourself? You deserve your own kindness.

Try to remember your true inherent value as a human being. Then, allow yourself to gently come back to the task at hand.

6. Be Constructive

When you realize you’ve made a mistake or finally bring yourself back from a procrastination session, you have a golden opportunity to learn and improve.

Ask yourself, “Why did I make this mistake? How can I avoid making the same mistake in the future?”

If you do this and act on what you learn, you’ll transform mistakes into opportunities.

An entrepreneur once said, “We need to accept that we won’t always make the right decisions, that we’ll screw up royally sometimes – understanding that failure is not the opposite of success, it’s part of success.”

7. Cut Your To-Do List Down

To-do lists can help us organize our tasks and focus on what’s important. However, they can also overwhelm us so much that we end up procrastinating even more.

So, if you find yourself struggling to stay motivated, cut your to-do list down to a more manageable size.

Each day, choose no more than three tasks and make that your new to-do list. Then, ignore all but the first item. You may find that with time, you can take on a longer to-do list.

8. Set Attainable Goals That Excite You

If you have a goal that feels too big or unattainable, it may make you feel crippled with anxiety and fear. This is a surefire way to prevent yourself from developing motivation.

For now, let go of goals that paralyze you. Instead, choose exciting enough goals to help you motivate yourself, but not so big that you freeze when facing them.

Keep your eyes on the stars, and your feet on the ground.”

9. Imagine Your Future If You Don’t Change

This tip can make inspiring yourself easy: Instead of focusing on the change you want, imagine the life you’ll have if you don’t stay motivated.

Ask yourself, “What will life be like in one year, five years, and ten years?”

I will continue this blog next month. Let me know if you implement any of these ideas and if you do, let me know how you get on.

Until next month.

I wish you health and happiness.

Take care

Jon X

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New Beginnings

Audio Version of This Months Blog

Whether you welcome a fresh beginning or dread it, I want to help you move forward with confidence. Changes happen for a variety of reasons–sometimes we want a change and sometimes we need it. Other beginnings happen because life is hard and time marches on.

Let your past make you better. NOT bitter

You’ve Got This

When You Want A New Beginning

There’s nothing like the feeling of starting something new when it’s a change you choose to pursue. You’re confident about a new direction, but nervous energy is very real. I can help you channel that nervousness into genuine excitement.

Of the four types of new beginnings, this one is my favourite. I admit, I love change. I honestly don’t know why…maybe it’s the thought of a challenge and conquering new things for the achiever in me? I realize however, not everyone is as enthusiastic about change as I am, but there are definitely times when people look forward to fresh beginnings that are exciting or compelling.

A New Start

Why You Might Want A Fresh Start

New beginnings are welcomed for a variety of reasons, like trying something new, taking on a new challenge or finally stepping outside of our comfort zone. I love the energy that comes with a fresh start.

  • getting a new job
  • moving to another city or state
  • buying or building a home
  • starting a business
  • pursuing a new hobby
  • traveling internationally
  • getting married
  • having or adopting or fostering children (My adoption story is a great one, but I realise I was very very lucky)
  • learning a new language
  • changing careers
  • following a dream

When we start something new, we do it  because we want it, it can lead to some pretty amazing adventures. Never allow waiting to become a habit. Live your dreams and take risks. Life is happening now. Remember, we only get one shot.

When You Need A New Beginning

Sometimes you start something new because you know you need a change. Self-awareness can make this pretty obvious, but it takes work to really be in tune with ourselves and our circumstances. A new beginning can motivate you to make a productive change.

Being intentional about reflection is one of the best ways to assess our lives and make adjustments in a positive direction. If we’re unhappy about an area of our life, then we should figure out a way to change it. And if we can’t change it, we can commit to a new attitude about it.

I’ll be honest here. I don’t have a whole lot of patience with modern day attitudes when they’re unhappy about something that’s in their power to change. I struggle in conversations with teenagers or other adults who feel like life happens to them and there’s nothing they can do about it.

We always have a choice about how we respond and whether we stay where we are or move forward toward something better, even if it’s hard to get started.

Don’t live the same year 75 times and call it a life.

It all Starts With You

Why You Might Need A New Start

You might know you need a fresh beginning, but it’s still hard to take the first step toward something unfamiliar. If you know the outcome will be worth the effort, you can do the hard work it takes to get there.

  • exercising more often
  • ending toxic friendships or relationships
  • taking care of your mental health
  • choosing gratitude (I wrote about how I choose gratitude even when it’s the last thing I feel like doing.)
  • establishing healthy boundaries with family and friends
  • making rest and sleep a priority
  • eating healthier food
  • losing weight
  • fighting addiction
  • finding community (Life is busy, but here’s how and why you need to make time for friends.)
  • facing our fears
  • going back to work after staying home with kids
  • changing jobs or careers
  • When my marriage hit its lowest point.

Sometimes you need an extra push to make a change you know you need to make. New beginnings can give you the encouragement and confidence you need.

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A New Beginning Because Life Is Hard

At some point, crisis will touch us all. The aftermath of a crisis demands something different because you can’t go back to the way things were. New beginning will help you put one foot in front of the other to keep moving forward. These new beginnings are the hardest. Sometimes we just don’t see them coming or they’re forced upon us. We can’t avoid them and we certainly didn’t choose them:

Why Life Can Be Hard Sometimes

These are the most difficult new beginnings and the ones we resist the most. A painful ending often transitions into a new beginning that feels forced upon us.

  • losing a job
  • the death of a loved one
  • a divorce or breakup
  • losing a close friend after an argument or misunderstanding
  • saying goodbye to friends or family because of a move
  • financial difficulty
  • physical or emotional struggles after an accident
  • losing someone to suicide
  • dealing with the heartbreak of a miscarriage
  • struggling with infertility
  • parenting a child with a disability
  • dealing with a frightening diagnosis like cancer or dementia

New beginnings will remind you that there’s more life to live on the other side of crisis, and you can make it there.

Don’t be afraid of new beginnings. Don’t shy away from new people, new energy, new surroundings. Embrace new chances at happiness.

Believe in Yourself.

A New Beginning Because Time Marches On

Sometimes we start something new simply because we can’t stop time. Seasons of life come and go, regardless of how ready we are. When we find ourselves in those moments, new beginning quotes can remind us to enjoy each step of our life’s journey.

As I get older, I’m much more aware of the passing of time. If I’m not paying close attention, I end up in a different season of life and struggle to adjust because I don’t even know it’s happening. These fresh beginnings sometimes creep up on us, even though we know they’re coming eventually.

Make this your Month

How Time Marches On

Life moves so much faster than we realize. We welcome a new year every 365 days, but it can still surprise us. Sometimes we welcome the passing of time and other times we resist it.

I feel like I’m in the middle of some significant life changes right now that I wasn’t quite ready for, perhaps the last few years, I’ve had a lot of pretty major things happen and although it’s pretty normal for people in their 50s,

At 54 I decided to leave a job I had been in for 26 years. I had no financial backing, no support from my wife but I had one thing, which I had in abundance. Belief in myself. I knew I wanted to help others and hypnotherapy had got me through a vary bleak period in my life due to a lot of serious illness. And I wanted to do the same for people who were struggling.

5 years down the line, I’m still in business, I’m building a good reputation and I’m helping people get back on track to enjoy their lives. Thanks to Zoom I now work all over the world. And since the pandemic hit I have found a new outlet in TikTok which allows me to get messages of support and encouragement to a much wider audience If you want to follow me you can by clicking here. Each month I offer words of comfort, support and encouragement on different subjects and this month it is New beginnings.

If you are ready to start again (but this time with experience) or just ready to take a new path Contact me. I would love to support you on your next chapter.

Until next month

Stay safe, stay healthy.

Take care.

Jon X

Jon Adkin BAHyp Clinical Hypnotherapist and IEMT Practitioner.

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