This is still me.

Hi Welcome back.

So continuing where we left off in last week in last weeks blog After leaving the hospital feeling a bit sorry for myself I jumped around jobs as I never had a plan B. (Kids, always have a plan B) More dislocations meant more time doing nothing. but I didn’t like to sit around doing nothing I got a job designing kitchens which I enjoyed for many years until… my other shoulder started to dislocate. This meant more ops, more time in plaster. Now I never was a fan of daytime TV Kilroy (The Jeremy Kyle of its day) never did it for me. so I offered my services to my sons school, helping with reading, art etc. The head teacher use to pick me up in the morning (She was not a great driver bless her) and I would jump on the school bus at the end of the day. She then employed me as the midday assistant. in the end, that stop gap lasted 26 years. raising to the heights of ICT Manager. Now during my time at the school I suffered even more illness. I had two heart attacks, 2 strokes and a few more dislocations. On paper I was a mess.

Now as much as I loved working with the kids, due to the illnesses and constant hospital visits (bearing in mind I was still in my 30s at this time) I lost my confidence and self worth. Looking back I was dipping into depression and I needed to do something about it. Yes life had dealt me a bad hand but I had two choices. Curl up on the sofa and give up or pull myself together and make the most of life. I chose to do the latter, but I needed help.

I went to W H Smith (No Amazon back then. Yes I am that old) and I bought myself Paul McKennas Self hypnosis books. Little did I know that would not only change my life but it would eventually guide me to my career today.

Not only did that book and the videos. Yes videos (do you remember videos? if not ask your Mum or Dad) They not only helped me get back on track they actually made me even more confident and full of self belief. Thanks to Paul I was back, better than ever.

All them years ago I never ever thought I would one day be a professional Hypnotherapist, but I like to study and read, so I continued to buy Paul’s books and became more and more intrigued as to why hypnosis did what it did.  I read lots of books and watched some DVD’s (yep we have moved on ) and then about 4 years ago I decided to train. never intending to do it as a career, I was just interested.

I studied, I worked with volunteers, I even roped my reluctant son in to help me. The more I did, the more I enjoyed it. I could do it.  I could really do it.

I qualified as a Hypnotherapist and I was so proud of myself. I had set myself a goal and I had reached it. this was the start of a whole new chapter of my life.

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Now I finished last weeks blog with a question. Did I make it as an entertainer? Well yes and no. Not in the way that I had envisaged I wrote Children’s books. The Adventures of Carla Bear. (6 in the set so far)  and over the years in the school I dressed up in many many guises and entertained the kids. I ran some of the school discos and every Summer fete and Christmas Bazaar I was there behind the mic. I even proved the Doctors wrong and I played the drums again. I couldn’t do 4 hour gigs like I use to, but I could play again and for years I taught the kids at school drums.  I loved my time at the school and seeing the kids flourish but it was time for a change.

A big change.

I started to offer my hypnotherapy services on evenings and weekends and I was really pleased in the way it was received. I had found a new purpose in life. I love to help people and the buzz that I was getting was making me want to do more.

So I did.

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I bit the bullet and I left the school. I didn’t have any support but what I did have is a lot of self belief and confidence. I know I could make it work, I believed in me.  It’s now approaching nearly 2 years since I made that jump. The house has not been repossessed, I’m not starving and actually I’m having more holidays than I ever did before. I’m making it work.

I have a lot of happy clients as you can see from my testimonial page. I’m helping others to make the changes in their lives and that makes me happy.

Moral of this story. Set yourself goals and reach them. Believe in yourself and have the confidence to go forward. You will make mistakes, but learn from them, don’t look back.

Until next time

Jon XX

 

 

What can it do for you?

Hi.

If you are a regular reader of my blog (and there are some of you) you know that I am a hypnotherapist. and an EFT/TFT Tapping practitioner  So last night I got talking to someone and the question arose “Well what could you do for me?” and the answer is lots actually.

You don’t have to be overweight, or a smoker or an anxiety sufferer to want to visit a hypnotherapist. We can can help you with so many aspects of your life and modern living. It’s not all about fears and Phobias.

Let me give you some examples, (and just so you know names, dates and possibly genders are changed in these case studies. to protect clients).

Case Study 1:

Client was feeling totally worthless and life had no purpose.

2 sessions with the client showed them that they were not worthless and that their life definitely had a purpose. We worked together on building their self worth, made them feel that they can handle what life throws at them, seeing new challenges as a way of growth. followed by reinventing their outlook on life. Replacing those damaging negative thoughts with more positive constructive thoughts.

Outcome:

This was 7 months ago. I met the client in town just last week.  I saw him before he saw me. He was smiling, his body language shouted confidence and he looked happy. When he saw me he came straight over with his NEW partner. (There wasn’t one at the time of the sessions) and he introduced her to me. He can’t believe the change in himself and he is now full of optimism for his future.

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Case Study 2:

Client was struggling with anger issues.

3 sessions booked in. Did some emotional release as to the root of the anger. then worked with the client showing them that they can release that anger before a hand is raised. then did some future pacing using visualisation. showing the client what life will be like once their anger is under control, their control.

Outcome:

Life has become so much more peaceful at home. and their partner is not living on their nerves anymore if they go out for a drink. The client is so much calmer and does not get angry over things that use to make them snap.

Case study 3:

Relationship breakdown.

My client came to me because of a relationship breakdown and didn’t feel that they could move on. we booked in 3 sessions and in those 3 sessions we used a method that I have in my toolbox called The Blueprint. It’s a fantastic content free protocol that will help shift negativity, unwanted thoughts, past trauma etc then once we have cleared those thoughts, those patterns of behaviour we start on rebuilding the confidence and self belief which is always in you. It just gets covered over and we tend to forget that we are in control of our thoughts and beliefs.

Outcome.

6 months later. a very happy independent person who now knows they don’t have to rely on others and can very much be their own person. They are dipping their toe back into the dating scene but with a new found confidence.

Here is a link to my testimonial page. I love to receive feedback and to see how my clients are doing.

So you see. It’s not just about fear of flying or fear of heights etc etc . It’s all about you and making you the best that you possibly can be.

I love this work and the satisfaction that it brings. Seeing the long term change in my clients makes me feel so pleased and proud that I could help them.

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So why did I get into it, I hear you ask. (Go on someone ask please)… I will tell you. Because it saved me. In my 30s (I’m 57 now) I had some major illnesses. 2 heart attacks 2 mini strokes and various medical procedures. I lost my confidence my self belief and my mojo. So I had a decision to make I could have curled up on the sofa and watched Kilroy (the then equivalent of the Jeremy Kyle show) or I could pull myself together.

I did the latter. I started with self hypnosis books. Thanks Paul Mckenna. then as time went on not only did I regain all my confidence back I exceeded where I wanted to be. So a few years back I decided to train to become a hypnotherapist. Not intending to do it as a career I just wanted to know why it made a world of difference for me.

So I trained and the more I did the more I loved it. Not only could I do it I was bloody good at it (yep, blowing my own trumpet here) So I qualified and I started doing it in the evenings alongside my proper job. However the more I did, the more I loved it and the buzz from helping people was amazing so I took a leap of faith nearly 2 years ago and went full time.

I have not looked back. (Well I have but I fell over so I won’t be doing that again)

I believed in me and I got that from hypnotherapy and that’s why when you come and see me you can see the passion and the enthusiasm that I have, and having been there I know I can get you back on track.

So that’s my little story for this week. Next week I will blogging about ???? who know’s I just sit down and see what comes. however what I do know is that it will be of benefit to you the reader in some way. as that’s what I like doing. I like helping people.

Until next time

Have a great week

Jon X

Ps. I’ve also written a few books(Search Jon Adkin on Amazon) and painted a few pictures

I’m Passionate.

Hi Welcome to the end of May.

Now did the title of this blog interest you? Are you expecting a blog all about relationships and loving? if you are you may be a little disappointed.  What I was pointing out is that I’m passionate about my work (Sorry to disappoint). I’ve just spent a few days in Ireland and whilst I was there I caught up with some of the extended family and of course the conversations got round to my work and hypnotherapy especially.  Now once I get talking about what I do, I won’t stop, and the one word that kept coming out was passion. they pointed out to me how passionate I am about hypnotherapy, how passionate I am towards helping others and how passionate I was to build my business.

You know what they are absolutely right. I am passionate, and if that comes across, then I’m pleased. When I was working at the school I loved my job and I enjoyed seeing the children develop, but now It’s different. I see clients perhaps for only 3 or 4 sessions and in that time we work together to turn that persons life around, and we do.

In my last blog Do you feel lucky.  I told you why I do what I do, and it’s good to know that my passion still comes across.

Are you passionate about anything?

The thing is, the biggest misconception about people finding their passion is that the ones who haven’t found it yet think it will just click for them and come naturally. That’s not the case. Our passion is something we stick with long enough to thoroughly enjoy doing it, that we don’t even mind working for long hours on it.

Here are my tips to help you find your passion. Pick something that you’re naturally talented at, and just stick with it. It doesn’t matter if you want to switch or you don’t like it anymore, pursue it long enough to be able to win a couple of competitions in that field. Then, you will feel extremely good about it and will want to continue pursuing it, because you feel like you’re the best at it!

The thing about us humans is that, when we feel or “accept” that we can’t be the best at something, we lose interest in it and move on to something else. That’s what being lazy is all about- when we easily give up and move onto something that we think is easier. The people who actually find their passion are those who stick with one thing long enough to be at the top.

People with a passion are able to enjoy it for a long time because what they do makes them feel good about themselves, that they are better than everyone else at it. But how do you become the best at something? Well by spending more time on that thing than other people.

So don’t worry about not being passionate about anything right now. Very rarely will someone be passionate about something from the start. Find something you like or something you are talented at, and once you spend enough time to become an expert at it, trust me, you’ll always enjoy doing it. Passion is that satisfactory feeling that comes as a result of forcing yourself to become skilled enough to beat others, putting you on top of the world!

It sounds like that’s the same case with you and pretty much everyone else who doesn’t enjoy their work. You may “like” some things, but once you get put down by others who are better than you, you quit. To overcome that and turn something into your passion, don’t give up so easily and keep on pursuing it until you reach the top.

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Who knows what your passion may be.

here are 10 things to get passionate about.

1. Yourself

You will end up spending the rest of your life with yourself! Investing passion into your self, your self-improvement, and future development is always going to be a good investment.

Of course, that can be much easier said than done for a lot of people. Anything ranging from mental health problems to general set-backs in life can prevent a person from seeing their own value and worth.

2. Animals

Animals and pets serve as a comforting escape for so many people. They are relatively uncomplicated, especially when compared to trying to navigate the difficulties of work, life, relationships, and friendships.

Animals are fairly simple and offer unconditional love, which inspires similar passion in animal lovers and pet owners.

A passion for animals can extend to your own pets, volunteering at shelters, pet sitting, bird watching, dog walking, or just sitting at a dog park and watching the animals play.

3. Hobbies

There are so many different hobbies and interests out there to take part in.

Developing a passion for a hobby, particularly a hobby that you can share with others, can really help ignite passion and creativity in other areas of your life.

4. Art

Few things invoke passion in people like art, even if we aren’t necessarily an artist ourselves.

There is something to be said about the magnificence of seeing masterpieces of creativity, whether they are paintings, sculptures, writing, or anything that a person creates through their vision and effort.

5. Uplifting Others

Kindness is an investment that always pays back dividends, not necessarily from the outside, but for one’s own peace of mind and soul.

People are social creatures and we benefit from socialisation. In many ways, what we put out into the world is returned to us in the form of our own inner peace, happiness, contentment, and well-being.

That makes developing passion for others into something that can really help with our peace of mind and place in life.

Developing a habit for uplifting and helping others, whether it’s in your personal life or through charity work with others, is a great choice.

6. Learning

A passion for learning can open so many doors and broaden your horizons.

Learning is a gift that continuously gives to the person who is nurturing and growing their knowledge.

Learning also pairs well with experiences. It’s one thing to read a book or listen to a lecture, but actually going out and partaking in a new activity that you learned about can help you meet new people and develop a deeper understanding.

7. Simplifying

Life is a complicated machine with an infinite array of moving parts. Developing a passion for simplification can help bring everything into a more orderly focus.

Life, of course, is not always easy or predictable. Things will come out of nowhere that can affect your life either positively or negatively.

Simplification can help reduce your stress, make it easier to interpret situations, and make better decisions in the overall grand scheme of things.

8. Health And Fitness

A passion for health and fitness will boost your well-being in the future.

The body is a machine that must be taken care of if we want it to perform well for an extended period of time. Developing a passion for health and fitness will not only help with physical health, but it helps improve one’s mental health and overall well-being.

9. Career

A career-minded person with a strong passion for what they do, whether it is something mundane or magnificent, can make a significant difference in the world and within their industry.

There are some loud voices and opinions shouting down the importance of passion and happiness about having a career, which is strange, since most of us are going to spend at least a third of our adult life working.

Finding peace, happiness, and passion in one’s career can make that time much less stressful.

And if you have a career that you don’t like or don’t feel passionate about, maybe it’s time to start looking at other options and exploring new opportunities before quitting your job and starting afresh.

There are so many roads to success and happiness out there. There’s no reason to force yourself onto just one.

10. Taking Action

The ability to take action is what leads to positive changes in one’s life and well-being.

Well wishes, ideas, and inspiration is all quite cheap and shallow. Success in all things goes to the people who choose to take action and work on their goals.

Dedication and discipline are what keep people moving forward through the low times when they doubt themselves or their path.

Anxiety and fear fade away with action, because you gain experience and build confidence in your ability to tackle the things that are in front of you.

There is no more important passion in life to develop than one for taking action. Action is what leads to every single successful venture, whether it’s personal development or professional.

And it’s super easy to start! All you need to do is choose to do the work.

Now it’s your turn. What are you passionate about? Leave a comment below to share your passions with others who might be looking for inspiration.

Have a great week.

Jon XX

Do you feel Lucky punk?

Do you remember that quote from Dirty Harry (Old Clint Eastwood film. What do you mean who is Clint Eastwood) Actually it’s a misquote, what was actually said was, “You’ve got to ask yourself one question. Do I feel lucky? Well, do ya, punk?” Do you feel lucky?

I know I do, but why. I’m short (not far off from an Elf according to my youngest son who is 6 foot tall) I’m balding rapidly, I’ve had two major heart attacks, 2 strokes, I have metal shoulders and I’m registered disabled. So what have I go to feel lucky about? Easy answer, Everything. I’m still here, I’m loving what I do helping other people and  for me and my health each day is a gift, which I enjoy opening.

know I know if you were to go by my medical records I am a mess. (Thought they were going to name a bench after me in the grounds of the local hospital at one point) but I am lucky. Lets go back to the early 60s I was born in Gloucester to a woman who decided for whatever reason she could not keep me. Now I could have just been abandoned somewhere. Left in a doorway or worse, but no. I was put up for adoption (Lucky break) at 18 months I was adopted by the best family ever and that goes for the extended family as well. (Lucky break) I had the best childhood down in London and without being spoilt I couldn’t have asked for more. I was bought up knowing I was adopted, and the way it was told me was that I was special as I was chosen. (Ok Dad wanted a girl, but luckily she was a messy eater, so they chose me) (Lucky break).

As a young adult I was a drummer in a band and thought that was going to be my future. However my shoulders had other ideas. 16 dislocations of the left shoulder in one year (Bloody painful) I had my first pin put in on the day John Lennon was shot. 8th December 1980. (Ok I can see you thinking that’s not lucky) stay with me.

That pin didn’t last long nor did the next, or the next.  Then my right shoulder started to dislocate a lot. More ops. So how is this lucky? My dislocations were wearing away my shoulder blades. Back then I could have easily have lost use of my arms but there was a surgeon in Cambridge who wanted to try something a bit radical on a young man A shoulder fusion (Lucky break). Which means I have no use of my shoulders and very restricted movement, (which I have got use to), but I have the use of my arms.  Now my operating theatre must have looked like the hardware shelf in B&Q

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So my drumming career was over as was my very short love of golf. but I had my arms. now after some sick time I had to think which direction my career would go. Now because I had become a house husband I was responsible for getting my eldest ready for school and on on the school bus each day, which I did for quite a time but each morning the head teacher use to drive past and one day she stopped (Lucky break) she asked what I did with my days while I was undergoing physiotherapy. I said not a lot so she offered to drive me in each day and I could listen to readers and help with art (my other love). Well to cut a long story short I was there for 25 years and I ended up becoming the IT manger. In that time I made some wonderful friends and met so many lovely families and worked with some lovely children. (Lucky break)

Because I believe in myself I am still achieving. I’ve written and illustrated 9 books now. (6 children’s books, 2 poem books and and a book on anxiety. I’m still setting new goals and while I am breathing I always will

Now at long last I get to the point. I didn’t have much to feel lucky about but my mindset remained positive and it always will do. When I lost my confidence and self esteem I turned to hypnotherapy to get me through, and it did. Not only did it get me through It got me beyond where I was. I used the Paul Mckenna Self hypnosis videos back then and continued to use them as my life took a whole new direction. I am now a qualified hypnotherapist and having left the school. I have my own private practise in Suffolk helping people who want help to improve their lives. I’ve written this blog because on Facebook this week I saw a post from someone saying “only bad things happen to me.” well that isn’t true. I know this person. They have their health. They are married, they have their own house, they have a job, they have a car and they have two very healthy children.  Yes they have ups and downs in life but we all have them. It’s how we deal with them and how we let it effect us.

If you ignore all the good things that happen in your life and just focus on the bad times then yes you will think you have a bad life. Those negative thoughts will consume you and you will miss out on the good points as you are sat waiting for the next bad thing to happen.

We can’t be happy all the time but we can be positive and we can flip those thoughts.

Fall down the stairs.

Negative thought… I’m gonna be in pain all day.

Positive thought…Wow I got down here quick.

Don’t let a bad 5 minutes in the day ruin that day and sometimes the rest of the week. Move on, learn from the mistake and improve yourself.

If you need help I’m here and there are many great hypnotherapists around the world that can help you. If it’s the past or your past learnings that’s holding you back. We can help with that too. We can’t change the past, but we can change how you think about it  how you let it affect you.

Change the way you talk to yourself, quiet down that critical voice in your head. You are in control of your thoughts.

Think positive, smile more and appreciate all that you have.

Have a great weekend

Jon XX

 

 

It’s nearly here.

Hi,

Welcome to this weeks blog. Guess what it’s about. anyone…. anyone…… Bueller?…. anyone? Ok I will tell you. It’s all about my weight loss programme launch. Well what a surprise.

Tomorrow I am launching my new weight loss programme All in Good Thyme. For those of you that follow me on Facebook will know that I have been promoting this a lot for the last week.  This programme has been in development for a while and has been getting some good results. varied but good. The main thing is that the clients who trialled it for me were happy. they all lost weight. some more so than others but they all lost.

So why did they lose different amounts if they were all following the same programme? Well it’s down to the individual client and how much they want it.  This programme doesn’t supply recipes to follow or exercise routines to carry out. What this programme does is changes your relationship with food, and how you see and feel about yourself.

I work on the principle that before you can deal with the issue, you must accept the issue and then make small changes to improve yourself.  This programme is not a quick fix. However done right it can be a permanent fix.

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People often ask me the question ‘how can hypnosis actually help me lose weight?’ Here are 10 ways hypnosis can help you lose weight, and maintain your ideal weight thereafter.

  1. Hypnosis helps your subconscious mind take back the control over your eating habits. If you currently feel that food controls you and it needs to be the other way around then weight loss hypnosis will support you to achieve that goal.
  2. Clinical hypnosis for weight loss will help you increase your self esteem  so that you rely less on food for comfort. Weight loss hypnosis will help you to feel better about yourself and live a more confident life.
  3. If you find that you are an impulsive eater then hypnosis can create a mind trigger so that you stop, look and listen before eating.
  4. Weight loss hypnosis will help you to increase and maintain high levels of self motivation to lose weight so that you stay on track. Motivation can be a challenge for many looking to lose weight. Hypnosis can help ensure you remain enthused about your body transformation.
  5. Hypnosis for weight loss works with the ancillary issues including letting go of any past trauma that has lead you in turn to rely on food for comfort.
  6. Hypnotherapy and hypnosis for weight loss can increase your mojo to do more exercise. It is a struggle for many to get up each day and exercise. Hypnosis can be motivational and encourage you to do the exercise you choose.
  7. Weight loss hypnosis will help you for the long term because each day you can plant new suggestions into your subconscious mind that are tailored to your specific needs.
  8. Hypnosis will help you to control binge eating by delivering a strong suggestion that you are now back in control and food is no longer the boss.
  9. If you are driven and motivated by goals then hypnosis for weight loss will drive your focus to those goals. During weight loss hypnosis you can visualise and experience the goals mentally so that your excitement to achieve is heightened.
  10. Hypnosis for weight loss will increase your overall wellbeing, your recognition of self and your enthused determination to achieve the transformation you deserve.

You may have tried so many weight loss solutions and now recognise that losing weight is a mindset issue. Hypnosis is something you may want to now explore deeper.

This programme can work alongside traditional diets such as Slimming World, Weightwatchers, the Cambridge Diet and many others.

All in Good Thyme offers my Peace of mind guarantee this is a 12 month contact agreement where you as my client can contact me should you ever feel that you are slipping back to that dark place, and we work together to get you back to where you want to be.

Now if you are quick I am offering an early Bird discount of 25% off but only till the 1st. Follow this link to take advantage of this offer now.

I hope to see you on the journey.

Have a great week

Jon XX