Mental Health is not taboo

Audio Version Of This Months Blog

Mental health isn’t and shouldn’t be a taboo subject. Life can just get to us. We don’t always know why it just happens, but when it does you need to ask for help before it takes root. Ignoring it is not going to help you. It’s not going to go away on its own. It will need some help. You will need some help.

It’s not going to go away on its own

So who do you turn to?

I understand that coping with mental illness is HARD, and not knowing who to talk to can make it feel a hundred times worse. You might be worried about what people will think of you, you might feel ashamed, you might feel that they won’t understand. I do. I get it. I get you.

So is this the new normal? As we adjust, it’s normal that we will all have different reactions. You may be looking forward to life getting back on track you may still feel nervous about the rules being relaxed. You could be feeling uncertain about what will happen over winter, or worried about the new pressures that have come with restrictions easing. Whatever you are feeling is OK. There is no right or wrong way to react. It’s natural that many of us are feeling the effects of a year of social distancing.

This autumn, it’s important to be kind to yourself and take things at your own pace. We’ve all faced challenges over the past year and many of us will need time to readjust. If you’re finding things tough, try to talk about how you are feeling with others. Family, Friends, A Doctor a professional. Remember, You’re not alone.

Tips for taking care of your mental health

You can Do It

Go at your own pace

Take time to plan. As workplaces and business open up again, it’s natural that any changes to our routine may feel overwhelming. Planning ahead of time can help you manage your time and feel more in control. If you’re feeling uncertain about meeting with other people in person, whether for work or socially, try to talk about how you are feeling and what you are comfortable with beforehand.

Set achievable goals. If you’re feeling anxious about doing something, try breaking it down to a list of smaller tasks. For example, if you haven’t been to the shops in a while, you might want to try walking in that part of town before going inside. Focus on what you want to achieve and try not to compare yourself to what you think others are doing.

Try a relaxation exercise. Sometimes something simple like controlled breathing can help us feel calmer. Muscle relaxation exercises can also help reduce feelings of stress or anxiety. If you can, find a quiet space and try out the exercises that suit you.

Find your balance

Pay attention to how you are feeling. A self-help web app can help you track your mood and includes practical tips and techniques to help you look after your emotional health.

Make time for yourself. It could be something creative, playing sports or taking a copy of the paper to a park for half an hour in the sun. Even stepping away and taking a five-minute break over a cup of tea can help you relax and recharge.

Take a break from the news and social media. If you find it hard to stay offline, prioritising other activities can help you switch it off. Try turning off your notifications or leaving your phone in another room for a few hours. If your job involves lots of screen time, taking a break away from your devices after work might help you relax.

Spend time outdoors

Enjoy nature. Whatever way you can, taking some time to enjoy the outdoors can have a positive effect on your mood. Our mental health benefits from getting outside and enjoying nature.

Get active. Exercise can help to reduce feelings of anxiety and other difficult feelings. There are lots of different ways to be active. You could start off with a brisk walk or join a free online exercise class. Setting goals with others is a great way to stay motivated. Try teaming up with friends and family or taking part in an online challenge.

Reach out

Talk about how you’re feeling. Talking can help put things into perspective and help us feel less isolated. It can be hard to reach out but talking to a trusted friend, colleague or family member is something we’d encourage you to try, however you can.

You Are Not Alone

Please remember. You are never alone.

Mental health issues also affect the people close to those who are suffering.

If someone you care about has a mental health issue it can be hard to deal with.

It can be upsetting and difficult to see them struggle, especially if you are a carer or a family member. I know that mental health issues have a wide impact on friends, family members and carers and I am here to support you to live your own life.

Some quick bits of advice I can offer are.

I can provide support service for carers – offering advice and support.

Let the person you care about know you are there for them.

Support them to find suitable services to help them to manage their mental health issues.

Offer practical help such as making a telephone call to a key worker or other person, or by going with the person to their GP or mental health centre.

2 in 3 people report having experienced a mental health problem in their lifetime. Many of us go through tough times and supporting someone you care about can be enough to help them through. Sometimes people need extra support, and this is where People like me and my therapy friends and colleagues can help.

There are many national and local charities which offer various support services, such as:

The Samaritans, MIND.org, National Suicide Prevention Helpline UK. Rethink.org

And many more.

Don’t suffer alone. Ask for help. It’s not a sign of weakness. It’s actually a sign of strength.

Reach out before it takes hold.

Until next month.

Stay safe, Stay well.

Jon

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Books available by Jon Can I Change? a book to help you handle your anxiety on a daily basis. 100 days in isolation a fun book for both adults and children showing the funnier side of lockdown. Posted by Jon Adkin BAHyp

They didn’t teach us this!

So I trained to become a hypnotherapist. I worked really hard, I learnt loads. The history and thinking behind my new skill. Lots of different techniques and I worked with case studies to perfect my art. I qualified, my door was open now bring on the clients. Hello I said bring on the clients.

Oh hang on, we have to find our own clients. They didn’t tell us that bit. How many therapists feel like this? Not just therapists, but anyone that offers a service and aim to get business across social media.

Now, I am one of the lucky ones because having an IT background I understand about algorithms and how they work ( well a lot of the time I do). However so many therapists don’t have an IT knowledge. Where does that leave them?

We ask friends and family to like and share our page, which they do, but is there really any prospect of them becoming a paying client? The answer is no not really. They are showing their support but that isn’t going to pay the bills. So now what? Well you have to start posting regularly on your chosen platforms, but what do you post? how do you get likes? Will they share my post? Do I need to pay for likes? HELP!

I need help.

Help is around, but what I have found that there are a lot of marketeers trying to sell you the same package that they sell to a plumber, a car salesman, a painter and decorator. what do they really know about the therapy business? As therapists we face problems over and above other services.

  • People are scared to like posts as it shows their name and their friends may notice.
  • Therapy of any sort still has a stigma attached to it so people don’t tend to share.
  • What we do is all a bit Woo Woo. According to some. We know it isn’t, we know it works. but how do we prove that if we can’t attract clients?
  • The chances of your post getting in front of a client at exactly the right moment is very very slim.
  • People don’t like admitting they have a problem so are reluctant to ask for help.
  • The list goes on.

So what can we do. Ahh. Well that’s where I can help. You see I’ve only been full time just over 3 years now but in that time I have been lucky enough to stay busy and have a constant flow of clients. I have been able to do this as I understand how to get the best out of Facebook, Instagram and social media in general, and the best thing is that I did it on a zero budget.

So what I have done is compiled a 50+ page manual aimed at therapists, but will help anyone that offers a service to raise their awareness on social media, and in doing so will get your name out there and keep it out there until your client is ready, and when they are ready they contact you and become a new paying client.

Perhaps you may find that missing piece.

I will be selling this manual for just £49.00 but it is filled with tips and advice on how to post, what to post, when to post and about creating an identity on social media. I let you know the costly mistakes that I made, so that you don’t make them and I also point you in the direction of some excellent free software or apps that are my go to when posting.

What Can Social Media Do For You?

A helpful manual for therapists and small business to create a better presences on social media. SEPTEMBER SPECIAL OFFER JUST £49.00

£49.00

You do not need a PayPal account to pay via Paypal.

I’m not going to promise you a major influx of clients or that you will be earning £50k plus by Christmas but as long as you make some of the suggested tweaks, and make it your own, you will see a rise in your social media presence.

If you are reading this and want to know more please feel free to email me at jadkin.bahyp@gmail.com or see my Facebook page I’m doing this to help and support therapists and small businesses that have just survived a very tough time. As I say I’m not a marketeer, I’m just someone who understands what you are going through.

I want to turn on that light at the end of the tunnel for you.

Until next week, or possibly the week after 🙂

Have a great week or two.

Take care and stay safe.

Jon X

Hypnotherapy in Suffolk, Essex and Cambridge. and online via Zoom

Jon Adkin Author of ‘Can I Change?’ Available from Amazon. and 100 days in isolation. A collection of funny original images of one mans decent into comic madness during lockdown

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Just checking in

Hi. A different type of blog today. I’ve noticed that the lock down is starting to take it’s toll on some people. So today I want to offer you a weekly mental health check in.

Feelings.

Set an alarm on your phone, or a reminder in your calendar, so at a set time each week you can quickly do a check in on a scale from 0(‘not at all’) to 10 (‘extremely’) of how stressed, anxious or down you are feeling.

Body

Take a moment to notice any tension in your body like tight shoulders, chest or jaws. Other signs that you might be feeling stressed include dryness of the mouth, difficulty breathing, and a racing heart.

Sleep

If you are constantly struggling to get to sleep, waking in the night,waking earlier than usual and/or finding it difficult to get back to sleep, these are signs your mind is unable to switch off and relax.

Thoughts

Are you worrying about the worst-case scenarios? Focusing on the ‘what-if’ scenarios is not useful and is best to try to limit this as much as possibe.

Reactions and behaviour

If you find yourself frequently snapping at those you love, finding it extremely difficult to focus, or always depending on things like alcohol or food to cope. It is time to prioritise your mental wellbeing.

Check in buddy

Choose a check in buddy. This may be your partner, housemate or even a friend or colleague you’re keeping in touch with via social media or face time etc. Be honest with yourself and with them about how you are coping.

I sadly can’t see you one to one at the moment but I am offering Online sessions if you need that little bit of extra help.

Be kind to others.

How we can cope with lock down.

We are social animals, So how will we stop getting lonely and crazy as we distance ourselves socially and self-isolate? Well, our first motto should be: “Don’t waste a crisis!” If we are imaginative, we will find silver linings in these very dark clouds. We can experiment with new ways of living. These won’t just help us cope with the emergency. they actually can help us to enjoy it.

Virtual coffees, lunches and dinners

Using face time or What’s app create a group and have a coffee morning. Have a good old chat, moan and more importantly a laugh.

Sing and dance

The Italians are keeping their spirits up by singing from their balconies. But they don’t have a monopoly on bel canto. or how about remote dancing. Friends in Italy are already using an app called House Party to have virtual parties. let’s use the technology for good.

On yer bike

Public transport isn’t safe. So for short distances, why not walk? And for middling distances,as part of your daily exercise, why not bike? It’s also a good way to keep fit.

Virtual gyms

So many personal trainers are offering work outs for all ages and all fitness levels. Find one that suits you and make it a routine.

Enjoy some happy memories

Time to reflect

Most people’s lives are dictated by routines: take the kids to school, rush to work, endless emails, get home, crash. The rat race isn’t great. But sitting around home twiddling our thumbs won’t be much fun either. So we need new routines.

Every morning, I have started to say out loud 5 things I am grateful for. Every evening I do the same and think why they are meaningful. These habits provide bookends to my day and help me make the most of what happens in between. I’ve also used my music streaming service and I’m listening to all the albums that made a mark on my life. (boy, some of them are crap when you re-listen), but that is what makes it a great thing to do.

Deepen our friendships

Much of the time, we’re too busy to think deeply about our friends and family. But now we’ll have more time. We can use some of it to think about what our loved ones really need and then help them get it… remotely. this time also shows who the true friends are. The ones who check in on you, the ones who make you smile. The ones who care.

Enjoy a good book

Virtual book groups

People will also have time to read. But that can be a lonely activity – and we get more intellectual stimulation if we share our ideas with others. How about when you finish a book, type out your thoughts and send them to friends to provoke discussion. Why not go further and organise virtual book groups?

Connect with far-away friends

Just because you’re not in the same room doesn’t mean you can’t have a deep friendship. Indeed, the virus offers an opportunity to connect with those who live far away. After all, if you are distancing yourself physically from others, it doesn’t matter whether they are in London, Cayman or Milan. The more we reach across the world and show we care for one another, the more we’ll help defeat that other terrible virus: nationalism.

Other people will have different ideas about how to make the most of this virus crisis. We can all experience the pleasure of inventing and experimenting with new ways of living.

Until next week. Stay safe, stay healthy.

Best wishes

Jon X

Hypnotherapy in Suffolk, Essex and Cambridge.

Jon Adkin Author of ‘Can I Change?’ Available from Amazon.

Find me on You TubeFacebook and Instagram.

Isolation and our Mental Health.

As coronavirus continues to spread in the UK the government has implemented a lockdown on the country meaning all non-essential travel to be avoided.

The new measures have also seen pubs, restaurants and theatres close, while people have been asked to work from home where possible. A long period of isolation may well be a necessary measure for public health but it has been acknowledged that it could also have a detrimental impact on people’s mental health.


So what should you do if your mental health is suffering during self-isolation; are there ways to ensure you safeguard your emotional and mental wellbeing during a potentially extended period of being alone?

One of the main problems with self-isolation is that we start to miss “micro-lifts” that we normally have peppered throughout our day without even necessarily realising. “You’re on your way to work, you might pop into your favourite coffee shop or say hi to someone in the street, there are small little things throughout our day that help to lift us often without us even realising. When you’re alone at home that doesn’t happen – and the cumulative effect of that is massive, especially around the two-week mark. So instead we need to create micro-lifts, it has to be something that generates a sense of achievement. That might be a new exercise, learning a little bit of a language, talking to someone on FaceTime or joining a book group online.

Healthy Body, Health Mind

Do keep a healthy diet

When you’re at home it can be tempting to just sit on the sofa without moving, eating unbalanced meals and snacking all day as a way to entertain yourself.
Do your best to eat well. If you haven’t got people who can bring food to you then see if you can sign up to home deliveries from your local supermarket. Have a look to see if there are any community support groups in your local area that can provide support with shopping.
you should try to get exposure to the outside world and exercise as much as possible within the limits. Our physical health and mental health are linked so try to create a routine that includes some physical exercise,
Although you can’t spend time with others, do make the most of any private outdoor space you have – such as a garden or balcony – if you have one, as being in nature can also help our wellbeing.
Also says try looking out of the window to watch the birds or tend to houseplants to keep your mind stimulated and engaged with nature. If you can, also open the window and let fresh air into your room.
I bought some bird feeders ages ago and now I’ve realised that a tiny Robin visits my garden everyday almost at the same time.

Do maintain a sense of routine

Find yourself spending all day in your pyjamas or remembering at 3pm that you haven’t brushed your teeth because you knew you wouldn’t be seeing anyone? Although in the short term it can feel nice to be lazy, in the long term this isn’t going to be good for your mental wellbeing.
As far as possible, try to maintain as much of a routine as you can. Wake up and go to bed at healthy times to ensure you get enough sleep.
Although you want to maintain a routine, don’t just fall into a cycle of sleeping, working, eating, and repeating: “Find some time to still have value to your day, life cannot be just eating and sleeping. Do something fun for yourself (that isn’t just Netflix).
I’ve got my paint brushes out and not only finished three paintings that I started months and months ago. It started the artistic juices flowing so I now have 3 new pieces on the go. Watch this space https://jonadkin.com/my-art/ for the unveilings.

One of my Acrylics.

I’m still talking to clients and I’m hearing a lot of people who are self isolating are losing their optimism for the future, they are using time for self reflecting and picking apart everything that is wrong with their life: their job, their relationship, their friendships. When we’re overwhelmed by a mundane life, it can quickly draw out the joy, so make fun for yourself.
Don’t just sit in front of a screen – vary your activities.
Sitting in front of a screen all day – whether for work or pleasure – is not the best way to spend long periods of time. Especially because the blue light from devices, like smartphones, can be disruptive to your sleep and overall wellbeing.

Do stay connected to people

Just because you’re self-isolating, doesn’t mean you have to cut yourself off altogether, If you feel that you’re beginning to struggle, take some time to call a friend or family member. Talk about how you’re feeling. If you don’t have anyone you can speak to you can call emotional support lines like the Samaritans.
I also recommend maintaining your social network during self-isolation: “Even when isolated, try as much as possible to keep your personal daily routines or create new routines. If health authorities have recommended limiting your physical social contact to contain the outbreak, you can stay connected via email, social media, video conference and telephone.


Limit your news intake

If you are finding the constant 24/7 coverage of coronavirus is impacting your mental health, particularly on social media, then you can opt out. A near-constant stream of news reports about an outbreak can cause anyone to feel anxious or distressed.
Seek information updates and practical guidance at specific times during the day from health professionals and the WHO website and avoid listening to or following rumours that make you feel uncomfortable.

Don’t believe all that you read.

Don’t get drawn into a negative spiral

One of the most dangerous things for your mental health is having too much time to think about your life critically. When self-isolating you’ve got a lot of time to think and it’s very common to experience massive life dissatisfaction as a result. You can start off the process feeling calm and not germophobic but gradually you start to morph into this. You get into a constant flow of critiquing your life and yourself, and you really need to avoid those negative cognitive spirals.”
You will survive this, we will all survive this and come out better people. Just don’t suffer alone. There are people you can turn to for help. Don’t be scared. Be strong.
Until Next week.
Be safe. Be Healthy

Jon X

Hypnotherapy in Suffolk, Essex and Cambridge.

Jon Adkin Author of ‘Can I Change?’ Available from Amazon.

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Don’t let your thoughts ruin your Christmas.

Hi. Welcome back to my last post of 2019. What a year it’s been. Ups and downs and a few surprises thrown in. However with all that I survived mine and you survived yours if you are reading this. so well done. The good bits hold in your heart the bad bits let them go. if you made mistakes, learn from them. if they weren’t your problem then don’t worry about it and just move on.

For my last blog I want to conclude my posts on  self confidence.

I am a great believer in positive thinking and self belief and daily affirmations have helped me so much. Remember what we say to ourselves we believe, our mind believes so think positive and you will stay positive.

Here are some quotes and affirmations that I would like to share with you for Christmas.

Self-Confidence Quotes

One important key to success is self-confidence. An important key to self-confidence is preparation.

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Nothing builds self-esteem and self-confidence like accomplishment.

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Don’t let others put thoughts into your mind that takes away your self-confidence.
To excel at the highest level – or any level,

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you need to believe in yourself,

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Always be yourself and have faith in yourself.

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Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.

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Just believe in yourself. Even if you don’t, pretend that you do and, at some point, you will.

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Confidence comes not from always being right but from not fearing to be wrong.

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Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will.

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As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live.

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Confidence is when you believe in yourself and your abilities, arrogance is when you think you are better than others and act accordingly.

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The most beautiful thing you can wear is confidence .

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Why should we worry about what others think of us, do we have more confidence in their opinions than we do our own?

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To establish true self-esteem we must concentrate on our successes and forget about the failures and the negatives in our lives.

Daily Affirmations

I believe in me.

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I’m getting stronger every day.

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I can do this.

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I am who I want to be

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I know my worth

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I’ve decided I’m good enough.

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I have the strength to change my story.

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I deserve to be happy and loved.

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I accept myself unconditionally.

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I love myself, and I accept myself as I am.

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I am confident.

When you get up in the morning choose an affirmation and smile at yourself in the mirror and say it to yourself. It’s a simple and powerful way to start your day.

Merry Christmas and I sincerely wish you all the very best for 2020.

See you in January. Have a good one.

Jon XX

These last few posts have been taken from my book ‘Can I Change?‘ Available from Amazon .It makes an ideal stocking filler.