“Stay away from those people who try to disparage your ambitions. Small minds will always do that, but great minds will give you a feeling that you can become great too.”Mark Twain
Welcome to April’s blog. This month I want to chat about motivation. For some time now I have been posting on TikTok, just 15 second motivational videos, Giving words of encouragement and strength and letting people know they are not alone. I don’t have a massive following (about 1600 but rising daily) but what I do have is a loyal following. I record these videos to help others. But you know what, their words back to me of thanks and appreciation help me as much as I like to help them.
So this got me thinking, We all need a bit of motivation in our lives. What do you do or say to motivate yourself? First of all you need to find out what motivates you or perhaps you employ people and you want to motivate them. Find out what motivates them.
Do you know what gets you or them out of bed in the morning? What are you or them passionate about –your goals, their goals, aspirations, and interests? In other words, do you really know your yourself or your employees? Great leaders show an interest in their people’s jobs and career aspirations in order to motivate them the right way. Once that’s been established, they look into the future to create learning and development opportunities for their people or themselves. They find out what motivates their best people by getting to know what desires will drive each person as an individual. This is about emotional engagement.
Praise and compliment them often.
“I don’t like to be recognized,” said no human being, ever. Managers have to get into the habit of praising and complimenting their people for their good qualities and work. Companies in a recent study with the highest engagement levels use recognition and praise as a powerful motivator to get their commitment. They found that employees who receive it on a regular basis increase their individual productivity, receive higher loyalty and satisfaction scores from customers, and are more likely to stay with their organization. How regular are we talking? Praise should be given once per week. Praise yourself, praise the people who are around you.
Help co-create purposeful work.
People want meaning and purpose in their work. You want meaning and purpose in your life. Give and Take, when people find purpose in their life or work, it not only improves that person’s happiness, it also boosts productivity. One way to give employees that purpose, is to have them meet the very people they are helping and serving, even if just for a few minutes. Managers giving their people access to customers so they can see first hand the human impact their work makes is the greatest human motivator.
“Success is not final; failure is not fatal: It is the courage to continue that counts.”Winston S Churchill
Help yourself to develop new skills. Help them develop new skills.
Although important, I’m not so much talking about putting them through another required technical or safety training program to keep them or the business compliant, but actually giving them meaningful new skills or knowledge in other areas that they can use to leverage their natural strengths for future roles, whether with their current company or another company. The point is to serve and value them so exceptionally well as people and workers that they have no reason to leave but use their newfound skills for new projects.
Actively involve yourself. Actively involve them.
Great managers recognize that leadership doesn’t travel one way but is multi-directional. While it can come from the top down at critical times, the best scenario is allowing decisions, information, and delegation to travel from peer to peer or from the bottom up, where the collective wisdom and involvement of the whole team help solve real issues in real time on the frontlines.
Believe in yourself. Believe in them.
The best managers delegate often and give their employees responsibility for delivering challenging work. If this doesn’t happen in your workplace, consider two hard questions that work in business and in day to day life:
- Do you trust your knowledge workers to do what they’ve been hired to do?
- Do they have the right competence for the job to carry out the work with confidence?
So often managers underestimate the potential and ability of their employees to use their brains! If you answered yes to the questions above, be of the mindset to always accept that they can do the work. Then, give them the room to perform and support them with whatever they need to make them even better. This is how you motivate them to the rafters.
So how do you find that motivational Mindset?
“Don’t let yesterday take up too much of today.”Will Rodgers
How to Find Motivation
1. Just Start
Urgh. Don’t you just hate this advice?
Still, there’s a reason we’ve all heard it a million times: it can work wonders.
You don’t always need to reason with your emotions or rationalize why you need to do something. You can deal with those negative feelings later on, at the right time. Instead, try setting aside all of the negative emotions and simply START.
As the famous writer Mark Twain once said: “The secret of getting ahead is getting started.”
2. Break Tasks Down Into Small Steps
Woah… another piece of ground-breaking, never-heard-before advice, right?
Again, there’s a reason so many people recommend that you use this tactic when trying to motivate yourself – sometimes it’s the simplest things done well that work the best.
Remember, you can’t do everything at once.
Here’s a method to help you find motivation to get things done: Write down what you need to do on a piece of paper. Then, write down every single step you need to take to make it happen. Finally, ignore everything except the step you’re working on.
Once in the flow, you may just find it easier to continue with the next task.
3. Create a Positive Mindset
Getting motivated is almost impossible if you’re looking at the situation from a negative viewpoint. On the other hand, positivity can be energizing and help you to motivate yourself.
So, pause and ask yourself, “what’s good about this situation?”
As the author Catherine Pulsifer said, “If we have the attitude that it’s going to be a great day it usually is.”
4. Create a Feeling of Gratitude
When you find yourself stuck in a rut, it can feel impossible to motivate yourself. So before you try to motivate yourself, take a step back and try to appreciate how you feel.
When you feel appreciation for yourself, it’s much easier to stay motivated.
One of the quickest ways to feel good about yourself is to practice gratitude – it’s almost entirely impossible to feel low and grateful at the same time.
To practice gratitude, start by writing down three things you’re grateful for. These could be anything – from your morning coffee, to your pet, or even the comfortable chair you sit on.
Ideally, you could make this part of your daily routine to find everyday motivation.
“There are three ways to ultimate success: The first way is to be kind. The second way is to be kind. The third way is to be kind.”Mr Rodgers
5. Be Kind to Yourself
When you procrastinate or make a mistake, it’s easy to beat yourself up. In fact, if you’re like many people, you may find that you internally “speak” to yourself in a mean way.
If you notice yourself doing this, pause and try to speak to yourself kindly instead. You wouldn’t speak to someone else that way, so why do it to yourself? You deserve your own kindness.
Try to remember your true inherent value as a human being. Then, allow yourself to gently come back to the task at hand.
6. Be Constructive
When you realize you’ve made a mistake or finally bring yourself back from a procrastination session, you have a golden opportunity to learn and improve.
Ask yourself, “Why did I make this mistake? How can I avoid making the same mistake in the future?”
If you do this and act on what you learn, you’ll transform mistakes into opportunities.
An entrepreneur once said, “We need to accept that we won’t always make the right decisions, that we’ll screw up royally sometimes – understanding that failure is not the opposite of success, it’s part of success.”
7. Cut Your To-Do List Down
To-do lists can help us organize our tasks and focus on what’s important. However, they can also overwhelm us so much that we end up procrastinating even more.
So, if you find yourself struggling to stay motivated, cut your to-do list down to a more manageable size.
Each day, choose no more than three tasks and make that your new to-do list. Then, ignore all but the first item. You may find that with time, you can take on a longer to-do list.
8. Set Attainable Goals That Excite You
If you have a goal that feels too big or unattainable, it may make you feel crippled with anxiety and fear. This is a surefire way to prevent yourself from developing motivation.
For now, let go of goals that paralyze you. Instead, choose exciting enough goals to help you motivate yourself, but not so big that you freeze when facing them.
Keep your eyes on the stars, and your feet on the ground.”
9. Imagine Your Future If You Don’t Change
This tip can make inspiring yourself easy: Instead of focusing on the change you want, imagine the life you’ll have if you don’t stay motivated.
Ask yourself, “What will life be like in one year, five years, and ten years?”
I will continue this blog next month. Let me know if you implement any of these ideas and if you do, let me know how you get on.
Until next month.
I wish you health and happiness.
Jon Adkin BAHyp Clinical Hypnotherapist and IEMT Practitioner.
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