Why it’s good to inspire people.

Audio Version Of Septembers Blog.


Inspiration awakens us to new possibilities by allowing us to transcend our ordinary experiences and limitations. Inspiration propels a person from apathy to possibility, and transforms the way we perceive our own capabilities.
Honesty builds trust and gets others to believe in your inspiration. The ability to inspire others is an important skill, one that will help you achieve the success you desire. Keep your message authentic and human to amplify your results, inspire others, and excel in your work life.
I have made September my month of inspiration. I have a small but growing following on TikTok. And each month I choose a 30-day challenge. I make 2 short videos a day (Well 3 if you include my bad jokes) and in those two videos this month I want to inspire my followers to live their best life. I get a lot of positive and grateful feedback and that makes me happy. Even if I only make one person’s day better, then I am happy. I do sadly get the trolls as well. The ones who think I’m pushing my thoughts on to them. However they couldn’t be more wrong. I record them to help others not dictate to them.
A lot of people need to be inspired to take that great step they have always wanted to take, and when it comes to inspiration, it can come from anywhere — I mean anywhere.


We live in a world where people believe in faking it until you make it and you might be tempted to portray an image that’s not truly yours and yours. But let me tell you something when you are faking it, you’re an empty barrel — and people will know from the noise you make (usually louder). However, stick to that person you are. The real you and I tell you what; there are many people interested in being you, and you can have those people to inspire.

Love all that you do


Love What You Do


There are no two ways about it; if you are not passionate about what you do, you cannot inspire people. Whatever you do, if have had the opportunity to work with a people and they love your work, whatever it is, it will show, and you’ll see contentment and sometimes a change in their actions. Let me ask you when last have you seen a frustrated individual motivate and inspire people?
With passion for what you do, when you speak, people can see the fire in your eyes, they can tell you are happy doing what you’re doing, and they can see fulfilment in your life — that’s enough to get someone inspired.
Care about Others
You must care about people and show them you really do to inspire them. I am sure there are very successful people around you that love their jobs and speak with enthusiasm in their words, but you still dislike them because they do not care about others, not in their class. You must be down to earth and show them you really care about them. By doing that, they would naturally want to come closer, ask questions, and want to be like you.


Challenge People


If you ask me, I will tell you this is one of the most important steps of inspiring people. Usually, many people have the potentials to be who they want to be and do what they want to do. However, they lack the push factor — be that push factor and see how you’ll be propelling someone for greatness. You have to encourage people to move out of their comfort zone.
Moving out of the comfort zone is something difficult for most people. Ironically, they have to do that for them to be great. Let them know that.
Let People Know About Your Failures
Life is a two-sided coin with one side being success and the other being failure. Usually, people see successful individuals as people that have not experienced failures and downtimes. Contrary to this misconception, every successful individual has had their own share of failure. Yet, only a few share it as some see it as an act of weakness and want to be seen as a genius who does not make mistakes.
I’m happy to let people know I’ve made mistakes. Plenty of mistakes. let them know that you were once like them and that their condition is perfectly normal. However, make sure to do this in moderation else, some of them will remain in their comfort zone and think their condition is normal, not knowing that their own case is different.
Do Not Judge People
Unless you’re a Judge in the court, avoid judging people under you. Be an umbrella for them, and instead of complicating issues for them by judging them, provide an avenue for them to heal faster. Make them feel good about themselves even though you feel their situation is critical. This is because if they are not happy with themselves, you cannot inspire them. However, I am not asking you to lie to them — no, that’s not what I am saying. What I am saying is that don’t make their condition worse. No doubt, there’s joy in giving people the hope that they too can become someone like you. However, it’s not as easy as it seems.
You know what fires me up and keeps me going? Hearing the words “you inspire me.”


Speak Up

All the feedback I get from people about my work and its impact on their life. I appreciate people who inspire me. Every creative person needs feedback, whether it’s good or bad, there is this little needy “me” that wants attention and recognition. In truth we all want it.
Next time you are touched by someone’s story, tweet, blog post, comment, photo, let them know how it made you feel, how it shaped your thinking, what thoughts it provoked, what it allowed you to experience, discover, understand. It takes the time to formulate these responses but it genuinely touches the creator. Telling someone they inspire you powers up further creations and contributes to a better world.
A Small Thank You Goes A Long Way


A Simple Thank You


Simply leave a comment, write an email and thank for the work they do, let them know your thoughts and how much you appreciate their efforts. We take all of the things for granted, people who write books, people who compose music, people who share their research and findings, people who share photos from their life, people who stand up for themselves and share their opinions.


Pay It Forward


For the extra mile, share the work that inspired you with your friends, write them a personal message, tell them how the piece affected you and inspire them, keep the inspiration chain alive and you will start noticing beautiful things happening. Most of the creators want to touch at least one soul, then it can be called a success. The next time someone inspires you, credit and thank them, let them know it was worth it.
Until Next Month.

I wish you every happiness.

Jon

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It’s that time of year again.

Audio Version of this months blog.

Have you noticed that your child or children have gone a bit quiet recently? Don’t blame it on the lousy weather, or their age. Look at the date. In a few short weeks they will be returning to school. Some will be changing schools some will just be moving up. However whatever they face, it can be very scary for them.

Do you remember how you felt all those years ago? Perhaps there was a school bully who has been out of your mind during the Summer break. or perhaps just the thought of a BIG new school with so many new faces is a scary thought. Whatever the reason, this can be a very anxious time for our children.

Remove that anxiety from returning to school

Don’t ignore their silence, Speak to them, ask them questions. Show them that you care and want to help. Many children are of a mindset that asking for help is a weakness. They couldn’t be more wrong. Asking for help takes such strength.

What can you as a parent or a guardian do to help? First thing is to notice any changes in their body language, in their manner. They may become more withdrawn, or even almost become invisible. Give them words of encouragement.

Words of encouragement when your child is struggling

  • All you can do is try your best.
  • I am so glad you asked for help when you needed it.
  • Trust your instincts.
  • I believe in you.
  • Nobody is perfect, and that is ok.
  • You can learn from your mistakes.
  • Your perseverance will help you succeed.
  • Believe in yourself, you can do it.

They say education is the key for success. Students therefore need to have a purpose to succeed in their studies. There is always a challenge to produce brilliant results. Words of encouragement are important to remind students that hard work never goes unrewarded. Parents, teachers and fellow students can spread this Words of Encouragement to give students hope for better days. It is important to note that students have different abilities. Producing good results is a teamwork effort. Teachers have to take the responsibility of encouraging weak students to continue working hard. Encouragement gives hope, hence a positive attitude to success.

What phrases do you say each day to your kids? Which ones do you want them to remember?

In the years since my parents passed, I am still inspired to notice the good things in life when I remember the way they would pause at those good moments and say, “This, now, this is good.” To this day I can hear my mother encouraging me when I try new things. Her voice of confidence from my childhood continues to give me confidence now.

Many years after my dad died, I can still hear him, when I get too serious saying, “Lighten up,” In moments of complete self-doubt and embarrassment, I still bolster myself by thinking of him singing, smiling and being there.

All of these words of encouragement from my parents and grandparents have stayed with me. Certainly, words can become meaningless when they aren’t followed with action, but nonetheless, words have great power. You can choose to add more positive ones to your days.

Below is a list of encouraging phrases to say to children. Choose which work for you. What can you see or hear yourself saying. It has to come across genuine and not just something you read once on a sign on a random wall.

  1. You are loved
  2. You make me smile
  3. I think about you when we’re apart
  4. My world is better with you in it
  5. I will do my best to keep you safe
  6. Sometimes I will say no
  7. I have faith in you
  8. I know you can handle it
  9. You are creative
  10. Trust your instincts
  11. Your ideas are worthwhile
  12. You are capable
  13. You are deserving
  14. You are strong
  15. You can say no
  16. Your choices matter
  17. You make a difference
  18. Your words are powerful
  19. Your actions are powerful
  20. Your emotions may be powerful
  21. And you can still choose your actions
  22. You are more than your emotions
  23. You are a good friend
  24. You are kind
  25. You don’t have to like what someone is saying in order to treat them with respect
  26. Someone else’s poor behavior is not an excuse for your own
  27. You are imperfect
  28. So am I
  29. You can change your mind
  30. You can learn from your mistakes
  31. You can ask for help
  32. You are learning
  33. You are growing
  34. Growing is hard work
  35. I believe you
  36. I believe in you
  37. You are valuable
  38. You are interesting
  39. You are beautiful
  40. When you make a mistake, you are still beautiful
  41. Your body is your own
  42. You have say over your body
  43. You are important
  44. Your ideas matter
  45. You are able to do work that matters
  46. I see you working and learning every day
  47. You make a difference in my life
  48. I am curious what you think
  49. How did you do that?
  50. Your ideas are interesting
  51. You’ve made me think of things in a completely new way
  52. I’m excited to see what you do
  53. Thanks for helping me
  54. Thank you for contributing to our family
  55. I enjoy your company
  56. It’s fun to do things with you
  57. I’m glad you’re here
  58. I’m happy to talk with you
  59. I’m ready to listen
  60. I’m listening
  61. I’m proud of you
  62. I’m grateful you’re in my life
  63. You make me smile
  64. I love you

I didn’t do this nearly enough with my own children and for that I feel bad, but if I can help others now and take away the anxiety, the fear, the desire to hurt themselves. Then it will be worth it.

Moving Up Moving On From Jon Adkin

I also run sessions for children at this time of year. Moving Up Moving On is in its 4th year now and I work with the children and sometimes the parents to ease that transition. If you would like to know more please drop me an email or a message and I would be happy to tell you more.

Until next month.

I wish you every happiness.

Jon

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Books available by Jon Can I Change? a book to help you handle your anxiety on a daily basis. 100 days in isolation a fun book for both adults and children showing the funnier side of lockdown.

Do you have a negative memory that dictates your life?

Would you like to listen instead of reading? No problem.

Hi, welcome to July’s blog. this month I want to talk about releasing negative memories. The reason I want to talk to you about this is because, Yes, here comes the plug…

NMR from Jon

This month I have launched NMR Negative Memory Release. A protocol that combines Hypnotherapy, IEMT and NLP all of which I am a practitioner in. For a while now I have been looking for a niche. Something that will make me the go to guy for. So, I have used the time throughout the pandemic to look over all my case notes and see where the most impact was made. I contacted former clients to see how they were doing and to see if after the sessions, the suggestions were still working for them. I will be honest their were a couple of smokers that fell off the wagon due to being stuck at home with nothing to do. Well, that was their excuse, but me being me I’ve invited them back. However for my niche I wanted to put something together that used all the skills that I have learnt and offer a quick yet permanent way of helping clients. So, after months of trials, a bit of tweaking and perfecting, I felt ready to launch NMR.


So what is NMR?

Well In a nutshell. Here is the less sciency version. When we think of an event or a happening in our lives, our mind in a millisecond grabs all the parts of that memory, The sounds, the colours, the textures, the smells and forms a picture puzzle. When it offers you that picture an emotion forms from that memory. Now. without the full picture the emotion won’t form. The mind has distanced itself from the memory. It’s now nothing more than like seeing it as an old photograph. something that happened, but not to you. By using a combination of IEMT (IEMT Integrated Eye Movement Therapy) Hypnotherapy, and NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) I can break up that picture by removing elements of the puzzle.
If you want a more in depth description please visit my NMR website by clicking here.

Why would you need Negative Memory Release?


Throughout our lives we accumulate memories we’d rather forget. For people who’ve experienced a serious trauma, such as combat experience, domestic violence, or childhood abuse, these memories can be more than unwelcome — they can be debilitating. Fears and phobias often start from old memories. Sometimes you don’t even know that you are holding on to these memories and the attached emotions. Grief, Hate, even pain. You’re holding on to them long after they are any use to you.

Identify your triggers


Memories are cue-dependent, which means they require a trigger. Your bad memory isn’t constantly in your head; something in your present environment reminds you of your bad experience and triggers the recall process.
Identifying your most common triggers can help you take control of them. When you consciously recognize a trigger, you can practice suppressing the negative association. The more often you suppress this association, the easier it will become, thereby breaking the link between the trigger and the negative memory.
Some memories have only a few triggers, like particular smells or images, whereas others have so many that they are hard to avoid. For example, someone with a combat-related trauma might be triggered by loud noises, the smell of smoke, closed doors, particular songs, items on the side of the road, and so on.
If you have a repressed childhood memory, you may find yourself feeling triggered or having strong emotional reactions to people who remind you of previous negative experiences.
Significant events in life tend to linger in your memory. Some might spark happiness when you recall them. Others might involve less pleasant emotions.
You might make a conscious effort to avoid thinking about these memories. Repressed memories, on the other hand, are those you unconsciously forget. These memories generally involve some kind of trauma or a deeply distressing event. When your brain registers something too distressing, “it drops the memory into a ‘nonconscious’ zone, a realm of the mind you don’t think about.”
Scientists are just beginning to understand the complex process of memory. But there’s still a lot they don’t understand, including why some people develop post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and others do not.


The bottom line


Memories of pain and trauma are difficult to forget, but there are ways to manage them. Although research is progressing quickly, there are no drugs available yet that can erase particular memories. With NMR however, you can find a way to prevent bad memories from continuously popping into your head. You can also work to remove the emotional element of those memories, making them much easier to tolerate.
NMR can help you achieve this. And the best news. It can usually do it in just two sessions. (3 or 4 if really deep rooted) I know that’s a bold claim but it’s true. I have the clients to prove it.
During my trials I worked with Police, Military, NHS front line workers and of course Mums and Dads from all walks of life. Together we broke up the puzzle and without the full picture the emotion can’t return.
This is my niche. I will of course still offer hypnotherapy as a stand alone solution but as I move forward NMR for me is my go to session that will help many many people overcome their issues.
Please feel free to contact me if you would like to know more.
I wish you all the very best for July and I will see you next month.

Best Wishes

Jon

Jon Adkin BAHyp Negative Memory Specialist is a Clinical Hypnotherapist, NLP and IEMT Practitioner.

Jon Adkin Author of ‘Can I Change?’ Available from Amazon. and 100 days in isolation. A collection of funny original images of one mans decent into comic madness during lockdown

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Are you ready to leave lockdown?

It’s been a long time coming, but after yesterday’s announcement (Monday 22nd February), it looks like that light at the end of the tunnel is finally shining bright. So, are you ready to face the world again? These lockdowns have changed a lot of people some for better, some for worse. Which category would you fall into?

Many people have been silently suffering for many reasons. The isolation has put strains on marriages, relationships with their own children, and pressure on themselves. I have had many people come to me realising that they need to change. They realise that the way they were, going into lockdown is not the way they want to leave it.

We all have traits that we don’t like about ourselves, some are so small that nobody notices. However, some are so visible that people can, and will decide whether they want to get to know you. It is those traits, habits, patterns of behaviour, that people notice and then make decisions about you. Let’s be honest, if you don’t like these things about you, how can you expect others to accept them? Those ways, those habits, those traits can change, you must realise, you wasn’t always this way. Many of our bad habits, or learned behaviours, come maybe from our parents, our siblings, our peers, but if they are learned behaviours, we can unlearn them, it is never too late to change, and if over these periods of lockdown, You have seen sides of you that you don’t like, well now is the time to do something about it. IT ALL STARTS WITH YOU.

It all starts with you.

So what is it that you would like to change? If it’s your appearance, change it get a new hairdo, lose weight, do your makeup different. Is it the way you think about yourself? The first thing you need to do is accept yourself as you are now, and then change the things that you don’t like. However if there are things about you that you feel have changed over the years like losing confidence, perhaps losing that self-worth, or having no self esteem. Well those things are still inside of you, they have just got buried over the years and perhaps you even forgot that you even had them.

What hypnotherapy can do is allow these emotions those feelings, those old ways back to the surface, back where they belong. When I have clients come to me because of lack of confidence, self-worth or self-esteem one question I asked him is can they remember a time when they were in control? A time when they had confidence, self-esteem , self-worth a time when they felt happy, happy on the inside and on the outside. So many of my clients find that hard to answer, it’s in them, but it is so deeply buried they just can’t find it. Their feelings for themselves is so low, that they feel they are unworthy of happiness, they don’t deserve to have felt good so they chose to bury it.

We all have a time in our life when we felt good, in control happy, It doesn’t matter what upbringing you had, you always had a time just for yourself. It may be when you was playing in the garden with your toys in your own imaginary world, it may be the time that you was picked for a part in the school play, you had confidence when you went for that first job interview, you had the self-belief when you did things out of your comfort zone, perhaps driving lessons, perhaps you challenged yourself to do a sponsored anything that challenged you. When you chose to do those things you had the confidence the self-belief and if you had it then you can have it now.

We have all been happy at some point.

Why shouldn’t you be happy, loved, successful or whatever it is that you desire. There is no reason why, it all starts with you hypnotherapy can help you release those feelings, put down, hurt, guilt, emotions and thoughts that are holding you back. I specialise in content free hypnotherapy, which means you don’t even need to know what is causing your problems. Many people come to me with an issue that isn’t the issue. So many memories, insults, put downs are burried to protect us , but they are there and over the years those voices that put them there become our voice and we start to believe them. It’s time to let that inner voice know who is in control. Remember it all starts with you.

If you went into these lockdowns hiding behind a mask and I don’t mean the medical ones I mean the one that you put on every morning and you take off every night. Why not use these remaining weeks to regain that inner strength , that inner confidence, that self-belief. Search for that inner happiness, and then look at what you have achieved. Stop focusing on the negative things in your life and realise now just how far you have come and what you have achieved.

I work not only face to face but online via Zoom, so it doesn’t matter where you are in the world I can help, and if I can’t help I will know someone that can. So no more excuses make the change that you want that you need, you will be pleasantly surprised how easy it is and how quick you feel those changes. Look up my testimonial page see how I have helped others, and I know that you may be skeptical and because of that I offer a free consultation where we just chat and you can ask whatever questions you like and I will be happy to answer tell you how I can help. Use these remaining few weeks for you, let some good come out of this pandemic so that you have the strength the confidence the self belief for the new normal.

Remember IT ALL STARTS WITH YOU.

Until next time.

Stay safe. Stay healthy.

Jon

Hypnotherapy in Suffolk, Essex and Cambridge. and online via Zoom

Jon Adkin Author of ‘Can I Change?’ Available from Amazon. and 100 days in isolation. A collection of funny original images of one mans decent into comic madness during lockdown

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What can I do for you?

As this pandemic rolls on and we are asked to stay in or work from home, I fully understand these advisories and I ask everyone to do what they can to help us all get back to normal, whatever that will be. However what we don’t see is the mental damage that staying in or working from home can do or is doing to so many people. Many Mums are struggling with home schooling, many couples are not enjoying being confined to the house with the same person, tempers are flaring, anxieties are raising, stress levels are going through the roof and depression is setting in fast.

It really doesn’t have to be that way.

Many therapists are still working and we are here to help you through this period. Many say I can’t afford it….Hang on we haven’t been out for months, so no new shoes or outfits, no new nails or hairstyles, Think of the money you have saved on meals out, or nights down the pub. It soon all adds up. How about spending that money on YOU, and your wellbeing.

Some say, but we can’t go out… Well that’s true to an extent. A visit to a therapist for a mental health issue is totally acceptable. any open therapist will be Covid compliant, we have to be to meet out insurance needs. Also most of us are happy to work online, so you don’t even have to leave your home. There is always a way.

Don’t suffer any longer that you have to.

It doesn’t have to be this way.

Now you may not have considered hypnotherapy as a solution to your issues, so I’m going to share with you what I and many therapists can help you with. Some of this information that I’m going to share with you comes from other reputable therapists, but I will assure you that I would never ever take on a client that I felt I would not be able to help. If I can’t help you I will find someone who can.

The way hypnosis is shown in the media may make it seem like it’s just for fun, but there’s more to hypnosis than its entertainment factor. In fact, hypnosis can benefit your health and well-being.

In healthcare, hypnosis can be used as a psychological treatment to help you experience changes in sensations, perceptions, thoughts, or behaviors. It’s done in a clinical setting and performed by a fully trained healthcare professional. Hypnotherapy, which is the form of therapy that uses hypnosis as either a standalone or supplemental treatment — can benefit your health in a variety of ways.

Anxiety

Relaxation techniques — including hypnosis — can ease and in some case remove anxiety. Hypnosis may also be able to help if you struggle with a phobia — a type of anxiety disorder where you are intensely fearful of something that does not pose a significant threat.

How it works: Hypnosis works to help anxiety by encouraging your body to activate its natural relaxation response through the use of a phrase or nonverbal cue, slowing breathing, lowering blood pressure, and instilling an overall sense of well-being.

Time to leave the dark past behind.

Chronic Pain

Hypnosis can help with pain — like what’s experienced after surgery or from migraines or tension headaches. And it can help with chronic pain, too. People with pain related to conditions like arthritis, cancer, and fibromyalgia, — as well as people who have lower-back pain — may experience relief from hypnosis.

How it works: Hypnosis can help you cope with pain and gain more self-control over your pain. Additionally, studies indicate that hypnosis can do this effectively for long periods of time.

Confidence and self-esteem

Hypnotherapy can help some people improve their self-confidence and self-esteem. By accessing your unconscious mind, or inner voice, a hypnotherapist can help you start to take control about how you are feeling about yourself, working with you to discover what may have caused you to develop low-confidence, and helping you to feel more confident.

How it works. Whilst in a relaxed state a hypnotherapist will communicate with your unconscious, using questions and suggestive statements to challenge your limiting beliefs. The statements used will depend on your personal circumstances and will relate to any particular confidence issues you feel you have. The idea behind hypnotherapy is that when your unconscious believes you are confident, this translates to your conscious. This therefore changes your thought patterns and actions to improve your confidence.

Depression

Another treatment option to manage and overcome depression is hypnotherapy. This approach works on a subconscious level, using techniques to identify and address the root causes while offering positive suggestions to break negative thinking patterns.

How it works. Rather than treat the symptoms of depression, hypnotherapy aims to tackle what triggers lead to your depression so you can unpick it and move on.

“Hypnotherapy works for depression because it targets the underlying basis of depression, and completes the “unfinished business” that otherwise continues to recycle as self-sabotaging thoughts and behaviours. With hypnotherapy, the person can go down deeper to their traumatic experiences, memories and stored emotions, which means they can quickly release them from the mind and body.”

John Gotelee

Hypnotherapy can lift that darkness.

I have only focused on a very very small area of what hypnotherapy can help you with, especially through this pandemic. If you are suffering from any of the above or an issue that is effecting your mental health YOU ARE ALLOWED TO MAKE A VISIT TO YOUR LOCAL THERAPIST.

On top of hypnotherapy I am also an IEMT practitioner whish will help you with abuse, PTSD, trauma and so much more, but I will expand on that in my next blog. However if you want to know more please feel free to contact me or visit www.jonadkin.com.

You will also find testimonials and FAQs

I’m here to help, we are all here to help. Think about it. You could actually come out out of this lockdown a stronger person than you went in.

Until next time.

Stay safe. Stay healthy.

Jon

Hypnotherapy in Suffolk, Essex and Cambridge. and online via Zoom

Jon Adkin Author of ‘Can I Change?’ Available from Amazon. and 100 days in isolation. A collection of funny original images of one mans decent into comic madness during lockdown

Find me on You TubeFacebookInstagram. and now TikTok.