Why it’s good to inspire people.

Audio Version Of Septembers Blog.


Inspiration awakens us to new possibilities by allowing us to transcend our ordinary experiences and limitations. Inspiration propels a person from apathy to possibility, and transforms the way we perceive our own capabilities.
Honesty builds trust and gets others to believe in your inspiration. The ability to inspire others is an important skill, one that will help you achieve the success you desire. Keep your message authentic and human to amplify your results, inspire others, and excel in your work life.
I have made September my month of inspiration. I have a small but growing following on TikTok. And each month I choose a 30-day challenge. I make 2 short videos a day (Well 3 if you include my bad jokes) and in those two videos this month I want to inspire my followers to live their best life. I get a lot of positive and grateful feedback and that makes me happy. Even if I only make one person’s day better, then I am happy. I do sadly get the trolls as well. The ones who think I’m pushing my thoughts on to them. However they couldn’t be more wrong. I record them to help others not dictate to them.
A lot of people need to be inspired to take that great step they have always wanted to take, and when it comes to inspiration, it can come from anywhere — I mean anywhere.


We live in a world where people believe in faking it until you make it and you might be tempted to portray an image that’s not truly yours and yours. But let me tell you something when you are faking it, you’re an empty barrel — and people will know from the noise you make (usually louder). However, stick to that person you are. The real you and I tell you what; there are many people interested in being you, and you can have those people to inspire.

Love all that you do


Love What You Do


There are no two ways about it; if you are not passionate about what you do, you cannot inspire people. Whatever you do, if have had the opportunity to work with a people and they love your work, whatever it is, it will show, and you’ll see contentment and sometimes a change in their actions. Let me ask you when last have you seen a frustrated individual motivate and inspire people?
With passion for what you do, when you speak, people can see the fire in your eyes, they can tell you are happy doing what you’re doing, and they can see fulfilment in your life — that’s enough to get someone inspired.
Care about Others
You must care about people and show them you really do to inspire them. I am sure there are very successful people around you that love their jobs and speak with enthusiasm in their words, but you still dislike them because they do not care about others, not in their class. You must be down to earth and show them you really care about them. By doing that, they would naturally want to come closer, ask questions, and want to be like you.


Challenge People


If you ask me, I will tell you this is one of the most important steps of inspiring people. Usually, many people have the potentials to be who they want to be and do what they want to do. However, they lack the push factor — be that push factor and see how you’ll be propelling someone for greatness. You have to encourage people to move out of their comfort zone.
Moving out of the comfort zone is something difficult for most people. Ironically, they have to do that for them to be great. Let them know that.
Let People Know About Your Failures
Life is a two-sided coin with one side being success and the other being failure. Usually, people see successful individuals as people that have not experienced failures and downtimes. Contrary to this misconception, every successful individual has had their own share of failure. Yet, only a few share it as some see it as an act of weakness and want to be seen as a genius who does not make mistakes.
I’m happy to let people know I’ve made mistakes. Plenty of mistakes. let them know that you were once like them and that their condition is perfectly normal. However, make sure to do this in moderation else, some of them will remain in their comfort zone and think their condition is normal, not knowing that their own case is different.
Do Not Judge People
Unless you’re a Judge in the court, avoid judging people under you. Be an umbrella for them, and instead of complicating issues for them by judging them, provide an avenue for them to heal faster. Make them feel good about themselves even though you feel their situation is critical. This is because if they are not happy with themselves, you cannot inspire them. However, I am not asking you to lie to them — no, that’s not what I am saying. What I am saying is that don’t make their condition worse. No doubt, there’s joy in giving people the hope that they too can become someone like you. However, it’s not as easy as it seems.
You know what fires me up and keeps me going? Hearing the words “you inspire me.”


Speak Up

All the feedback I get from people about my work and its impact on their life. I appreciate people who inspire me. Every creative person needs feedback, whether it’s good or bad, there is this little needy “me” that wants attention and recognition. In truth we all want it.
Next time you are touched by someone’s story, tweet, blog post, comment, photo, let them know how it made you feel, how it shaped your thinking, what thoughts it provoked, what it allowed you to experience, discover, understand. It takes the time to formulate these responses but it genuinely touches the creator. Telling someone they inspire you powers up further creations and contributes to a better world.
A Small Thank You Goes A Long Way


A Simple Thank You


Simply leave a comment, write an email and thank for the work they do, let them know your thoughts and how much you appreciate their efforts. We take all of the things for granted, people who write books, people who compose music, people who share their research and findings, people who share photos from their life, people who stand up for themselves and share their opinions.


Pay It Forward


For the extra mile, share the work that inspired you with your friends, write them a personal message, tell them how the piece affected you and inspire them, keep the inspiration chain alive and you will start noticing beautiful things happening. Most of the creators want to touch at least one soul, then it can be called a success. The next time someone inspires you, credit and thank them, let them know it was worth it.
Until Next Month.

I wish you every happiness.

Jon

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It’s that time of year again.

Audio Version of this months blog.

Have you noticed that your child or children have gone a bit quiet recently? Don’t blame it on the lousy weather, or their age. Look at the date. In a few short weeks they will be returning to school. Some will be changing schools some will just be moving up. However whatever they face, it can be very scary for them.

Do you remember how you felt all those years ago? Perhaps there was a school bully who has been out of your mind during the Summer break. or perhaps just the thought of a BIG new school with so many new faces is a scary thought. Whatever the reason, this can be a very anxious time for our children.

Remove that anxiety from returning to school

Don’t ignore their silence, Speak to them, ask them questions. Show them that you care and want to help. Many children are of a mindset that asking for help is a weakness. They couldn’t be more wrong. Asking for help takes such strength.

What can you as a parent or a guardian do to help? First thing is to notice any changes in their body language, in their manner. They may become more withdrawn, or even almost become invisible. Give them words of encouragement.

Words of encouragement when your child is struggling

  • All you can do is try your best.
  • I am so glad you asked for help when you needed it.
  • Trust your instincts.
  • I believe in you.
  • Nobody is perfect, and that is ok.
  • You can learn from your mistakes.
  • Your perseverance will help you succeed.
  • Believe in yourself, you can do it.

They say education is the key for success. Students therefore need to have a purpose to succeed in their studies. There is always a challenge to produce brilliant results. Words of encouragement are important to remind students that hard work never goes unrewarded. Parents, teachers and fellow students can spread this Words of Encouragement to give students hope for better days. It is important to note that students have different abilities. Producing good results is a teamwork effort. Teachers have to take the responsibility of encouraging weak students to continue working hard. Encouragement gives hope, hence a positive attitude to success.

What phrases do you say each day to your kids? Which ones do you want them to remember?

In the years since my parents passed, I am still inspired to notice the good things in life when I remember the way they would pause at those good moments and say, “This, now, this is good.” To this day I can hear my mother encouraging me when I try new things. Her voice of confidence from my childhood continues to give me confidence now.

Many years after my dad died, I can still hear him, when I get too serious saying, “Lighten up,” In moments of complete self-doubt and embarrassment, I still bolster myself by thinking of him singing, smiling and being there.

All of these words of encouragement from my parents and grandparents have stayed with me. Certainly, words can become meaningless when they aren’t followed with action, but nonetheless, words have great power. You can choose to add more positive ones to your days.

Below is a list of encouraging phrases to say to children. Choose which work for you. What can you see or hear yourself saying. It has to come across genuine and not just something you read once on a sign on a random wall.

  1. You are loved
  2. You make me smile
  3. I think about you when we’re apart
  4. My world is better with you in it
  5. I will do my best to keep you safe
  6. Sometimes I will say no
  7. I have faith in you
  8. I know you can handle it
  9. You are creative
  10. Trust your instincts
  11. Your ideas are worthwhile
  12. You are capable
  13. You are deserving
  14. You are strong
  15. You can say no
  16. Your choices matter
  17. You make a difference
  18. Your words are powerful
  19. Your actions are powerful
  20. Your emotions may be powerful
  21. And you can still choose your actions
  22. You are more than your emotions
  23. You are a good friend
  24. You are kind
  25. You don’t have to like what someone is saying in order to treat them with respect
  26. Someone else’s poor behavior is not an excuse for your own
  27. You are imperfect
  28. So am I
  29. You can change your mind
  30. You can learn from your mistakes
  31. You can ask for help
  32. You are learning
  33. You are growing
  34. Growing is hard work
  35. I believe you
  36. I believe in you
  37. You are valuable
  38. You are interesting
  39. You are beautiful
  40. When you make a mistake, you are still beautiful
  41. Your body is your own
  42. You have say over your body
  43. You are important
  44. Your ideas matter
  45. You are able to do work that matters
  46. I see you working and learning every day
  47. You make a difference in my life
  48. I am curious what you think
  49. How did you do that?
  50. Your ideas are interesting
  51. You’ve made me think of things in a completely new way
  52. I’m excited to see what you do
  53. Thanks for helping me
  54. Thank you for contributing to our family
  55. I enjoy your company
  56. It’s fun to do things with you
  57. I’m glad you’re here
  58. I’m happy to talk with you
  59. I’m ready to listen
  60. I’m listening
  61. I’m proud of you
  62. I’m grateful you’re in my life
  63. You make me smile
  64. I love you

I didn’t do this nearly enough with my own children and for that I feel bad, but if I can help others now and take away the anxiety, the fear, the desire to hurt themselves. Then it will be worth it.

Moving Up Moving On From Jon Adkin

I also run sessions for children at this time of year. Moving Up Moving On is in its 4th year now and I work with the children and sometimes the parents to ease that transition. If you would like to know more please drop me an email or a message and I would be happy to tell you more.

Until next month.

I wish you every happiness.

Jon

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Books available by Jon Can I Change? a book to help you handle your anxiety on a daily basis. 100 days in isolation a fun book for both adults and children showing the funnier side of lockdown.

Do you have a negative memory that dictates your life?

Would you like to listen instead of reading? No problem.

Hi, welcome to July’s blog. this month I want to talk about releasing negative memories. The reason I want to talk to you about this is because, Yes, here comes the plug…

NMR from Jon

This month I have launched NMR Negative Memory Release. A protocol that combines Hypnotherapy, IEMT and NLP all of which I am a practitioner in. For a while now I have been looking for a niche. Something that will make me the go to guy for. So, I have used the time throughout the pandemic to look over all my case notes and see where the most impact was made. I contacted former clients to see how they were doing and to see if after the sessions, the suggestions were still working for them. I will be honest their were a couple of smokers that fell off the wagon due to being stuck at home with nothing to do. Well, that was their excuse, but me being me I’ve invited them back. However for my niche I wanted to put something together that used all the skills that I have learnt and offer a quick yet permanent way of helping clients. So, after months of trials, a bit of tweaking and perfecting, I felt ready to launch NMR.


So what is NMR?

Well In a nutshell. Here is the less sciency version. When we think of an event or a happening in our lives, our mind in a millisecond grabs all the parts of that memory, The sounds, the colours, the textures, the smells and forms a picture puzzle. When it offers you that picture an emotion forms from that memory. Now. without the full picture the emotion won’t form. The mind has distanced itself from the memory. It’s now nothing more than like seeing it as an old photograph. something that happened, but not to you. By using a combination of IEMT (IEMT Integrated Eye Movement Therapy) Hypnotherapy, and NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) I can break up that picture by removing elements of the puzzle.
If you want a more in depth description please visit my NMR website by clicking here.

Why would you need Negative Memory Release?


Throughout our lives we accumulate memories we’d rather forget. For people who’ve experienced a serious trauma, such as combat experience, domestic violence, or childhood abuse, these memories can be more than unwelcome — they can be debilitating. Fears and phobias often start from old memories. Sometimes you don’t even know that you are holding on to these memories and the attached emotions. Grief, Hate, even pain. You’re holding on to them long after they are any use to you.

Identify your triggers


Memories are cue-dependent, which means they require a trigger. Your bad memory isn’t constantly in your head; something in your present environment reminds you of your bad experience and triggers the recall process.
Identifying your most common triggers can help you take control of them. When you consciously recognize a trigger, you can practice suppressing the negative association. The more often you suppress this association, the easier it will become, thereby breaking the link between the trigger and the negative memory.
Some memories have only a few triggers, like particular smells or images, whereas others have so many that they are hard to avoid. For example, someone with a combat-related trauma might be triggered by loud noises, the smell of smoke, closed doors, particular songs, items on the side of the road, and so on.
If you have a repressed childhood memory, you may find yourself feeling triggered or having strong emotional reactions to people who remind you of previous negative experiences.
Significant events in life tend to linger in your memory. Some might spark happiness when you recall them. Others might involve less pleasant emotions.
You might make a conscious effort to avoid thinking about these memories. Repressed memories, on the other hand, are those you unconsciously forget. These memories generally involve some kind of trauma or a deeply distressing event. When your brain registers something too distressing, “it drops the memory into a ‘nonconscious’ zone, a realm of the mind you don’t think about.”
Scientists are just beginning to understand the complex process of memory. But there’s still a lot they don’t understand, including why some people develop post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and others do not.


The bottom line


Memories of pain and trauma are difficult to forget, but there are ways to manage them. Although research is progressing quickly, there are no drugs available yet that can erase particular memories. With NMR however, you can find a way to prevent bad memories from continuously popping into your head. You can also work to remove the emotional element of those memories, making them much easier to tolerate.
NMR can help you achieve this. And the best news. It can usually do it in just two sessions. (3 or 4 if really deep rooted) I know that’s a bold claim but it’s true. I have the clients to prove it.
During my trials I worked with Police, Military, NHS front line workers and of course Mums and Dads from all walks of life. Together we broke up the puzzle and without the full picture the emotion can’t return.
This is my niche. I will of course still offer hypnotherapy as a stand alone solution but as I move forward NMR for me is my go to session that will help many many people overcome their issues.
Please feel free to contact me if you would like to know more.
I wish you all the very best for July and I will see you next month.

Best Wishes

Jon

Jon Adkin BAHyp Negative Memory Specialist is a Clinical Hypnotherapist, NLP and IEMT Practitioner.

Jon Adkin Author of ‘Can I Change?’ Available from Amazon. and 100 days in isolation. A collection of funny original images of one mans decent into comic madness during lockdown

Find me on You TubeFacebookInstagram. and now TikTok.

Are you grateful for ALL that you have?

Audio Version of this blog.

Since I started my hypnotherapy business, I’ve had multiple people point it out to me how much I’ve changed and that I’m much happier. Some have even thanked me for having a positive impact on them and asked exactly what I’m doing that’s clearly had such obvious changes in my happiness.
I realized internally that things were shifting but had no idea how obvious it was to people outside and it’s because of these people who have reached out (seriously I am so grateful that you did) that pushed me to start creating videos on TikTok and youtube and writing content on the exact things, the tools and inspiration that I implemented to help get me so much happier.
I will be honest that not everything is going to work for everyone. Why? Because some people just aren’t ready to make the change yet. But if you are then I can guarantee that these small tips will most certainly help change your life.

There are a few key things that I think everyone should be doing because of the massive impact it can have on your life and in this blog I am going to discuss what I think is the easiest and most important tool.

It may not work for all, unless you are ready.

GRATITUDE.

Before you click away thinking that it’s too easy, stay with me.
There are many “little” things that so many people turn away from because they think that it is just too easy. They think, “There’s no way gratitude is going to change my life.” Well, have you tried? How do you know for sure? For many years I thought this was all a bit woo woo, a bit tree huggy. So I know what you are thinking.
The truth that is you probably didn’t try and don’t know. So I’ll let you in on a little secret…gratitude will change your life. And yes, it is that simple.
Some things are really, ridiculously easy to do, the hard part is just making a habit of it. Or we like to tell ourselves that’s the hard part. The truth is that it’s not that hard either, we just tend to work it up in our minds.

Why gratitude?

Practicing gratitude daily helps your mind shift from a negative to a positive state. Being grateful will encourage you to feel happy with what you already have and contribute to helping you stop always wanting more. Sure, you may still want the newer version of the iPhone or a bigger house, nicer car or more clothes but being grateful will certainly help you feel these constant needing thoughts less and replace them with happiness for what you already own.
Think about people who are poor. How can they be so happy and you, someone who has so much be unhappy? They’re grateful for what they have even if it’s much less than what you have.

If you’re reading this you’re probably spoiled in some sense which means that you already have a lot to be grateful for. You just have to make the mind shift to see how great the things you have already are.

If you don’t believe me when I say that gratitude is actually really, ridiculously beneficial for you, then believe science.

Plug yourself into your own possibilities.

It has been proven that gratitude improves our mental health, makes people happier and less depressed. Its been proven that practicing gratitude affects the part of your brain (hypothalamus) which controls eating, drinking and sleeping and also influences your metabolism and stress. Can you imagine how awesome you would feel if you’re eating, drinking, sleeping and stress improved? You’d feel great.

Practicing gratitude also works a part of the brain that releases dopamine, a chemical that makes you “feel good” and tells the brain to keep doing that same thing. So every time you practice gratitude your brain will be saying “Oh yeah! Give me some more of that gratitude!” It’s impossible for you to feel both positive and negative at the same time. Practicing gratitude will force you to think positively and the more you do it the easier it will become.

What Gratitude is Not


It’s very important to realize that gratitude is not comparing. Do not look at others and think that you’re grateful because you have more. This kind of ruins the point. You want to be grateful for what you have not because of what others don’t have.

How does gratitude work?


How Does Gratitude Work?


First off, you have to truly appreciate what you have. To do this, try thinking about what it would feel like to not have it. Not so great is it.
Now you can truly appreciate your car, home, comfy bed, the food on your plate, the clothes on your back, your body, anything!

How to Put Gratitude into Practice. Make it a habit.
I know, I know, saying that you’re going to make it a habit is easier said than done, so why don’t you start with doing it right now. Or when you’re done reading this blog. You are the only one who can hold yourself accountable. Without you and your commitment, there is no change.
If you do it now, like right now, you can feel the effects of what gratitude does for your mind and mood and you’ve already completed your first day of making this a habit.

I personally started off with writing down three things a day that I’m grateful for. I have a 6 minute diary, I find it helps to do it at the same time every day so I’ve incorporated this into my daily routine. Attaching a new habit to an old habit also helps make the habit easier to adapt. For example, I drink coffee every morning so I write the three things I’m grateful for as I drink my coffee. I’m at the point now that I’m so practiced that now I realise I’m practicing gratitude throughout the day like when I’m taking a walk and the sun is shining or opening my laptop and realize that I’m so grateful this piece of technology allows me to do my work.
Your brain really does like it and will start doing more of it on its own. I also find that it’s helpful to say why you’re grateful for something. For example, I’m grateful for my peaceful night’s sleep, because that means I will have a busy and productive day. Or I’m grateful for my body even with all that’s wrong with it, because it carries me throughout the day every day.
Try to think not only of the things around you but also YOU, what’s on you, what you’re putting into your body, what you’re using, and your body itself (including your flaws). This is the key that will help you love yourself more: being grateful for your body despite your flaws.

At first, you may be grateful for the big things but over time I can guarantee you will start to notice the little things and that’s when you’ll realise how grateful for you are for your entire life, when you’ll really notice the change in your happiness, mental wellbeing and truly start to love yourself.

Just before I finish, during June I am offering a free 30 page e-book all about self love and the mistakes we make. For your free copy please email me at jadkin.bahyp@gmail.com Thank you

Remember IT ALL STARTS WITH YOU.

Until next time.

Stay safe. Stay healthy.

best wishes

Jon

Hypnotherapy in Suffolk, Essex and Cambridge. and online via Zoom

Jon Adkin Author of ‘Can I Change?’ Available from Amazon. and 100 days in isolation. A collection of funny original images of one mans decent into comic madness during lockdown

Find me on You TubeFacebookInstagram. and now TikTok.

The road is open.

So here in the UK we are starting to prepare to come out of lockdown. It will be a gradual process but at least there is now light at the end of the tunnel. So what can you do to help yourself going forward? Well for a year now life has not been as we knew it, and you may have created some new bad habits or patterns of behaviour that you need to leave in lockdown. Sorry to break this news to you but once out of lockdown you won’t be able to live in your pyjamas every day. Or return to work in your joggers, (unless of course you work in a gym, I will let you off) So one thing you may need to do is try on some of your regular clothes, because sadly they may not fit. Yep pj’s and joggers are very lenient on a bit of weight loss, but your favourite blouse, shirt, skirt or trousers are not so understanding.

Whoops!


Oh no! you gained a bit of weight; how did that happen? Well, you started comfort eating or you ate more because you were bored or stressed. It happens and in no way am I judging you. You unintentionally created new patterns of behaviour or bad habits. And now because of the length of time that we have been in lockdown, those patterns of behaviour or bad habits have now become embedded. Experts say that once you do something regularly for 21 days or more, it becomes a habit, it becomes your new way.
I mentioned weight above but of course it could be anything. For example, perhaps you have got into a habit of wine o clock. Or you have started to become a negative thinker because you are spending a huge chunk of your day scrolling through social media reading negative comments or joining in petty bickering on a person’s point of view. If you have done any of these, you will know they are unhealthy to your body and your mind. However, don’t panic. You are not a lost cause.

Don’t give up.


Now in the UK we have another month before the hairdressers, nail bars, tanning salons etc etc open. Once they open You can get your hair done, your nails sorted even get a tan to feel like you have been away. You will start to feel good on the outside. Admittedly a truly short lived feelgood moment but you will feelgood. Feeling good on the outside is only part of the reinvention of you. You need to start feeling good on the inside. Changing the way, you think and act. Letting go of thoughts, emotions, memories in fact anything that no longer serves you.
Now is the time to make the changes that you want. If the old ways weren’t working for you. Make the change. As I’ve said in many of my posts and blogs. IT ALL STARTS WITH YOU.


So we have a few weeks before you can feel good on the outside, so what can we do to feel good on the inside? That is where me or many of my talented friends and colleagues come in. We can, in a space of a few short weeks unlearn those unhealthy patterns of behaviour and bad habits. We can, help if you need to lose weight by changing your relationship with food. We can, take that desire away for that glass/bottle of wine every night. We can, help you rediscover that confidence that you may feel is lacking. There are so many ways that you could use this time to emerge from this lockdown a stronger, happier even healthier person.

Ready to leave the cocoon?


If the old ways were not working for you. CHANGE THEM. If you keep reading the same chapter your life isn’t going to change. Let’s rewrite the new chapter. Think of this lockdown as a time in a cocoon and now you are preparing to leave with a whole new attitude, a self-belief a self-worth that had got buried deep inside you. Let me or someone like me help you to flourish.
It’s easier than you think. Contact me for a free consultation or go to my booking page and start the ball rolling.
ARE YOU READY TO FEEL GOOD ON THE INSIDE AS WELL AS THE OUTSIDE?

Remember IT ALL STARTS WITH YOU.

Until next time.

Stay safe. Stay healthy.

Jon

Hypnotherapy in Suffolk, Essex and Cambridge. and online via Zoom

Jon Adkin Author of ‘Can I Change?’ Available from Amazon. and 100 days in isolation. A collection of funny original images of one mans decent into comic madness during lockdown

Find me on You TubeFacebookInstagram. and now TikTok.