Are you ready to leave lockdown?

It’s been a long time coming, but after yesterday’s announcement (Monday 22nd February), it looks like that light at the end of the tunnel is finally shining bright. So, are you ready to face the world again? These lockdowns have changed a lot of people some for better, some for worse. Which category would you fall into?

Many people have been silently suffering for many reasons. The isolation has put strains on marriages, relationships with their own children, and pressure on themselves. I have had many people come to me realising that they need to change. They realise that the way they were, going into lockdown is not the way they want to leave it.

We all have traits that we don’t like about ourselves, some are so small that nobody notices. However, some are so visible that people can, and will decide whether they want to get to know you. It is those traits, habits, patterns of behaviour, that people notice and then make decisions about you. Let’s be honest, if you don’t like these things about you, how can you expect others to accept them? Those ways, those habits, those traits can change, you must realise, you wasn’t always this way. Many of our bad habits, or learned behaviours, come maybe from our parents, our siblings, our peers, but if they are learned behaviours, we can unlearn them, it is never too late to change, and if over these periods of lockdown, You have seen sides of you that you don’t like, well now is the time to do something about it. IT ALL STARTS WITH YOU.

It all starts with you.

So what is it that you would like to change? If it’s your appearance, change it get a new hairdo, lose weight, do your makeup different. Is it the way you think about yourself? The first thing you need to do is accept yourself as you are now, and then change the things that you don’t like. However if there are things about you that you feel have changed over the years like losing confidence, perhaps losing that self-worth, or having no self esteem. Well those things are still inside of you, they have just got buried over the years and perhaps you even forgot that you even had them.

What hypnotherapy can do is allow these emotions those feelings, those old ways back to the surface, back where they belong. When I have clients come to me because of lack of confidence, self-worth or self-esteem one question I asked him is can they remember a time when they were in control? A time when they had confidence, self-esteem , self-worth a time when they felt happy, happy on the inside and on the outside. So many of my clients find that hard to answer, it’s in them, but it is so deeply buried they just can’t find it. Their feelings for themselves is so low, that they feel they are unworthy of happiness, they don’t deserve to have felt good so they chose to bury it.

We all have a time in our life when we felt good, in control happy, It doesn’t matter what upbringing you had, you always had a time just for yourself. It may be when you was playing in the garden with your toys in your own imaginary world, it may be the time that you was picked for a part in the school play, you had confidence when you went for that first job interview, you had the self-belief when you did things out of your comfort zone, perhaps driving lessons, perhaps you challenged yourself to do a sponsored anything that challenged you. When you chose to do those things you had the confidence the self-belief and if you had it then you can have it now.

We have all been happy at some point.

Why shouldn’t you be happy, loved, successful or whatever it is that you desire. There is no reason why, it all starts with you hypnotherapy can help you release those feelings, put down, hurt, guilt, emotions and thoughts that are holding you back. I specialise in content free hypnotherapy, which means you don’t even need to know what is causing your problems. Many people come to me with an issue that isn’t the issue. So many memories, insults, put downs are burried to protect us , but they are there and over the years those voices that put them there become our voice and we start to believe them. It’s time to let that inner voice know who is in control. Remember it all starts with you.

If you went into these lockdowns hiding behind a mask and I don’t mean the medical ones I mean the one that you put on every morning and you take off every night. Why not use these remaining weeks to regain that inner strength , that inner confidence, that self-belief. Search for that inner happiness, and then look at what you have achieved. Stop focusing on the negative things in your life and realise now just how far you have come and what you have achieved.

I work not only face to face but online via Zoom, so it doesn’t matter where you are in the world I can help, and if I can’t help I will know someone that can. So no more excuses make the change that you want that you need, you will be pleasantly surprised how easy it is and how quick you feel those changes. Look up my testimonial page see how I have helped others, and I know that you may be skeptical and because of that I offer a free consultation where we just chat and you can ask whatever questions you like and I will be happy to answer tell you how I can help. Use these remaining few weeks for you, let some good come out of this pandemic so that you have the strength the confidence the self belief for the new normal.

Remember IT ALL STARTS WITH YOU.

Until next time.

Stay safe. Stay healthy.

Jon

Hypnotherapy in Suffolk, Essex and Cambridge. and online via Zoom

Jon Adkin Author of ‘Can I Change?’ Available from Amazon. and 100 days in isolation. A collection of funny original images of one mans decent into comic madness during lockdown

Find me on You TubeFacebookInstagram. and now TikTok.

Lockdown 2 Survival tips

So lockdown 2 has begun. Or Jamanji level 11 2020 As I like to call it.

We have survived it once we can survive it again but this time with an added strength because we know that we can do it.
Since it was announced I was looking for clarification as to whether I would be able to stay open and offer support to those that are anxious about lockdown, I was going to offer online sessions anyway but I do have a lot of clients where they prefer face to face rather than online. I understand that. I also understand how this new lockdown could be a tipping point for many. It’s colder, so we are not so quick to go out and do our daily walk. The days are so much shorter, and that means that you sit down and overthink so much more. So the lockdown take a different shape this time around.

I’m Open


Anyway I was given the all clear to stay open with guidelines of course, but at least people will know that there is help out their for them if not from me, from one of my very capable friends. So don’t let this lockdown get into your head. You are in control of your thoughts so keep them positive ones.


I’ve put together tips to survive this lockdown below. Some are mine, some are ones that I thought were great suggestions from various websites. As long as they help you I’m happy.

  • Keep to a routine – everyone is in unfamiliar territory with the current pandemic, so
    keeping some normality and routine is vital. Try to get up and go to bed at your normal time.
    Getting enough sleep, eating regularly and keeping hydrated will help optimise your health to
    fight the bugs off. Children can be particularly sensitive to upheaval, so try and make their day
    structured with set ground rules/boundaries, and stick to them.
  • Variety is the spice of life – A variety of activities will help stave off any boredom, you
    don’t have to just resort to box-sets and daytime TV. Gardening is a great activity, and fun to
    do with kids. Giving it a good old clean up at this time of year is ideal and if the kids are helping all our creepy crawly friends are out in force. You don’t even have to have a garden, as many things can be grown easily on a window sill. Local garden centres are also offering free home delivery. Reading a book or keeping your mind active with puzzles/quizzes/crosswords etc. are easy activities to get
    started with, and there are loads of activities available online, for adults and kids, that have
    been made free during the lockdown. Why not try to learn a new language, a musical instrument
    or broaden your horizons with a free opera broadcast?
  • Regular Exercise & fresh air – exercise is often the first thing to go out of the window
    when our daily routine is disrupted. Exercise not only keeps us physically well, but is also a great
    way to de-stress and protect our mental health. It doesn’t have to be anything fancy, if you are
    stuck indoors there are lots of HIIT (high intensity interval training) sessions you can do
    quickly, or do something simple like walking up and down the stairs a few times. Anything is
    better than nothing. If you can get outside even better, 30 minutes of a brisk walk/run/bike is
    plenty (maintaining your social distancing!).
    If you are lucky enough to have your own garden or outside space make the most of it if the weather is nice. If you don’t, or if you struggle to get out, then open the window and let some fresh air in.
    If it’s a clear night why not go out for a walk in the evening and do a bit of stargazing?
Don’t start snacking
  • Healthy eating – like exercise, when our routine is disrupted or we get stressed, eating
    habits can go to pot. Try and eat regular meals. Avoid too much snacking, or if you do, try to
    choose healthy snacks like nuts or fruit. Use it as an opportunity to get adventurous with
    cooking, and learn some new culinary skills. If you have kids at home, baking or cooking is a fun
    activity to do together and educational for them too. There are loads of recipes ideas online if
    you need them.
  • Limit social media & news feeds – it’s great to stay informed, but getting obsessive and
    tuning in all the time can be detrimental. If you are finding your anxiety ramping up, try to stay
    away and limit access to once a day. Also make sure you get your info from reputable sources,
    have a healthy scepticism of anything you read online or on social media. If you are not sure,
    look on official websites (NHS, Gov.uk) or ask your friendly GP (practice website or e-consult if
    available).
  • Help neighbours – elderly, unwell, or immobile neighbours are going to be at greater risk
    during this period. If you have time why not give them a call to check on how they are doing,
    and if you are doing an essential shopping run ask them if they need anything. Many communities
    are setting up formal volunteering groups which you could get involved in.
  • Stay connected, make the most of technology – we are fortunate to live in an age
    where there is a huge number of ways to keep connected. Just because you are in isolation
    doesn’t mean you can’t keep in contact via telephone or video call. Many methods offer group
    chats/calls so you can get the extended family all together, or your kids can keep in contact
    with their friends. Facetime, Skype, WhatsApp, Zoom are a good starting point.
Keep in touch.
  • Support local businesses – restaurants, bars and shops are going to take a big hit in the
    coming weeks, and without support may struggle to keep afloat. If they continue to offer home
    delivery or takeaway why not treat yourself now and again and support your local community.
    We will miss them when they are gone if we don’t!
  • Look after you mental health – as mentioned already, routine, exercise and avoiding too
    much social media/news can all help safeguard your mental health. However, if you are starting
    to struggle there is help out there for you. Calm and Headspace are great resources for
    anxiety which usually need a subscription but currently are offering free content. Your GP can
    also help or signpost you if needed, and there are many other charitable organisations that
    offer support online or by telephone*.
  • Relax, give yourself a break – particularly relevant if you are trying to juggle working
    from home I would hope that most employers will be supportive and understand that productivity just isn’t going to be the same in the current situation. So cut yourself some slack and don’t put yourself under too much pressure – everyone needs a bit of me time and a break.
    And finally…remember this isn’t going to last forever. Stay safe, be kind and supportive to
    each other and we will come out of this stronger.

Until next week, or possibly the week after 

Have a great week or two.

Take care and stay safe.

Jon X

Hypnotherapy in Suffolk, Essex and Cambridge. and online via Zoom

Jon Adkin Author of ‘Can I Change?’ Available from Amazon. and 100 days in isolation. A collection of funny original images of one mans decent into comic madness during lockdown

Find me on You TubeFacebook and Instagram.

Are you ready to leave lockdown?

Hi, Welcome to this weeks blog.

I opened my doors for one to one last week, working within the Government guidelines of social distancing. The response has been great, and I thank anyone who I have seen since I opened.

What I have noticed from the messages and the phone conversations that I’ve received this week is that there seems to be a whole new lot of problems that have arisen because of Covid-19. I think because of the lockdown new issues have raised their heads, some serious some not so serious. The not so serious were things like, My next door neighbours cat meows too loud, or I slept for 3 hours in the afternoon and I can’t get to sleep at night, and many more. What the lockdown has done is heightened senses. We have become more aware of things going on around us. We have also got out of routines, So taking a 3 hour sleep in the afternoon is of course going to disrupt your usual sleep pattern.

We are slowly coming out of lockdown, so perhaps next week you need to start getting back into a routine. You could start by getting out of your PJ’s or your trackies. Start dressing normally again.

Reintroduce your old routine 

If you’re preparing to start going back into the office or do the school run, it’s a good idea to start easing back into your old routine now. Set your alarm for the time you would normally get up and go to bed at the time you did pre-lockdown. 

If you have a household with children, that means getting the whole family back onto this timezone too. Go through the motions of your old routine too – get showered and dressed and do your hair as if you were going into the office. 

‘Also – ensure you create a sense of weekdays and weekends by focussing on chores and work during the week and relaxation time for weekends – just as you used to do. This all helps to create a sense of confidence that we are ready to readjust and resets our body clocks in preparation for the event.

Suggest a catch up on Zoom

Suggest a Zoom work catch-up 

One of the most common anxieties I hear from people in my practice, is the thought of going back to work and having face to face meetings or social interaction

To help reduce anxiety around this, reach out to work colleagues – FaceTime them – ahead of going back to work. This will significantly help to alleviate some of your fears as you reconnect with them and you’ll feel that much more confident about your long-awaited physical interaction with them. 

‘You could even suggest a Zoom call with a group of colleagues to create a sense of togetherness and establish your sense of community.

Re-introduce your work wardrobe 

The clothes we wear affect our mood, confidence, attitudes and even the way we behave and interact with people. So now – more than ever – think of this as your psychological armour for        re-entering the world. 

‘Many of us have been living in a uniform of comfy sweats and elasticated waist trousers for what feels like an eternity but it’s time to go through your wardrobe and create your capsule ‘back to the world’ key looks.  Even invest in a few new pieces if it helps you feel good. Not only will this mentally empower you, it removes a huge amount of pressure and stress when the day finally comes – it’s one less thing to think about. And simplicity is key in reducing anxiety.

Start cutting down now.

Reduce your screen time 

The trepidation and confusion caused by information overload is a huge contributor towards anxiety levels. As you prepare to go back into the outside world, take stock and account of the amount of screen time you spend browsing social media and news sites. 

Many of us have increased our intake of social media sites and that has caused a massive increase in anxiety rates. Children also need to be told not to spend so much time on You Tube and Tik Tok etc. If you start to reduce their viewing times now, it won’t come as so much of a shock when normality finally returns. Limit your own screen time to once or twice daily and be aware of the people or information sources that create a feeling of dread – avoid these. Especially on days when you’re feeling high levels of anxiety.

If you find zoom chats exhausting you’re not alone. Video calls can be harder to navigate in many ways than face to face interactions, because we are so focused on seeing our own face. 

‘It can also feel rather overwhelming when everyone is talking at the same time. Instead of solely relying on Zoom, get back into the habit of speaking to people you care about on the phone.’

Strike up a conversation with a stranger

Walk your dog or your child where you know you’ll find other people, such as in the park, whilst maintaining social distancing. Give yourself an exercise each day to strike up a conversation with someone you don’t know – even from a few metres away. 

‘Having been locked up at home for weeks, we are used to giving people a wide berth and it’s easy to feel a sense of fear and mistrust when we see someone new. Get back into the habit of smiling and making eye contact, rather than leaping into the nearest hedge when someone approaches.’

Another option is to set up a chair by your front door and talk to people as they pass. Setting up a chair at your front door with a cuppa or a glass of wine and chat to people walking past, can be very enjoyable, Connecting with people, from the safety of your garden or balcony, or even an open window is a good first step to re-socialising, plus you may even make friends new people in your neighbourhood. 

Although it may feel strange at first, don’t focus on your own feelings of awkwardness. Instead, focus on the fact that your friendliness could brighten up someone else’s day.

And finally for this week.

Equip yourself with a mask and podcast for the first commute 

‘It’s important to differentiate that, for most people, the fear of going outside of the house is not rooted in the action of going outside in itself – it’s the fear of becoming infected.

‘Naturally, the idea of boarding public transport or a cramped commuter train where we are not in control of social distancing nor has it been effectively enforced, is enough to send us over the edge and into panic attack territory. It’s so important to gear yourself up for this mentally if you have no choice but to use public transport. Beyond the basics of equipping yourself with a protective mask, gloves and hand sanitiser, download your favourite podcasts or playlist that helps to relax and transport you to a place of calm or take a book to read.

I wish you all a safe and health week. Until next time

Take care, Best wishes

Jon X

Hypnotherapy in Suffolk, Essex and Cambridge.

Jon Adkin Author of ‘Can I Change?’ Available from Amazon.

Find me on You TubeFacebook and Instagram.

What’s the new normal?

Hi Welcome to my weekly blog.

This week I re opened my doors for one to one clients. As lock down eases here in the UK we need to get back to normal, but what is normal? are we ready for the new normal? Along with many things at the moment I don’t think anyone knows what the new normal is going to be. However what if we could make our own new normal. There is no reason why we can’t do that.

Make two lists and compare.

Think of your life before lockdown. What would you change given the Chance? in fact let’s have some fun, get a pen and some paper put a line down the middle of the paper, and put two headings. One heading saying before lockdown, the other heading saying after lockdown.
Now make a list of things that you used to do before lockdown that you did every day , things like drive the kids to school, meet friends for coffee, go to the gym, make dinner in the evening, Watch TV, etc etc. So, you’re making a list of the things that you used to do. Now make a list of what you plan to do after lockdown. Perhaps walk the children to school, meet your friends in a park, plan a healthy meal, and prepare it with the children, go out for an evening walk, spend more time interacting with the family etc, etc.
Do you see a difference in your two lists? are there things that you are now doing that you would like to continue to do after lockdown? Are you enjoying spending more time playing with the children or talking to your partner? Have you started to enjoy walking again cause you got out to do your daily exercise? We can get a lot of positives out of this strange situation, and as individuals if we each bring out the good perhaps our new normal will be so much better.

Did you discover a new hobby?


If you’ve enjoyed playing with the children being creative, being silly, being parents. There is no reason why this must stop. Have the children enjoyed having their parents around more? Are they spending less time on the computer or their tablets or phones? They are all positives.
have you found a new hobby? perhaps you’ve been a bit more adventurous with your cooking, or found a new love for doing puzzles, or you have discovered reading again. again, all these are positives. Positives that you can continue well after lockdown is over.
Now once you’ve made those two lists, compare them and see what good things you can bring out of this lockdown with you. Yes, You may have to make adjustments in your lifestyle, once the children go back to school and you go back to work but changes can be made. Just because things get back to normal doesn’t mean they have to be the same as they always were.
Think of the money you will save by not meeting friends for coffee each day, but by making your own and going for a walk around the park chatting. Think how much fitter the children and you will be if you can walk to school (I know not always possible) and the added bonus of that is that you don’t feel the frustration and anxiety of driving on the school run, so your day starts so much better. How many of you drive to the gym (to get fit) whereas actually, you could have walked or jogged there? It is all the little changes that you can make that could make your new normal so much better for everyone.

It’s ok not to be ok.

Now on the flip side, there will be a lot of people that entered lockdown in a happy or happyish relationship, but because of the isolation, tension and frustration have built up and tempers have flared. If that is you Don’t panic. I want you to get a pen and paper and again put a line down the middle, but this time Your headings will be How it was. And How it is. And again make 2 lists. However, this time it will show you what you had, and it will be up to you to get it back.

If you were happy going into lockdown, then you can get that happiness back. Not everyone wants to be around their partner or their kids 24/7 Not everyone has the patience to keep the kids entertained, and that is ok. As long as all parties were happy and safe and well.
You must do what works for you. This lockdown has bought out the best and the worst in people. What all of us need to do now is say we survived that and look forward now and leave the worse parts behind. As I said in one of my Facebook posts, We may not all be in the same boat, but we are all in the same storm.

Until next week

Stay safe, Stay healthy and look after yourself.

Jon X

Hypnotherapy in Suffolk, Essex and Cambridge.

Jon Adkin Author of ‘Can I Change?’ Available from Amazon.

Find me on You TubeFacebook and Instagram.

Is online therapy just as good?

Hi

welcome to this weeks blog, I was hoping to open my doors for one to one sessions this week but after the prime ministers announcement I found that sadly it still wasn’t safe to do one to one with my clients.

So the question is, are online sessions as good as one to one sessions? The answer to that is yes if you want them to be. Hypnotherapy can be a very powerful and helpful way to make you feel and think differently. However hypnotherapy will only work, if you want it to work. So really where you have it done or how you have it done doesn’t matter, as long as you are prepared to relax and follow instruction then online will work for you. It all starts with a call.

It could be the best call you ever make.

There can be some advantages to having a session online. Firstly some people feel more comfortable in their own home. They can choose perhaps their favourite chair or even their own bed to relax on. No travelling is involved, and at the moment I’m working up till 11:30 PM so that you can have your session once the children are in bed and you can relax more fully.

There are somethings that we have to take into account, firstly a reliable Internet connection, Secondly a quiet place, somewhere you can go for about an hour that you won’t be disturbed. Throughout the session I will need to see your face show the laptop or tablet needs to be positioned in a place that it won’t fall down or be knocked over at anytime during the session. For my sessions I have found a piece of software called zoom to be the most reliable, it’s a free piece of software and is easily downloaded. 

Zoom is a free download available here.

So what happens at a session?

As always we start with a pre talk, I explain what I will do, and how I would do it, and you can tell me anything that you think I might need to know regarding the issue that you’ve come to me for. However, as I have found out many times the issue isn’t always the issue. What do I mean by that, I mean, that if you came to me say with a weight problem, there may be an underlying problem as to why you gained the weight. Perhaps, you had a bad experience with a former partner and you ate to make yourself unattractive so that you wouldn’t get hurt again. Or perhaps you have no confidence or self esteem, but why, was you put down perhaps by an adult a sibling even a teacher, And their words stuck in your mind and over the years those words have dictated how you lived your life.

You may not even know why you feel the way you do, but your subconscious mind will know exactly why, And it’s those thoughts that I help you change.

One question people ask me before I do an online session is what happens if we do lose connection for whatever reason, will they stay in trance? And the answer to that is NO!. I put in a suggestion very early to say that if my voice isn’t heard for any length of time then my clients will just wake up naturally, feeling good.

Just before a zoom session.

HOW IT WORKS:

1. To arrange an online zoom session, please email me at jadkin.bahyp@gmail.com or book online at jadkinbahyp.youcanbook.me and include a contact number – I will then call you to arrange an online appointment at a time that suits you, between 9.00AM and 11.00PM

2. We will have a brief chat on the phone so I have a full understanding of your needs – this is free of charge. We will then arrange a time for your session; Payment is made by BACs transfer before the session.

3. During the session, we will be able to see each other – you can use a desktop, laptop, tablet, or even a mobile phone; Ideally if you have a set of headphones, that would be great as they help to block out any unwanted background noises.

4. You will need to sit in a comfortable chair and have a pillow or cushion handy to support your head;

5. Each session is tailored to your own specific needs.

I have been using online hypnotherapy since I went full time, mainly for clients who cannot make it to my practise room on a particular day for some reason, and I have found it to be very effective. I use either Zoom, WhatsApp or Skype, but we can discuss this during your free phone consultation.

During the current coronavirus outbreak it is invaluable to allow you to access treatment whilst maintaining social distancing or self-isolation. Giving you complete peace of mind.

I have a page on my website dedicated to online sessions.

So just to clarify the Benefits of Online Hypnotherapy

Online hypnotherapy also brings some bonus benefits in its own right.

Accessible

Provided a person can make the time difference work, anyone, anywhere in the world can now access hypnotherapy with me. All they need is a device that can run Zoom and some headphones if preferred to listen to my voice.

It has also opened my services up to clients with disabilities who cannot travel to a physical clinical location easily or indeed at all.

Comfortable & Relaxing

One paradoxical problem of in-person hypnotherapy is that, especially for people new to hypnosis, the process of attending is not necessarily a relaxing experience. Myths and misconceptions about hypnosis (and hypnotists!) can make the whole experience seem quite daunting and a bit scary.

Plus, the more professional and ‘clinical’ a practice becomes, the more likely it is to set off a bit of ‘white coat anxiety’ in even the calmest person.

By being able to engage in online hypnosis via 1-2-1 sessions from the comfort of your own home, the above is massively reduced if not eliminated completely.

There will always be new ways to evolve both the art and science of changing minds, but right now online hypnotherapy is one of the most exciting areas to be working in.

And as a special promotion during this lock-down period I am offering my Online sessions for just £65. A 20% saving off my normal price.

Hope to see you online soon.

So there you are. I hope that helps if you are thinking of asking for help but wanted more information. If I haven’t answered your specific question please message me or Contact me and I will be happy to answer.

Until next week, stay safe, stay healthy

Best wishes

Jon X

Hypnotherapy in Suffolk, Essex and Cambridge.

Jon Adkin Author of ‘Can I Change?’ Available from Amazon.

Find me on You TubeFacebook and Instagram.