All in Good Thyme

Hi.

Hope you had a lovely Easter. As the kids grow up there were less eggs around the house, but mu son did have the absolutely huge chocolate ostrich egg from Aldi. It was massive. I will let you into a secret. I can’t stand the chocolate of Easter eggs. I never have done. When I was a kid my parents use to buy me an annual  instead of an egg. I was happy with that. Anyway I digress.

I thought I would share with you some early details of my new weight loss program. All in Good Thyme ( Do you see what I did there) which I’m launching on the 1st of May.  Now this is not a diet program this is a hypnotherapy at home program which will change your relationship with food.

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How does it work I hear you ask….Go on someone ask. well I will tell you. Firstly I have set up a Facebook page where only subscribers to the program will be invited. I have recorded 5 Sound files (there will be bonus material) which the client will receive every 14 days. and each sound file helps with different aspects of eating like, comfort eating, Binge eating, Picking etc etc. There are PDFs to print out to help you along but the biggest part is that it is tailored to you. So when someone signs up they will be sent a totally confidential questionnaire which will show me their eating habits and their lifestyle and from that the first sound file will be aimed at their needs.

This is a program that you can do at home or if you would prefer to visit me I will of course be more than happy to see you at my practice in Haverhill.

The added extra of this program is that it includes in the price my Piece of Mind guarantee.

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This means for 12 months you have access to me. Should you need extra support in that 12 months for a weight related issue I will provide it foc.

Now I will say that this is NOT a quick fix program. As the name suggests It will take Thyme (time) I have been running trials on this and I am getting mixed results. All the clients have lost weight and have changed their way of thinking towards food, and I have had results of over a stone + in the initial 12 week period to a loss of just 8 lbs. However a loss is a loss and as it’s hypnosis based the end results will be down to how badly you want it.

This works as a standalone program or works along side other diets that are out there. So if you have a weight problem or just a bad relationship with food. This program could be the light at the end of the tunnel.

It’s launching the 1st of May and I will be offering early bird reductions of 25% from Sunday for 3 days. so watch my Facebook page

All in good Thyme

Confidence/Weight Loss Package

A 4 Session 12 week Package which not only includes Weight loss and motivation hypnotherapy sessions but also PDFs to back up our sessions together along with a 12 month Peace of Mind contact agreement where you as my client can contact me should you ever feel that you are slipping back to that dark place, and we work together to get you back to where you want to be.

If you would like to know more message me or contact me and I will be happy to answer any of your questions.

Speak to you soon

Jon XX

Can I?

I really do not know where this year is going. Did anyone get fooled this year? So what am I going to blog about today? Do you know what. I really don’t have a clue. Honestly I’m sitting here thinking what do I want to tell you about or get you involved in. Well the easy answer is I don’t know. I have been so busy with clients these past two week, which is great but nothing has been playing on my mind. Well I say that. but something that is becoming more and more evident on social media and that is the amount of people telling you how to sell your business. How to run ads on Facebook. how to create a sales funnel, blah blah blah.

Now as a new business owner I was drawn into some of these ads until I very quickly realised that actually all I was doing was helping expand their business and not helping mine at all. Don’t get me wrong there are some really good ideas out there and there are people who know their stuff. However do they know their stuff for you particular type of business?

I have been very lucky since I went full time. I found an online mentor Sarah Baker who does know her stuff especially for therapists. I have made some good friends within communities of other like minded hypnotherapists. especially within the Blueprint family and I sold the best asset I had. Me! by selling me and my enthusiasm and belief I am building a business mainly on recommendations and testimonials.

Believe in myself

Now please don’t get me wrong. I’m not here bragging, far from it. The message I want to get across to you is believe in yourself. Believe in what you do and what you can do for others.  We all have qualities within us that make us special. Don’t hide those qualities. let them come out. feel good about yourself, feel good for helping others. I know I do and every time I receive a testimonial or just a quick text to say how much better they feel or how much their life has changed. I guarantee that will make my day.

It doesn’t matter what you do, you may own a business you may be a full time Mum but whatever you do, if you do it with self belief and confidence it makes a difference. If you believe in you others will believe in you and others will trust you. Your own children will follow your ways as they learn through rope behaviour, so show them how to feel confident, how to have self belief, how to be themselves.

Do what you want to do. DO you want to write a book? I did, I now have seven under my belt (6 children’s books and and an anxiety book for Mums) Do you want to start your own business? Do it. I did, it’s not easy but it is so rewarding. I did this and so much more because I believe in me.

If you need help believing in yourself, contact me. I would love to help.

Well It’s short and sweet but it comes from the heart.

Until next week, be happy, be strong and smile

Jon XX

I have a question!

Hi.

Welcome to April. Did anyone get fooled? (or are we just allowing the government to do all of us at the same time?) It’s amazing how much better we feel when the sun is shining and the days are longer. So what’s happening with me? Well last week I had an impromptu open morning with a Q and A session. I had a couple of rescheduled appointments so I thought I would open the doors. I also opened the questions to my Facebook page  Allowing anyone who had any questions to get in touch.

I had biscuits, I made coffee and people came, which I was surprised at to be honest as I only decided to do it Monday night and the open morning was Wednesday. Some past clients came and bought friends. Some new faces popped in oh and best of all the window cleaner turned up with his massively long pole (keep it clean ladies) and decided to clean the windows so suddenly, as we was in the conservatory it suddenly sounded like the heavens had opened and going out of the front door was like walking through Niagara Falls. “More coffee anyone” It wasn’t a ploy to keep them longer, I promise.

Anyway. It always surprises me the questions that people ask, but it’s good that they ask because if you don’t ask the answer is always no. I have a FAQs page on my website. and also a working with me page, which answers a lot of the usual questions. However there are always questions that people want to ask but they feel to silly. Can I say no question is too silly. If you are brave enough to ask I salute you.

What I would like to share with you is some of the more unusual questions that came up, like.

Q. Can You hypnotise my boyfriend into seeing me thin (like in shallow Hal)?

A. No sadly not,

Q. Can you make me forgot the past?

A. I can’t make you forget the past but I can change how you think about it and how it effects you putting you back in control of your thoughts.

Q. Can you make me a better golfer?

A. Actually yes. I can help you become more focused and to visualise.

Q. I have a very odd phobia. Can you help me get over it?

A. Yes. Fears and phobias are thoughts. I can flip those thoughts so that you don’t associate a negative feeling with that ‘thing’.

Q. Can you help me get over a bad relationship.

A. Yes I can. It doesn’t matter what went wrong or what happened within the relationship. I can help you move on, feel good about yourself and live the life you deserve.

I received lots of different questions across the day, which was good. Never be afraid to ask. What you may think is a silly question really could be meaningful for someone else. Also don’t feel you have to wait for a Q and A session. If you have a question, message me and I will get back to you. I won’t always be able to help. However if I can’t help I am sure I will know someone who will be able to help you. I am now a part of We Are Thrive  a community organisation launched in 2018. ​ ​Based in Saffron Walden, who have both the qualifications and experience of the mental health and wellbeing sector, having worked amongst the community for many years​.  Our aim as a group is to offer a wide range of affordable and accessible wellbeing services that encompass mentoring, counselling, training and workshops to help you address any mental health issues, such as those we are all faced with today. From the young to the old, our organisation offers access to a multitude of highly qualified professionals that are both easily accessible and affordable too.

I hope you have a good week. Don’t forget my door is always open. If you have a question, or want a chat message me or call me.

Best Wishes

Jon XX

Let me tell you a story.

Hi welcome back to my weekly blog. yep I’ve been a good boy and been writing weekly for some time now, but like sky TV it’s ok you can read on catch up.

This week I want to tell you a story. Now this is a client’s story but she wants me to share it with you. Of course no names or personal details will be used but her story will be true and honest, but lets see if it has a happy ending.

Now when clients ring me they have usually be following me on Facebook for a while, liking posts or making the odd comment and when they feel ready they contact me. Last week was a little different I received a frantic phone call from a lady, She had seen my ads but in her words had never paid much attention to them until last Wednesday. Last Wednesday I run an ad about being stuck in again, when the sun is shining because you didn’t feel like facing the world. She told me that as she was scrolling through her Facebook then it was as if that ad hit her like a sledgehammer.

“My God that’s me” She knew she had a problem but she wasn’t really sure what was wrong. She then liked my page and she looked back over past ads and posts and she realised that I was talking about her. We ll not her specifically but how she was feeling.

Now instead of following me for a few more weeks or even months in some cases (you know when the time is right) She rang me straight away. The reason the call was frantic was because on Saturday 23rd March she had to take her children and a friends child to a concert. She didn’t want to go, the very thought of it scared her and even made her feel sick. So much so that she was prepared to fake an illness to get out of going.  This lovely lady was desperate. She didn’t want to let her children and their friend down but she didn’t know what to do. She couldn’t go, it wasn’t possible. or so she thought.

Now usually I offer a free consultation and I would make notes, and from those notes I plan hypnotherapy sessions for the client over the coming weeks, but it was Wednesday evening and the concert was on Saturday. and my client who was now a blubbering wreck (her words not mine ) in my hypnotherapy room  needed help now!

So within 2 hours of her initial call my client was now getting comfortable on my very nice reclining chair ready to be hypnotised to give her the confidence and the self belief to be able to go to the concert.

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So where was I? Oh yes.

Now for me this was a little odd because really my client didn’t want to go to the concert. she wasn’t looking to be miraculously cured as she didn’t really know what was wrong. So do I give her suggestions to be strong and say to the daughter that she didn’t want to go or do I try to give her the confidence to go to the concert. Tricky one.

On further conversation I discovered she liked the artist who was performing and use to go to concerts years ago. It was just the thought of taking her girls and their friend and being responsible for them.

I knew what to do.

As a hypnotherapist I have a tool box, not a literal tool box, just scripts or protocols that I can use to help clients.

That day I chose the Blueprint a content free hypnotherapy protocol. Being content free the client makes all the choices. She would know what she needs to let go of, or think differently about. She would be able to picture herself doing whatever she decided to do.

When I run ads for this I advertise it as a spa day for the mind. Every client I have used this on have seen so much improvement in their lives.

An hour later my client is back to full consciousness and is no longer a blubbering wreck. She can’t believe what she let go of and how she didn’t expect to see the things she saw.

I received a call Saturday night which hung up as soon as I spoke, Oh dear, that’s not a good sign. I received another call from the same number on Sunday morning. It was my client.

She apologised for hanging up on me. The reason she hung up was that it was just too noisy at the concert. Yes she went and not only did she go she ended up dancing in the aisles.

The reason for this story is just to say. you may know something is wrong, or holding you back but your not sure what. Well you may not know but you deeper sub conscious mind will know. So don’t think oh it’s just silly or it will go away on its own. Sometimes we need a bit of help, and help is out there.

It’s never to late to change.

Have a great week

Jon xx

It’s ok not to be ok.

Hi thank you for visiting.

Another week another celebrity (sort of) death. As I work with a lot of mental health clients at my practice in Haverhill, I do think it’s a shame that it takes someone in the media to highlight the sad facts of suicide especially in males in the UK. However another way of thinking is that it at least it does highlight the scary figures. Here are just some that I find staggering.

  • In 2017, 5,821 suicides were recorded in Great Britain. Of these, 75% were male and 25% were female.
  • Between 2003 and 2013, 18,220 people with mental health problems took their own life in the UK.
  • Suicide is the most common cause of death for men aged 20-49 years in England and Wales.
  • One person in fifteen had made a suicide attempt at some point in their life.
  • The suicide rate in Scotland rose by 8% between 2015 and 2016, with 728 suicides registered in Scotland in 2016.

Sadly the first one I’m not totally surprised at as 95% of my clients are woman. Women will realise they have a problem. They talk to each other and in a lot of cases they do something about it. Whereas us men DON’T TALK about it, we pretend we are all okay and very few will ask for help. Then when we realise that we do have a problem it’s taken a grip.

So what can we do to help?

Well the first thing is talk, ask questions, open up,  I appeal to all ladies, if you think there may be something wrong or playing on their minds, talk to your partner, your dads, your male friends. Show them you care. Let them know you want to help and if you can’t help let them know there are plenty of people out their who want to help.

Recently I’ve come across a number of articles/blog posts about what not to say to a friend/loved one with certain mental health problems. Whilst these are useful, as it’s hard to know what comments could affect others more than you, constantly hearing ‘don’t say this’ and ‘don’t say that’ can make people feel like they have to tiptoe around people who are struggling. This feeling is not necessary and can make the conversation even harder to have than it already is, or prevent it from happening altogether. This would only increase the feelings of isolation and loneliness that the sufferer may already be going through. So, instead of that, I thought I’d share 10 ideas about what to say to a friend/loved one with mental health problems.

1) ‘How are you?’ The number of people who’ve told me they feel as if they’re prying by asking someone who they know is struggling how they are is shocking. Mental health problems or not, we are all people and sometimes we’re okay, other times we’re not. You don’t have to advise or provide solutions if we’re not; just listen and be a friend.

2) ‘Do you want to go out on …?’ Personally I didn’t withdraw myself socially when I was struggling, (I felt best with my friends), but I know that many people do. Don’t stop inviting them to nights out and events because of their struggles, instead, try to help them live a ‘normal’ life and show that you don’t judge them and you appreciate their company.

3) ‘You deserve to be happy.’ Whether it’s due to the illness itself, self-stigma or poor support, many people with mental health problems come to the conclusion that they deserve to feel the way they do. This can mean they don’t get the support they need. Your words could encourage them to get help sooner rather than later.

4) ‘I’m so glad you’re in my life.’ Something I’ve been thinking about a lot these days is how we express our love and appreciation for people so much more after they pass, when they can’t hear it anymore. I wish we expressed more before this.

5) ‘Remember when…’ Sometimes things seem so dark that it’s hard to remember there was ever light. Talk about good memories. Plan to make more.

6) ‘You’re not a weirdo.’ Having different thoughts or feelings to the people around you can make you feel like you don’t fit in or ‘belong’. Remind your friend/loved one that you love them for who they are, and they are not just their illness.

7) ‘You can be honest with me.’ People struggling often feel like no one understands, forgetting that no one can understand unless they share what they’re going through – ask them. Being that person they know they can share everything with is one of the most rewarding and beautiful you can do.

8) ‘Do you want to go for a walk?’ We are indoors way too much these days. Take in some fresh oxygen and do some deep breathing with your friend to slow those racing thoughts down.

9) ‘How is treatment going?’ Treatment is a difficult and emotional process, and having someone to talk to about it (other than professionals) can be really helpful. Don’t feel the need to tiptoe around the subject. Fight the stigma; the person struggling will probably really appreciate it.

10) ‘Would you like a hug?’ This one doesn’t really need an explanation, does it?

Overall my message is to just show kindness and compassion, interact with them as normally as possible and don’t dismiss or minimise the pain they may be experiencing. It’s difficult to see a loved one suffer so look after yourself too.

I hope this helps and if any of my family or friends are reading this and they want to talk my door is always open, I won’t make judgements, I won’t laugh it off and I will not dismiss it.

Sorry this blog was a bit glum but I think it’s important that we notice what is going on around us.

Have a lovely week  and I will see you next time.

Best wishes

Jon XX

Ps. If you local I’m having an impromptu open morning tomorrow. Visit fb.me/adkin23 for more details.  I will have the kettle on, it would be great to see you.

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