Are you ready to leave lockdown?

Hi, Welcome to this weeks blog.

I opened my doors for one to one last week, working within the Government guidelines of social distancing. The response has been great, and I thank anyone who I have seen since I opened.

What I have noticed from the messages and the phone conversations that I’ve received this week is that there seems to be a whole new lot of problems that have arisen because of Covid-19. I think because of the lockdown new issues have raised their heads, some serious some not so serious. The not so serious were things like, My next door neighbours cat meows too loud, or I slept for 3 hours in the afternoon and I can’t get to sleep at night, and many more. What the lockdown has done is heightened senses. We have become more aware of things going on around us. We have also got out of routines, So taking a 3 hour sleep in the afternoon is of course going to disrupt your usual sleep pattern.

We are slowly coming out of lockdown, so perhaps next week you need to start getting back into a routine. You could start by getting out of your PJ’s or your trackies. Start dressing normally again.

Reintroduce your old routine 

If you’re preparing to start going back into the office or do the school run, it’s a good idea to start easing back into your old routine now. Set your alarm for the time you would normally get up and go to bed at the time you did pre-lockdown. 

If you have a household with children, that means getting the whole family back onto this timezone too. Go through the motions of your old routine too – get showered and dressed and do your hair as if you were going into the office. 

‘Also – ensure you create a sense of weekdays and weekends by focussing on chores and work during the week and relaxation time for weekends – just as you used to do. This all helps to create a sense of confidence that we are ready to readjust and resets our body clocks in preparation for the event.

Suggest a catch up on Zoom

Suggest a Zoom work catch-up 

One of the most common anxieties I hear from people in my practice, is the thought of going back to work and having face to face meetings or social interaction

To help reduce anxiety around this, reach out to work colleagues – FaceTime them – ahead of going back to work. This will significantly help to alleviate some of your fears as you reconnect with them and you’ll feel that much more confident about your long-awaited physical interaction with them. 

‘You could even suggest a Zoom call with a group of colleagues to create a sense of togetherness and establish your sense of community.

Re-introduce your work wardrobe 

The clothes we wear affect our mood, confidence, attitudes and even the way we behave and interact with people. So now – more than ever – think of this as your psychological armour for        re-entering the world. 

‘Many of us have been living in a uniform of comfy sweats and elasticated waist trousers for what feels like an eternity but it’s time to go through your wardrobe and create your capsule ‘back to the world’ key looks.  Even invest in a few new pieces if it helps you feel good. Not only will this mentally empower you, it removes a huge amount of pressure and stress when the day finally comes – it’s one less thing to think about. And simplicity is key in reducing anxiety.

Start cutting down now.

Reduce your screen time 

The trepidation and confusion caused by information overload is a huge contributor towards anxiety levels. As you prepare to go back into the outside world, take stock and account of the amount of screen time you spend browsing social media and news sites. 

Many of us have increased our intake of social media sites and that has caused a massive increase in anxiety rates. Children also need to be told not to spend so much time on You Tube and Tik Tok etc. If you start to reduce their viewing times now, it won’t come as so much of a shock when normality finally returns. Limit your own screen time to once or twice daily and be aware of the people or information sources that create a feeling of dread – avoid these. Especially on days when you’re feeling high levels of anxiety.

If you find zoom chats exhausting you’re not alone. Video calls can be harder to navigate in many ways than face to face interactions, because we are so focused on seeing our own face. 

‘It can also feel rather overwhelming when everyone is talking at the same time. Instead of solely relying on Zoom, get back into the habit of speaking to people you care about on the phone.’

Strike up a conversation with a stranger

Walk your dog or your child where you know you’ll find other people, such as in the park, whilst maintaining social distancing. Give yourself an exercise each day to strike up a conversation with someone you don’t know – even from a few metres away. 

‘Having been locked up at home for weeks, we are used to giving people a wide berth and it’s easy to feel a sense of fear and mistrust when we see someone new. Get back into the habit of smiling and making eye contact, rather than leaping into the nearest hedge when someone approaches.’

Another option is to set up a chair by your front door and talk to people as they pass. Setting up a chair at your front door with a cuppa or a glass of wine and chat to people walking past, can be very enjoyable, Connecting with people, from the safety of your garden or balcony, or even an open window is a good first step to re-socialising, plus you may even make friends new people in your neighbourhood. 

Although it may feel strange at first, don’t focus on your own feelings of awkwardness. Instead, focus on the fact that your friendliness could brighten up someone else’s day.

And finally for this week.

Equip yourself with a mask and podcast for the first commute 

‘It’s important to differentiate that, for most people, the fear of going outside of the house is not rooted in the action of going outside in itself – it’s the fear of becoming infected.

‘Naturally, the idea of boarding public transport or a cramped commuter train where we are not in control of social distancing nor has it been effectively enforced, is enough to send us over the edge and into panic attack territory. It’s so important to gear yourself up for this mentally if you have no choice but to use public transport. Beyond the basics of equipping yourself with a protective mask, gloves and hand sanitiser, download your favourite podcasts or playlist that helps to relax and transport you to a place of calm or take a book to read.

I wish you all a safe and health week. Until next time

Take care, Best wishes

Jon X

Hypnotherapy in Suffolk, Essex and Cambridge.

Jon Adkin Author of ‘Can I Change?’ Available from Amazon.

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What’s the new normal?

Hi Welcome to my weekly blog.

This week I re opened my doors for one to one clients. As lock down eases here in the UK we need to get back to normal, but what is normal? are we ready for the new normal? Along with many things at the moment I don’t think anyone knows what the new normal is going to be. However what if we could make our own new normal. There is no reason why we can’t do that.

Make two lists and compare.

Think of your life before lockdown. What would you change given the Chance? in fact let’s have some fun, get a pen and some paper put a line down the middle of the paper, and put two headings. One heading saying before lockdown, the other heading saying after lockdown.
Now make a list of things that you used to do before lockdown that you did every day , things like drive the kids to school, meet friends for coffee, go to the gym, make dinner in the evening, Watch TV, etc etc. So, you’re making a list of the things that you used to do. Now make a list of what you plan to do after lockdown. Perhaps walk the children to school, meet your friends in a park, plan a healthy meal, and prepare it with the children, go out for an evening walk, spend more time interacting with the family etc, etc.
Do you see a difference in your two lists? are there things that you are now doing that you would like to continue to do after lockdown? Are you enjoying spending more time playing with the children or talking to your partner? Have you started to enjoy walking again cause you got out to do your daily exercise? We can get a lot of positives out of this strange situation, and as individuals if we each bring out the good perhaps our new normal will be so much better.

Did you discover a new hobby?


If you’ve enjoyed playing with the children being creative, being silly, being parents. There is no reason why this must stop. Have the children enjoyed having their parents around more? Are they spending less time on the computer or their tablets or phones? They are all positives.
have you found a new hobby? perhaps you’ve been a bit more adventurous with your cooking, or found a new love for doing puzzles, or you have discovered reading again. again, all these are positives. Positives that you can continue well after lockdown is over.
Now once you’ve made those two lists, compare them and see what good things you can bring out of this lockdown with you. Yes, You may have to make adjustments in your lifestyle, once the children go back to school and you go back to work but changes can be made. Just because things get back to normal doesn’t mean they have to be the same as they always were.
Think of the money you will save by not meeting friends for coffee each day, but by making your own and going for a walk around the park chatting. Think how much fitter the children and you will be if you can walk to school (I know not always possible) and the added bonus of that is that you don’t feel the frustration and anxiety of driving on the school run, so your day starts so much better. How many of you drive to the gym (to get fit) whereas actually, you could have walked or jogged there? It is all the little changes that you can make that could make your new normal so much better for everyone.

It’s ok not to be ok.

Now on the flip side, there will be a lot of people that entered lockdown in a happy or happyish relationship, but because of the isolation, tension and frustration have built up and tempers have flared. If that is you Don’t panic. I want you to get a pen and paper and again put a line down the middle, but this time Your headings will be How it was. And How it is. And again make 2 lists. However, this time it will show you what you had, and it will be up to you to get it back.

If you were happy going into lockdown, then you can get that happiness back. Not everyone wants to be around their partner or their kids 24/7 Not everyone has the patience to keep the kids entertained, and that is ok. As long as all parties were happy and safe and well.
You must do what works for you. This lockdown has bought out the best and the worst in people. What all of us need to do now is say we survived that and look forward now and leave the worse parts behind. As I said in one of my Facebook posts, We may not all be in the same boat, but we are all in the same storm.

Until next week

Stay safe, Stay healthy and look after yourself.

Jon X

Hypnotherapy in Suffolk, Essex and Cambridge.

Jon Adkin Author of ‘Can I Change?’ Available from Amazon.

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