Do you listen to yourself?

Hi, Welcome to this weeks blog.

Let me ask you a question. Do you talk to yourself? Do you listen to yourself? For instance how many times have you perhaps dropped something and it broke or spilt everywhere, and you called yourself a F#$k!ng idiot. Or you can’t find your keys or phone after searching only to find them in the first place that you looked, so you call yourself stupid. We have all done it.

Well each time we put ourselves down our subconscious is listening and that’s what it thinks you want. so if it hears you calling yourself an idiot it will continue to help you do idiotic things. It has no logic but it has your best intentions at heart.

Lets take an average day. Lets say you get out of bed and you stub your toe on the bed leg or you stand on a charger cable. BANG! straight away you are cursing and your mood changes. So you go downstairs and your snappy with whoever else lives in the house. SO they then become defensive and suddenly everyone is in a bad mood, just because you stubbed your toe.

You are on the way to work, and it doesn’t matter if you are driving or getting a bus or train the same chain reaction has an effect on others. Let’s say you are in the car. Your running a bit late. The first set of lights you come to are RED. GRRRRR. your mood starts to change. It seems to take for ever to change, but eventually you move on only to be cut up my a cyclist. Your mood worsens. You start cursing them. They can’t hear you so they are unaffected. The only person it’s affecting is you. and so the day turn down begins.

You eventually arrive at work. because of all the red lights your parking space is taken. Actually it isn’t your parking space. you have just got into a habit of parking in the same place each day. However today you can’t, and that annoys you.

So when you actually get into the building you are in a foul mood. but hang on. Who are you angry at? Are you seeing the pattern of behaviour here. Can you see yourself in any of what Iv’e just described.

So because you’ve arrived in a bad mood all your colleagues are avoiding you, so you start over thinking the situation. You think they must dislike you, or they know something that perhaps you don’t. Suddenly your mood becomes even worse as you have now convinced yourself that everyone dislikes you and they are holding something back, which you need to know. You react, they react now the whole place is in a bad mood. Work is affected, sales are affected, friendships are affected.

All because you stubbed you toe this morning…

Let’s change the day

Life is like a mirror. it reflects our thoughts, our ways, our responses. Everyone in that work place was reflecting just one persons mood, their anger, their behaviour.

It all starts with you..

It doesn’t have to be like that. You have to learn how to flip those thoughts and react positively.

Let’s do that day again but with a positive slant.

Lets take an average day. You start the morning with a positive message on your smart speaker or phone. BANG! straight away you are smiling. So you go downstairs and you are happy and positive with whoever else lives in the house. SO they then become so much happier, and suddenly everyone is in a good mood, just because you listened to a positive sound file.

You are on the way to work, and it doesn’t matter if you are driving or getting a bus or train the same chain reaction has an effect on others. Let’s say you are in the car. Your running a bit late. The first set of lights you come to are RED. No problem, you put a motivational sound file on the car radio. your mood starts to change, you are suddenly feeling motivated. Eventually you move on only to be cut up my a cyclist. You admire his bike, no anger felt. You think to yourself that perhaps you could get a bike, it may be quicker and certainly healthier. You will good and positive. and so a good day begins.

You eventually arrive at work. because of all the red lights your parking space is taken. Actually it isn’t your parking space. you have just got into a habit of parking in the same place each day. However today you can’t, No worries. I can park around the corner. I could do with the extra exercise.

So when you actually get into the building you are in a great mood. Are you seeing the pattern of behaviour here. Can you see yourself in any of what Iv’e just described.

So because you’ve arrived in a great mood all your colleagues are looking up and smiling, The mood in the work place is straight away lifted. That day your company recorded its most productive day ever.

All because you started your day with a positive.

A solution

So why have I played out this scenario? well I have to be honest I have been working on something to help you through these strange times, where Covid seems to be affecting people in many different ways.

I’ve called it Update & Reboot, and what it is is a library of Non Hypnotic sound files that can help you feel better about yourself. Using a combination of NLP and the Law of Attraction. I’ve recorded a series of sound files covering many issues such as confidence, self-worth, sleep, finances, relationships and so many more. Visit www.jonadkin.uk for more information.

This library is going to be added to on a continuous basis and once you subscribe, with just a single payment of £49.99 you will have lifetime access to all the sound files.

These recordings are non hypnotic so don’t have to be listened to through headphones, so you can listen to them whilst getting ready in the morning, or whilst driving, or on the bus to work. They are accessible at any time. You work them into your schedule to suit you best.

I have been using these sound files since I started my business and I am sure that is why I have the attitude that I now have and have not panicked over the lockdown period. My mind was in a better place. Let’s help yours get to where you want it to be.

Jon X

Hypnotherapy in Suffolk, Essex and Cambridge. and online via Zoom

Jon Adkin Author of ‘Can I Change?’ Available from Amazon. and 100 days in isolation. A collection of funny original images of one mans decent into comic madness during lockdown

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Are you ready for your upgrade?

Welcome back.

Are you ready for an upgrade? Do you think you may not need it? What age are you 21, 35, 57 68? Whatever age you are that is how old the software that you are running on is. Would you use a computer or a phone with old struggling software. No of course not. So yes you are ready for a upgrade and a reboot.

Change is something everyone grapples with–whether it’s kicking a bad habit, coming up with new and original ideas, shifting a business focus, changing behaviors, changing company culture, or trying to change the world. Certainly the ability to create or manage change is a key issue for every business, because if you can’t get out in front of it, and even lead it, it may not be long before you’re at the back of the pack.

The question, of course, is how?

I’m ready for an upgrade.

The answer begins with recognizing that change at any level requires at least some dose of refreshing and resetting the brain. The good news is that neuroscience now confirms that you can effectively and sustainably do just that with a few proven steps that center on thinking, because when you change the way you think, you actually (chemically) change the connections in your brain.

Pointing the way is a successful non-drug behavior therapy developed by neuropsychiatrists working with the UCLA School of Medicine for patients suffering from obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD), which is perhaps the most locked up form of behavior. The method centers on a mindful thinking approach and entails four basic steps that result in a reset brain and changed behavior.

  1. Relabel
    The first step is to relabel a given thought, feeling, or behavior as something else. An unwanted thought could be relabeled “false message” or “brain glitch.” This amounts to training yourself to clearly recognize and identify what is real and what isn’t, refusing to be tricked by your own thoughts. You step back and say, “This is just my brain playing games on me.”
  2. Reattribute
    The second step answers the question, “Why do these thoughts coming back?” The answer is that the brain is misfiring, stuck in gear, creating mental noise, and sending false messages. In other words, if you understand why you’re getting those old thoughts, eventually you’ll be able to say, “Oh, that’s just a brain glitch.” That raises the natural next question: What can you do about it?
  3. Refocus
    The third step is where the toughest work is, because it’s where behavior actually changes. You have to do another behavior instead of the old one. Having recognized the problem for what it is and why it’s occurring, you now have to replace the old behavior with new things to do–positive, desirable things, things you enjoy doing and can do consistently every time. This is where the change in brain chemistry occurs, because you are creating new patterns, new mindsets. By refusing to be misled by the old messages, by understanding they aren’t what they tell you they are, your mind is now the one in charge of your brain.

This is basically like shifting the gears of your car manually–your automatic transmission isn’t working, so you have to manually override it. The more you do it, the smoother the shifting becomes, eventually refurbishing the entire gearbox. Like most other things, the more you practice, the more easy and natural it becomes.

  1. Revalue
    It all comes together in the fourth step, which is the natural outcome of the first three. With a consistent way to replace the old behavior with the new, you begin to see old patterns as simple distractions. You devalue them as being completely worthless. Eventually the old thoughts begin to fade in intensity, the brain works better, and you no longer feel the tug of that pesky habit.

If these four steps are effective in rewiring and resetting the brain of an OCD sufferer, think what they can do to help you lead whatever change or win whatever challenge you may be facing.

Let it go.

HOW TO REBOOT YOUR BAD DAY
We all have them – bad days – and they can take over so much so that we cannot focus on anything. A bad day can turn into a bad week and then a bad month – snowballing to the point that there seems like no return. Reboot your bad day now!
Knowing how to reboot your day so that you can literally start over is a great trick to learn. Your bad day needn’t ruin your life.
Here is how you can reboot your bad day and start afresh:

  1. DELEGATE
    For some this is easy, but for others they feel that doing it themselves is far easier than outsourcing. But, in hindsight, which is where we generally realise we should have asked for help, seeking to share our tasks is the only way to go.
    Speak to colleagues who can help, look to outsourcing parts of our work, and free up your time. A nice start to reboot your bad day.
  2. STOP DOING WHATEVER IT IS THAT STARTED THE BAD DAY
    Walk away from the issue, even if just for a moment. Go do anything else that brings you joy. Even a few minutes is good enough to right your mood, set your mind in a clearer mode, and help you to deal with the issue at hand.
  3. DEAL WITH PERSONAL ISSUES QUICKLY
    Any personal problem can plague your mind to the point that you won’t be able to do a good job on anything else. Rather deal with it – although we understand that it may not be a quick fix, but addressing it, acknowledging it, and putting a pin in it, can help you to carry on with your day in a more positive light.
  4. SPEAK TO SOMEONE
    Often just having a chat with a close friend or family member can help you to overcome a dull and troublesome day. Reach out to someone and see if they can help you get over the issues and reboot your bad day.
  5. STICK TO YOURSELF
    Contrary perhaps, given our previous point, but most times all you need is to be alone with your thoughts. Take a minute or two to meditate, or even just sit in silence, and try to remove all the negative thoughts from your mind. Whatever the issue is, it will still be there afterwards, but with a clear mind you may be able to deal with it better.

If you need help to reboot I’m launching my new package next week. Update & Reboot. A way to declutter the mind and make you feel better about yourself.

Visit my website for more details.

Until next week, thank you for reading.

Have a great week

Jon X

Hypnotherapy in Suffolk, Essex and Cambridge.

Jon Adkin Author of ‘Can I Change?’ Available from Amazon.

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Do you need an upgrade?

Hi, welcome back.

This week I want to blog about upgrading and rebooting. How often are we asked to upgrade our Phone, or tablet, and computer. Nowadays we live in a world that we have to constantly update the intelligent things around us. However the one thing that we do not upgrade is ourselves.

Think about it, when our computers upgrade the software, the first thing they ask us is do we want to delete orphaned or unused files. We are asked, do we want to remove unused programs, would we like to store duplicate files.

Now of course, we tend to do what the computer asks us, as we feel sure that it knows best. What happens when you don’t update or reboot your computer? Well, the first thing you will notice is that it starts to slow down, it takes ages for it too start up properly, it seems to take an age to search for either a piece of software that you know he’s on the computer, or perhaps a file or picture, that you know is there but it is taking a long time to find it. Another thing you may notice is that when you have a few programs open, the computer really struggles completing the jobs that you asking it to do.

How about our phones and tablets. So often now we get told there is a new update, and what do we do, we updated it. Not even questioning why we need to update it. The Phone or tablet was working fine, you didn’t see any need for updating, but the makers of the Phone or tablet Want you to update so that their product is working at the best for you.

So why am I talking about updating a Phone or a computer? I’m talking about this because we don’t update or reboot the most important thing to us. Our mind.

Let’s reboot.

Think about what I’ve just said above, if you are 18, 32, 47 or 55 that is how old your software is, don’t get me wrong it’s a brilliant piece of software. It knows everything that you have ever seen smelt or touched. It keeps a record of every person you have ever met, every place you have ever been, Every word you’ve ever heard. However it also keeps record of every mistake you’ve ever made, every put down you have ever heard, every injustice you have had to suffer.    

Now, contrary to belief no one is perfect. We all make mistakes and the best we can do is learn from them and move on from them, but the put downs any injustices tend to stay with us and in the worst case scenario we start to believe them. So with all that going on in our head it’s no wonder that just like our computers we start to slow down, we find it harder to multifunction, we can’t recall someone’s name perhaps as quick as we used to be able to. So like our electronic gadgets we need to update and reboot.

Just like a software update, we need to delete some old files, we need to File away those old injustices, put downs, guilts, hurts and anything else that you no longer need. We can do this, we can’t erase the past not that we would want to, but we can change our thinking, we can change the way we allow a past memory to affect us.  

When we born we didn’t have fears or anxieties, we didn’t have the weight of the world on our shoulders. We have learnt those behaviours, and if we have leant them we can unlearn them.

We all have and need a level of stress inside us, that is perfectly normal. However once that level is exceeded, and that happens very quickly, our mind starts to work overtime and never really settles down, which causes us to worry unnecessarily or over think situations that we have no control over.

It’s our thoughts that are letting us down, and we can’t have an emotion without having a thought first, and so the circle begins, and slowly but surely our mind fills up with a load of information that  we no longer need.

So what can we do? Well we can’t change the past we know that. What we can do is learn from the mistakes that were our fault, If the mistakes were not our fault we stop worrying as we have no control over them. If you were put down or made to not feel good enough. STOP! Think about today, the here and now. You’re here, you survived and you’re doing ok. What’s past is past. We can’t change it, so we learn from it and we make the most of what we have.

Coming Soon

Some people need help to move on from the past, that is why from the 1st of March I’m offering a new package. Update & Reboot 2020. An affordable way to rewire your brain. A way you can file away or delete all those unused memories. Clear a load of those learnt behaviours that no longer serve you, such as fears, phobias, hurts, griefs etc etc.

How does it work? I’m a hypnotherapist and by letting your subconscious know that you want to move on, you no longer what to hold on to those feelings, your subconscious will, with your help let those feelings go. Your subconscious knows what you need to let go of to make those changes that you want. So all you have to do is relax and let your body and your mind do the rest.

I’m excited with this new package. I’ve been trialling it now for a while and the results have been fantastic.  So now it’s time to make it available to you. If you are ready for an update and a reboot message me. I would love to help. It launches the 1st March and my website www.jonadkin.com from next week will have all the final details.

I look forward to hearing and hopefully working with you.

Until next week.

Have a great week.

Jon X

Hypnotherapy in Suffolk, Essex and Cambridge.

Jon Adkin Author of ‘Can I Change?’ Available from Amazon.

Find me on You TubeFacebook and Instagram.