They didn’t teach us this!

So I trained to become a hypnotherapist. I worked really hard, I learnt loads. The history and thinking behind my new skill. Lots of different techniques and I worked with case studies to perfect my art. I qualified, my door was open now bring on the clients. Hello I said bring on the clients.

Oh hang on, we have to find our own clients. They didn’t tell us that bit. How many therapists feel like this? Not just therapists, but anyone that offers a service and aim to get business across social media.

Now, I am one of the lucky ones because having an IT background I understand about algorithms and how they work ( well a lot of the time I do). However so many therapists don’t have an IT knowledge. Where does that leave them?

We ask friends and family to like and share our page, which they do, but is there really any prospect of them becoming a paying client? The answer is no not really. They are showing their support but that isn’t going to pay the bills. So now what? Well you have to start posting regularly on your chosen platforms, but what do you post? how do you get likes? Will they share my post? Do I need to pay for likes? HELP!

I need help.

Help is around, but what I have found that there are a lot of marketeers trying to sell you the same package that they sell to a plumber, a car salesman, a painter and decorator. what do they really know about the therapy business? As therapists we face problems over and above other services.

  • People are scared to like posts as it shows their name and their friends may notice.
  • Therapy of any sort still has a stigma attached to it so people don’t tend to share.
  • What we do is all a bit Woo Woo. According to some. We know it isn’t, we know it works. but how do we prove that if we can’t attract clients?
  • The chances of your post getting in front of a client at exactly the right moment is very very slim.
  • People don’t like admitting they have a problem so are reluctant to ask for help.
  • The list goes on.

So what can we do. Ahh. Well that’s where I can help. You see I’ve only been full time just over 3 years now but in that time I have been lucky enough to stay busy and have a constant flow of clients. I have been able to do this as I understand how to get the best out of Facebook, Instagram and social media in general, and the best thing is that I did it on a zero budget.

So what I have done is compiled a 50+ page manual aimed at therapists, but will help anyone that offers a service to raise their awareness on social media, and in doing so will get your name out there and keep it out there until your client is ready, and when they are ready they contact you and become a new paying client.

Perhaps you may find that missing piece.

I will be selling this manual for just £49.00 but it is filled with tips and advice on how to post, what to post, when to post and about creating an identity on social media. I let you know the costly mistakes that I made, so that you don’t make them and I also point you in the direction of some excellent free software or apps that are my go to when posting.

What Can Social Media Do For You?

A helpful manual for therapists and small business to create a better presences on social media. SEPTEMBER SPECIAL OFFER JUST £49.00

£49.00

You do not need a PayPal account to pay via Paypal.

I’m not going to promise you a major influx of clients or that you will be earning £50k plus by Christmas but as long as you make some of the suggested tweaks, and make it your own, you will see a rise in your social media presence.

If you are reading this and want to know more please feel free to email me at jadkin.bahyp@gmail.com or see my Facebook page I’m doing this to help and support therapists and small businesses that have just survived a very tough time. As I say I’m not a marketeer, I’m just someone who understands what you are going through.

I want to turn on that light at the end of the tunnel for you.

Until next week, or possibly the week after 🙂

Have a great week or two.

Take care and stay safe.

Jon X

Hypnotherapy in Suffolk, Essex and Cambridge. and online via Zoom

Jon Adkin Author of ‘Can I Change?’ Available from Amazon. and 100 days in isolation. A collection of funny original images of one mans decent into comic madness during lockdown

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Swipe left, Swipe right, ignore the world.

Hi

this week, I’m going to go off track, the reason this is that yesterday I went down London for the day And I could not believe how many people were walking around looking at their phones, they had their headphones on bumping into people stepping out in front of cars and not acknowledging the world around them.

Today Thursday the 10th of October is world mental health day And I am convinced that so many people now are living their life through their phones and their tablets. I spent some time yesterday people watching,  and in that time I don’t think anybody smiled at each other acknowledged each other or even looked around them to see even where they were.

Life is not about swiping left and swiping right life is not about apps that can make your life easier, life is for living.

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At one point I was walking down Regent Street the shop windows looked fabulous as always a lot of time and effort have been put into making them look that good, And I did not notice one person stop and appreciate all the hard work that gone in to making those shops look so fabulous. I also at one point stopped for coffee and again I sat there and people watched. I watched people walking to the shop on their Phone they sat down, still looking at their phones they ordered their coffee hardly taking their eyes off the screen, People were sitting in groups of three and four not talking to each other or perhaps they were but via text. Modern technology is killing social interaction. I saw families not talking to each other I saw groups of friends who weren’t talking to each other, I witnessed two people taking pictures of their biscuits. Has it really come to this that we know what biscuit you’re having with a coffee, that when we have a day out with friends, we don’t talk to her friend we just send pictures and text too other people. I wonder how many single people for walking down the road yesterday and had they just lifted the head from their Phones, They may have just seem the love of their life. No filters, no pouting, a real human being in the flesh.

How many of us walk around our hometown and not appreciated the architecture. how many of us are rude unintended of course bur still rude,  to people who work in shops and are trying to serve us and yet we do not end that Phone call. Is the call really that important?

In Oxford Street one of the busiest streets in the world I saw people walking into oncoming traffic, I saw people walking into lamp post into bins, all because they wouldn’t take their eyes off the screen for a moment. Even going down into the underground last night crowd of people were unaware of their surroundings and the danger they put others in had they have lost their footing on their steps or the escalator.

Now I am no Angel, I used to do the same, I could have people talking to me and if my Phone buzzed in my pocket, I would take it out and look at it mid conversation.  I have a good friend that pointed out to me that I always did this, yet I still did it.  It’s only now that I realise just how rude it is,

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Children are forgetting how to interact with others, you see toddlers in pushchairs with tablets in their hands and usually the young mum on her Phone as she pushes the child through perhaps a  colorful engaging park, Not pointing out the different trees not pointing out the wildlife that surrounds them,  Parents interact with your children, Share your knowledge, don’t leave up to Peppa pig or Google.

Via social media we talk to strangers every day. When was the last time you smiled at a real stranger, or said hi as you walked past? You do it on your phones why not do it in real life. You never know you just might make someone’s day.

Going back to the coffee shop yesterday, sat in the corner was a lady with a wonderful shade of blue hair It looked fantastic. She was of course on her phone; I presume playing games as her fingers were swiping all over the place and she looked bored. I made a point of approaching her as I was leaving and told her that I loved the colour of her hair and how good it looked on her. (No I was not hitting on her, I didn’t leave her my number) I just paid her a compliment and left, but as I looked back that young lady had the biggest smile on her face.

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So are you up for a challenge? I want as many of you as possible to leave your phone alone for at least one hour each day. I don’t mean when you are working, I mean leisure time, commuting time, down time. Talk to your friends, your family especially your children. Look around and I mean really look around. See what delights there are on your travels.

I do it now and I feel so much better for. It’s a small ask but it’s one that can make a major impact on your life.

Step out from behind the filters. No one really wants to see a picture of your lunch.

As I said in the beginning, life is for living. So live it.

Rant over.

Normal service will be resumed soon. Hopefully.

Until next time

Jon xx

 

Jon Adkin BAHyp Hypnotherapist.

www.jonadkin.com

What can it do for you?

Hi.

If you are a regular reader of my blog (and there are some of you) you know that I am a hypnotherapist. and an EFT/TFT Tapping practitioner  So last night I got talking to someone and the question arose “Well what could you do for me?” and the answer is lots actually.

You don’t have to be overweight, or a smoker or an anxiety sufferer to want to visit a hypnotherapist. We can can help you with so many aspects of your life and modern living. It’s not all about fears and Phobias.

Let me give you some examples, (and just so you know names, dates and possibly genders are changed in these case studies. to protect clients).

Case Study 1:

Client was feeling totally worthless and life had no purpose.

2 sessions with the client showed them that they were not worthless and that their life definitely had a purpose. We worked together on building their self worth, made them feel that they can handle what life throws at them, seeing new challenges as a way of growth. followed by reinventing their outlook on life. Replacing those damaging negative thoughts with more positive constructive thoughts.

Outcome:

This was 7 months ago. I met the client in town just last week.  I saw him before he saw me. He was smiling, his body language shouted confidence and he looked happy. When he saw me he came straight over with his NEW partner. (There wasn’t one at the time of the sessions) and he introduced her to me. He can’t believe the change in himself and he is now full of optimism for his future.

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Case Study 2:

Client was struggling with anger issues.

3 sessions booked in. Did some emotional release as to the root of the anger. then worked with the client showing them that they can release that anger before a hand is raised. then did some future pacing using visualisation. showing the client what life will be like once their anger is under control, their control.

Outcome:

Life has become so much more peaceful at home. and their partner is not living on their nerves anymore if they go out for a drink. The client is so much calmer and does not get angry over things that use to make them snap.

Case study 3:

Relationship breakdown.

My client came to me because of a relationship breakdown and didn’t feel that they could move on. we booked in 3 sessions and in those 3 sessions we used a method that I have in my toolbox called The Blueprint. It’s a fantastic content free protocol that will help shift negativity, unwanted thoughts, past trauma etc then once we have cleared those thoughts, those patterns of behaviour we start on rebuilding the confidence and self belief which is always in you. It just gets covered over and we tend to forget that we are in control of our thoughts and beliefs.

Outcome.

6 months later. a very happy independent person who now knows they don’t have to rely on others and can very much be their own person. They are dipping their toe back into the dating scene but with a new found confidence.

Here is a link to my testimonial page. I love to receive feedback and to see how my clients are doing.

So you see. It’s not just about fear of flying or fear of heights etc etc . It’s all about you and making you the best that you possibly can be.

I love this work and the satisfaction that it brings. Seeing the long term change in my clients makes me feel so pleased and proud that I could help them.

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So why did I get into it, I hear you ask. (Go on someone ask please)… I will tell you. Because it saved me. In my 30s (I’m 57 now) I had some major illnesses. 2 heart attacks 2 mini strokes and various medical procedures. I lost my confidence my self belief and my mojo. So I had a decision to make I could have curled up on the sofa and watched Kilroy (the then equivalent of the Jeremy Kyle show) or I could pull myself together.

I did the latter. I started with self hypnosis books. Thanks Paul Mckenna. then as time went on not only did I regain all my confidence back I exceeded where I wanted to be. So a few years back I decided to train to become a hypnotherapist. Not intending to do it as a career I just wanted to know why it made a world of difference for me.

So I trained and the more I did the more I loved it. Not only could I do it I was bloody good at it (yep, blowing my own trumpet here) So I qualified and I started doing it in the evenings alongside my proper job. However the more I did, the more I loved it and the buzz from helping people was amazing so I took a leap of faith nearly 2 years ago and went full time.

I have not looked back. (Well I have but I fell over so I won’t be doing that again)

I believed in me and I got that from hypnotherapy and that’s why when you come and see me you can see the passion and the enthusiasm that I have, and having been there I know I can get you back on track.

So that’s my little story for this week. Next week I will blogging about ???? who know’s I just sit down and see what comes. however what I do know is that it will be of benefit to you the reader in some way. as that’s what I like doing. I like helping people.

Until next time

Have a great week

Jon X

Ps. I’ve also written a few books(Search Jon Adkin on Amazon) and painted a few pictures

Even more boosts for your self-confidence.

Hi.

How did you get on? Did any of my tips help you last week? I do hope so.  This week I’m going to continue to offer more tips and advice and let’s hope one or some of them help you in the future.

Speak slowly. Such a simple thing, but it can have a big difference in how others perceive you. A person in authority, with authority, speaks slowly. It shows confidence. A person who feels that he isn’t worth listening to will speak quickly, because he doesn’t want to keep others waiting on something not worthy of listening to. Even if you don’t feel the confidence of someone who speaks slowly, try doing it a few times. It will make you feel more confident.

Stand tall. I have horrible posture, and I’m short, so it will sound hypocritical for me to give this advice, but I know it works because I try it often. When I remind myself to stand tall and straight, I feel better about myself. I imagine that a rope is pulling the top of my head toward the sky, and the rest of my body straightens accordingly. As an aside, people who stand tall and confident are more attractive. That’s a good thing any day, in my book.

Each time we face our fear, we gain strength, courage, and confidence in the doing.- Theodore Roosevelt

Set a small goal and achieve it. People often make the mistake of shooting for the moon, and then when they fail, they get discouraged. Instead, shoot for something much more achievable. Set a goal you know you can achieve, and then achieve it. You’ll feel good about that. Now set another small goal and achieve that. The more you achieve small goals, the better you’ll be at it, and the better you’ll feel. Soon you’ll be setting bigger (but still achievable) goals and achieving those too.

Change a small habit. Not a big one, like quitting smoking. Just a small one, like writing things down. Or waking up 10 minutes earlier. Or drinking a glass of water when you wake up. Something small that you know you can do. Do it for a month. When you’ve accomplished it, you’ll feel fantastic.

Focus on solutions. If you are a complainer, or focus on problems, change your focus now. Focusing on solutions instead of problems is one of the best things you can do for your confidence and your career. “I’m fat and lazy!” So how can you solve that? “But I can’t motivate myself!” So how can you solve that? “But I have no energy!” So what’s the solution?

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Smile. Another trite one. But it works. I feel instantly better when I smile, and it helps me to be kinder to others as well. A little tiny thing that can have a chain reaction. Not a bad investment of your time and energy.

Be grateful. I’m a firm believer in gratitude,  but I put it here because while being grateful for what you have in life, for what others have given you, is a very humbling activity … it can also be a very positive and rewarding activity that will improve your self-image.

Exercise. Gosh, I seem to put this one on almost every list. But if I left it off this list I would be doing you a disservice. Exercise has been one of my most empowering activities in the last couple years, and it has made me feel so much better about myself.
All you have to do is take a walk a few times a week, and you’ll see benefits.

One important key to success is self-confidence. An important key to self-confidence is preparation.-  Arthur Ashe

Do something you’ve been procrastinating on. What’s on your to-do list that’s been sitting there? Do it first thing in the morning, and get it out of the way. You’ll feel great about yourself.

Work on small things. Trying to take on a huge project or task can be overwhelming and daunting and intimidating for anyone, even the best of us. Instead, learn to break off small chunks and work in bursts. Small little achievements make you feel good, and they add up to big achievements. Learn to work like this all the time, and soon you’ll be a self-confident maniac.

You are good enough

Clear your desk. This might seem like a small, simple thing (then again, for some of you it might not be so small). But it has always worked wonders for me. If my desk starts to get messy, and the world around me is in chaos, clearing off my desk is my way of getting a little piece of my life under control. It is the calm in the centre of the storm around me.

I hope some or just one of these tips helps you. Until next time. If you are ready to move on but need a little help, visit my website jonadkin.com or book a free consultation online at jadkinbahyp.youcanbook.me 

I started this blog 2 weeks ago with a quote and I will finish with one.

Somehow I can’t believe that there are any heights that can’t be scaled by a man or woman who knows the secrets of making dreams come true. This special secret, it seems to me, can be summarised in four C s. They are curiosity, confidence, courage, and constancy, and the greatest of all is confidence. When you believe in a thing, believe in it all the way, implicitly and unquestionable. – Walt Disney

Jon XX

Facebook is down. PANIC!

Hi.

Today is Thursday 4th July. Happy independence day to my American family and friends. Who relies on social media now for business or just communicating with your friends and family etc? Yep most of us. So it was interesting yesterday. I noticed mid afternoon that no images were downloading. Posts were getting through but no images or videos. At first like a lot of people I thought it was my WiFi then I thought it maybe my phone, so I rebooted and reset all the settings but to no avail. So then I googled,  was facebook down and sure enough Mr Google informed me that Facebook, Instagram and What’s App were all experiencing difficulties at this time. Did I panic No!. Did I do a post informing everyone what they already knew. No! What I did do is I posted on all the social media that I use that due to technical issues I was unable to post adverts this evening however, if you would like to know more about me and the services I offer please visit my website at www.jonadkin.com.  and then I put down my phone. Yep I put down my phone and I picked up …….wait for it……… a book. Yes I actually picked up a book and started to read.

Now that you are over that shock (Yes I can read) How did you or your family react? I think it’s sad that our lives seem to revolve around social media these days. I’m fortunate to live near Cambridge A lovely picturesque town, but the amount of times I go there no and just see people walking along neck bent, head down looking at their phones. They are walking past some of the most impressive architecture in the UK. Who knows they may even have walked past their love of their life. On the river Cam you can go punting and some of the students will be your guide and tell you all about the beautiful buildings that you punt past. Many times have I stood on the bridge that the punts pass under, only to see complete families who have paid for this excursion not even looking up from thier phones. The poor student is doing his best to engage them but to no avail. Facebook, What’s App and snap chat are winning hands down. People there is a whole world out there. look up and enjoy it.

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Now I know that if you are a business owner you may rely on adverts on social media and nights like last night can be a major problem, but why? Social media is just one way of advertising. It is not the only way. I bet you paid £100s possibly £1000s on getting your website up and running. Did you promote it last night? It could have been a golden opportunity. All those people getting withdrawal symptoms from not seeing videos or images. It’s so easy to be come reliant on one media that you forget that you have all these other resources at your fingertips.

If I’m honest I actually enjoyed last night. Yes I picked up the phone occasionally to see if the problem was sorted, but in the main I read and I actually spoke to other people in my house. (They seem like nice people)

Here are suggestions for you that you could do instead of spending all your time on your mobile.

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Look Up: Put the phone down. You don’t really need to be on it. Instead of walking around staring down at your phone, look up and smile at someone. You’ll be surprised how many people will actually smile back.

Get some exercise: Find something active that you like to do. Play a pick-up game of football with your mates, take a jog on a local trail, go to a Zumba class, go on a walk around your area. Exercise is the best way to clear your mind and you’ll feel so much better about yourself after!

Have a conversation: No more “what’s up,” “nm,” “ttyl.” Imagine how much better you could get to know someone if you actually had a conversation with them in real life.

Invite friends over for a meal: Who doesn’t love food? You might not be the best cook, but anybody can heat up some frozen hamburgers and buy a carton of ice cream. And that girl you know who always posts food pics on Instagram… yeah invite her too. You might have a stomachache after, but it’ll all be worth it in the long run.

Find a hobby: Find something you love to do and go pursue it! Photography, crafting, collecting sports memorabilia, whatever it may be – go try it out!

Get lost in a book: You never know what you might learn. Maybe you’ll even discover you want to write a book yourself. Wanna get lost in a really good book? Check out Can I Change

Treat Yourself: You deserve to treat yourself. You probably treat yourself already, but go ahead and treat yourself again. Get that ice cream cone. Make it two scoops, actually three. Go to the shops and spend a little money on yourself. You finally put your phone away, so I would say you deserve it.

Do that one thing you’ve been meaning to do for ages: You know exactly what one thing you need to do. It’s the thing you keep putting off and there’s no better time to do it then now.

You got this. Don’t make your phone more important than the more important things in this life. Live a little more than you have been. Put the phone down. I promise you, you won’t regret it.

Until next time.

Jon XX

I am a hypnotherapist based in Haverhill, Suffolk and I cover Suffolk, Essex and Cambridge. I’m here to help you to work through life’s challenges and get back your confidence and self belief.

Follow this link as a quick guide as to what I can do to help you.