How is your self Esteem?

Hi How are we all doing? I promised at the tail end of last year that I’m going to start using this blog and my Facebook page  to help with certain conditions or emotions etc. Well today I’m going to start doing that.

I want to start with self esteem. I’m starting with this one as it’s very close to me heart. Way back when I lost a lot of self esteem due to illness, and it was due to self hypnosis that I regained my self esteem and my own self belief.  That is why I am now a full time hypnotherapist and that is also why I want to share some tips that helped me.

So what is self-esteem?

Self-esteem is how we value and perceive ourselves. It’s based on our opinions and beliefs about ourselves, which can sometimes feel really difficult to change.

Your self-esteem can affect whether you:

  • like and value yourself as a person. Do you?
  • are able to make decisions and assert yourself. Can you?
  • recognise your strengths and positives. Do you think positive about yourself?
  • feel able to try new or difficult things. Are you scared to?
  • show kindness towards yourself. Do you do this?
  • move past mistakes without blaming yourself unfairly. It’s not easy.
  • take the time you need for yourself. Sp many of us don’t do this.
  • believe you matter and are good enough. Of course you are good enough.
  • believe you deserve happiness. Everyone deserves to be happy.

For me, building self-esteem was about learning what self-esteem was in the first place. It was unlearning what I had learned about myself … I went back to self-school and learned all about me.

What can cause low self-esteem?

The things that affect our self-esteem differs for everyone. Your self-esteem might change suddenly, or you might have had low self-esteem for a while – which might make it hard to recognise how you feel and make changes.

Difficult or stressful life experiences can often be a factor, such as:

  • being bullied or abused
  • experiencing prejudice, discrimination or stigma
  • losing your job or difficulty finding employment
  • problems at work or while studying
  • ongoing stress
  • physical health problems. This was my change point.
  • mental health problems
  • relationship problems, separation or divorce
  • worries about your appearance and body image
  • problems with money or housing.

You might have had some of these experiences, and you might also have had difficulties that aren’t listed here. Or there might not be one particular cause.

My self esteem has almost disappeared…. I don’t know how to interact with people anymore and find it hard to enjoy the things that I like

Whatever has affected your self-esteem, it’s important to remember that you have the right to feel good about who you are. It might feel as if changing things will be difficult, but there are lots of things you can try to improve things bit by bit.

So how can I improve my self-esteem?

This blog has some tips and suggestions for improving your self-esteem.

Some people may find these ideas useful, but remember that different things work for different people at different times. Only try what you feel comfortable with, and try not to put too much pressure on yourself. If something isn’t working for you (or doesn’t feel possible just now), you can try something else, or come back to it another time.

Some peoples just presume [their dislike of themselves] was a part of who they are … It is only when you realise that your self-esteem doesn’t have to be negative so start challenging your own ideas about yourself.

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Be kind to yourself

  • Get to know yourself. Try to learn more about yourself – for example what makes you happy and what you value in life. Some people say they find it helpful to write in a journal.
  • Let yourself have feelings. It’s important to remember that you’re a human being who can experience a wide range of emotions.
  • Consider what self-esteem means to you. You might realise you’re basing your sense of self-worth on things that aren’t useful or helpful for you.

Realising that I can change my ideas about what I base my self-esteem on has helped. I can’t do what I used to, but I can be the kind of person I want to be and now that seems more important to me

  • Try to challenge unkind thoughts about yourself. You might automatically put yourself down. If you find yourself doing this, it can help to ask: “Would I talk to, or think about, a friend in this way?”
  • Avoid comparing yourself to others. Try to remember that what other people choose to share about their lives isn’t the full picture and comparing ourselves isn’t realistic.
  • Say positive things to yourself. It might feel really strange at first, but you’ll feel more comfortable the more you do it.

I’ve come to realise that people get to choose what they present about themselves online … In reality, no one’s life is perfect and everyone has insecurities, and it’s important to remember this in order to not feel bad about yourself every time you see somebody post the ‘perfect’ selfie

Look after yourself

  • Try to get enough sleep. Getting too little or too much sleep can have a big impact on how you feel.
  • Think about your diet. Eating regularly and keeping your blood sugar stable can make a difference to your mood and energy levels.
  • Try to do some physical activity. Exercise can be really helpful for your mental wellbeing and some people find it helps improve their self-esteem.
  • Spend time outside. Spending time in green space can help your wellbeing.

Taking a few minutes for myself each day can really help me feel better.

Try to notice the good things

  • Celebrate your successes. No matter how small they may seem, take time to praise yourself and notice what you did well. It could also help to remember past successes.
  • Accept compliments. You could make a note of them to look over when you’re feeling low or doubting yourself.
  • Ask people what they like about you. It’s likely that they see you differently to how you see yourself.

That’s made a start and I will continue with self esteem in my next blog. but as it is valentines day this week. the best piece of advice I want to give you is

Love yourself first.

Till next time

Best wishes.

NameXX

Happy February

Hi. Welcome to February.

What do mean you don’t care what month it is, they are all the same. Actually for quite a few people they do feel like this. day after day, week after week, month after month, it’s the same old. As a trained hypnotherapist and TFT/EFT Master Practitioner I work with my clients to change these thoughts and really that’s all they are thoughts that are controlling you. What you need to do is control your thoughts.

Your mind is the most powerful tool you have in your life, but if not used correctly, can also be the most destructive force in your life. Your mind, more specifically, your thoughts, affect your perception and therefore, your interpretation of reality.

I have heard that the average person thinks around 70,000 thoughts a day. That’s a lot, especially if they are unproductive, self-abusive and just a general waste of energy. You can let your thoughts run amok, but why would you? It is your mind, your thoughts; isn’t it time to take your power back? Isn’t it time to take control?

Choose to be the person you want to be. Not who someone else wants you to be.

When you change your thoughts, you will change your feelings as well, and you will also eliminate the triggers that set off those feelings. Both of these outcomes provide you with a greater level of peace in your mind.

Thoughts Are Things

Most people, most of the time, are not consciously aware of what they are thinking about – me included. At the same time, you know the impact that your thoughts can have on you. You can become depressed, angry, frustrated, lonely, disappointed, fearful, worried, sad, and doubtful – just to name a few.

On the positive side, some thoughts can make you smile, laugh out loud, feel a sense of pride, cause you to relax, make you feel confident, or – in the case of passing by a McDonald’s – make you crave an ice cold Coke.

The majority of the time, your thoughts directly control how you are feeling at any given moment – regardless of whether you are consciously aware of it or not. With that in mind, wouldn’t it be great if you could better control what you were thinking so that you could change how you were feeling at any time?

You can!

I can

Number 1 – Learn to Stop Your Thoughts

One of the first things you need to do is to learn to stop in the middle of your thoughts (good, bad, or just strange). At various times throughout the day, catch yourself thinking. How are you feeling? What are you thinking about? Why are you thinking about that topic?

Easier said than done I know.

Number 2 – Identify Your Negative Thoughts

The better you become at stopping your thoughts, the faster this step will become for you. In the meantime, I can give you a tip to make it a little bit easier: begin with how you’re feeling and work backwards. Every feeling we have is the direct result of something we were thinking. Therefore, if you’re feeling anxious, begin by stepping back for a minute, and asking yourself, “Why do I feel anxious?”

Number 3 – Find the Lie

Behind every negative thought is a lie about ourselves that we are choosing to believe whether consciously or subconsciously. A key step is to identify what that lie is. The lie could be that you’re worthless or that you’re a failure or that you’re a nobody. Maybe you were told that you are dumb or that you’ll never find a spouse who will love you. Whatever it is, identify it and discard it.

Stop listening to your critical voice.

Your a grown up now. Make your own decisions, praise yourself for a job well done. Have total self belief.

Until next time.

Have a great time.

NameXX

Something to add to my toolbox.

Hi

Since I went full time with my hypnotherapy business I have been pretty lucky to have a constant flow of clients and if any of you are reading this I thank you from the bottom of my heart.

However I like to learn and study and improve (Even at my ripe old age) So I thought I wonder if people who see my ads or talk to former clients are still sceptical or even scared of hypnotherapy. So with that in mind I started to look for an alternative which can still help my clients but in a way that suits them better. After doing a lot of research and looking around to see what was happening locally I decided to learn TFT/ EFT.

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What’s that I hear you ask. (Go on ask…) Well. Thought Field Therapy (TFT) provides a code to nature’s healing system. When applied to problems, TFT solves the fundamental causes, balancing the body’s energy system and eliminates most negative emotions… within minutes

TFT tapping is a brief, effective psychotherapy for the rapid and natural healing of negative emotions and psychological problems. Thought Field Therapy uses nature’s therapeutic system to balance the bodies energy system promoting natural healing and improved mental health. Thought Field Therapy is a natural, drug-free approach with rapid results that can be documented with Heart Rate Variability measurements.

Emotional freedom technique (EFT) is an alternative treatment for physical pain and emotional distress. It’s also referred to as tapping or psychological acupressure.

People who use this technique believe tapping the body can create a balance in your energy system and treat pain. According to its developer, Gary Craig, a disruption in energy is the cause of all negative emotions and pain.

EFT tapping has been used to treat people with anxiety and people with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).

 

Visit my website if you would like to know some more and how much it will cost.

I enjoyed the course so much that I extended it and have now qualified as a

Master Practitioner of TFT/EFT.

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Tap you I will

OK. so the picture may have exaggerated it a bit, but what it does mean is that I will offer my clients the very best extensive TFT/EFT sessions that are possible. and then we will lead the rebellion no no no…  Ps. If you are not a Star Wars Fan I have not gone mad. However I’m about the same size as Yoda but I’m not green and I have smaller ears.

 

So what are your plans for this year? I aim to build up my practice and help as many people enjoy a more rewarding and fulfilling life.  Hopefully not a tall order but one that I will pursue. From next month I am going to offer tips and advice not only on my Facebook page   but also here in my blog.

If you’re stressed, whether by your job or something more personal, the first step to feeling better is to identify the cause.

The most unhelpful thing you can do is turn to something unhealthy to help you cope, such as smoking or drinking.

“In life, there’s always a solution to a problem,” “Not taking control of the situation and doing nothing will only make your problems worse.” The keys to good stress management are building emotional strength, being in control of your situation, having a good social network, and adopting a positive outlook.

I will help you adopt that positive outlook.

Until next time. Have a safe week and keep smiling.

Best wishes

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Sleep ZZZZZZzzzzzz

Would you believe it 2 blogs within the same week. Don’t worry it won’t last. The reason I’m back so quick is that I’m launching a freebie tomorrow. Yep I’m giving something away for free. (Hang on two blogs in a week, now giving something away… NURSE!)

As a thank you for your continued support I thought I would like to give something back, so tomorrow on my Facebook page fb.me/adkin23 I’m giving away my ‘A Better Nights Sleep’ sound file. You will be able to download and then it’s yours to keep.

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I often read morning posts on Facebook saying “Woke again early hours” or “Just 3 hours sleep last night”, and we all know unless we have a good nights sleep we don’t function as well the following day.

So to help people function better or even just feel better I wanted to share what I could do for you. Now of course if it’s a major issue then I would always recommend you seeing someone like your Doctor or a hypnotherapist for a one to one session, but for a lot of us it is just a habit that our bodies have got into.

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How many wake up at roughly the same time throughout the night? I bet it’s quite a lot. That’s because your body has got use to waking up at that time. In my sound file I give you tips how to break that habit. What you MUST NOT DO is pick up your phone and start scrolling through Facebook to see who else is awake. How many of you do that?

I won’t spoil the sound file but the biggest mistake that we all make is when we wake we focus sooooo hard on trying to get back to sleep. Well as strange as it sounds the last thing we want to do is actually think about sleep. Our body is already tired as are our muscles, so think about doing something strenuous Like going for a run or  doing some gardening, something that appeals to you. You of course don’t do it but you think about doing it and because your body is already tired it says “No way am I doing that” and it drops back off to sleep.

Try it it really works.

So if you would like to get my Better Nights Sleep Sound file. pop over to my Facebook page at fb.me/adkin23 Like my page message me saying I’m in and you will receive the link, but hurry the link will only be good for a week.

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I hope to hear from you.

Night Night. zzzzzzzzzzzz

Name XX