Working with me
I know what it’s like to always be thinking about what other people are thinking of you. To act (or more usually not act) from a place of fear, to be too eager to please and too scared to be seen. It’s something that’s difficult to rationalise yourself out of because you already know it’s not rational. You’re not on the FBI’s most wanted list but you’re always ready to feel guilty at the drop of a hat.
You’re stuck right?
You’ve probably tried to make changes on your own. Maybe you’ve been faking it but not making it or affirming your socks off without success. Sure you could read some more books and try some more stuff on your own but we all need a bit of help from someone else sometimes.
If you’re ready to ask for help I’m here to give it. I work with people like you either in person or online depending on your preference. We’re talking short term help not a long term commitment. I’ve helped many people like you make a big change in just 3 or 4 sessions
What happens in a session?
All sessions start with an informal chat about where you are now and what you want to achieve. Everyone is different and it’s important for me to understand what’s affecting you in particular and what you want to get out of our sessions together. If this isn’t your first session we’ll also review what’s improved since the last session.
This is followed by a session of hypnosis. Hypnosis is really just a state of inward focused attention (see more in FAQs) which I help you relax into by telling you a story or talking you through some relaxing exercises using your imagination. You will continue to be fully aware during the hypnosis session itself which will involve following along with exercises using your imagination and listening to me talk and make suggestions. It’s a very relaxed state and you may find your mind wandering which is perfectly normal.
Following the hypnosis session I gently reorientate you to the room (it can feel a bit like waking up after a sleep as you’ve been still and quiet for a while). If you haven’t experienced hypnosis before you’ll be surprised how familiar and relaxing it feels.
How does hypnotherapy help?
Hypnotherapy helps by making changes on the unconscious level. We all have a part of our brain which runs below the level of conscious thought. It keeps your blood pumping, regulates your breathing, moves the muscles in your legs to walk.
When you learn something well enough that it becomes automatic such as tying your shoe laces, driving a car, keeping your hands away from fire, the activity is taken over by the unconscious part of your mind which creates an automatic programme so you don’t have to think about it consciously. When it works well it saves us a lot of conscious effort.
However sometimes the processes that the mind makes automatic aren’t useful such as panicking every time you have to speak in public or interpreting anything that doesn’t work out as meaning you’re stupid. With hypnotherapy we can reach this unconscious part of the mind and correct unhelpful programmes.
How many sessions will it take?
It really depends on the issue and the individual person. Hypnotherapy is usually quite a short term therapy unlike counselling or psychotherapy. Two to four sessions is often sufficient for many people although there are exceptions. (The equivalent of less than a day to make a significant change to your life.) You should notice a difference from each session which will let you know that you’re making progress.
What can hypnotherapy help with?
Hypnotherapy can help with any problem that would be eased by a change in perspective, thinking or feeling. For example a phobia can be helped with hypnosis because when you don’t have the fear any more it’s not a problem. Similarly social anxiety or low self-esteem are no longer a problem when you feel, calm relaxed and comfortable in your own skin.
What if I need to cancel an appointment?
If you let me know that you would like to cancel or change your appointment more than 48 hours in advance of your session then I can do that for you without any charge. However if you cancel or make changes with less than 48 hours notice there will be no refund.
Where do sessions take place?
I practice hypnotherapy in Haverhill Suffolk. CB9 I am situated in the borders of Suffolk, Cambridge and Essex. I also offer Online Sessions Via Zoom.
Any questions? My FAQs
page may help you.
Will I be in control?
This question usually comes from the world of stage hypnosis. Remember when someone goes up on stage they have a pretty good idea what’s going to happen and they’ve agreed to participate in a performance. In a hypnotherapy session the hypnotherapist gives therapeutic directions and suggestions but it’s up to you whether you want to agree to follow. Even in trance you will still be aware, able to move and talk when you wish but what’s happening inside your mind may be more absorbing than the outside world.
Will I remember everything?
You may do or you may not. It’s really like having a conversation in which your attention may drift or be absorbed by certain aspects. As in everyday life you don’t always remember everything that was said in a conversation.
Build Your Self Esteem
Hypnosis is a relaxing and safe process that involves redirecting the attention of both the conscious and subconscious mind. The aim of hypnosis for self-esteem is to identify and challenge patterns of negative thinking. It also encourages positive changes through the power of suggestion. Once you’re under hypnosis, a hypnotherapist will present various hypnotic suggestions, visualisations and other techniques. These help to promote positive thoughts, attitudes and beliefs that support a healthy self-esteem.
In the deeply relaxed state of hypnosis, your subconscious is more accepting of suggestions to change. By identifying your problems and goals in an initial conscious enquiry, a hypnotherapist can tailor their suggestions to meet your needs. In the case of hypnotherapy for self-esteem, the primary aim is to encourage self-empowerment and reduce negative self-talk. Thus promoting the development of long-term, healthy self-esteem.
Depression and Hypnotherapy
The aim of hypnotherapy as a type of depression treatment is to target the root cause of the issue and to develop better coping behaviours. In most circumstances you will usually forget or suppress the cause of your depression because of the association with negative feelings. It’s not difficult to forget an event on a conscious level, but it is on a subconscious level. This is why it’s best to confront the issue head on, rather than burying it, which can worsen your depression.
Hypnotherapy connects directly with the subconscious mind. Your hypnotherapist will address your perception of the event that has caused you to become depressed with the aim to improve your self-esteem, mood and help you gain your independence back.
These are only a few of the many conditions, hypnotherapy can help with.
Contact me for more details.
Is this you?
I want you to know that I understand. I treat each client differently. I use the consultation to build up a picture of what you want from life then we work together to get you there.
Can you relate to any of the states below?
Do you dislike yourself? Do you think that you don’t deserve happiness….Well think again. You are you and you deserve every happiness, so go out there and get it. I will help you. Together we will start your next chapter.
Have you ever made excuses not to go out because your friends are so much better than you? They are not. We are all different, but we have one thing in common. We all deserve to be happy. Work with me and together we will make you smile again.
Do you live behind a mask? Imagine stepping out from behind that mask that you are wearing. Imagine actually being you, but the you that you want to be. You are entitled to live the life that you deserve. So live it.
Not going out again because you’re not in the mood? Missing out on social gatherings because you just don’t feel up to it? With a change of mind You will feel up to it, you will get out there and start living again. It maybe easier than you think.
Do you sit there scrolling through you’re news feed, hoping no one notices what’s going on inside…Lack of self esteem, No confidence no self belief. That can all stop. If we work together we can change all of that. It’ all inside of you we just have to release it.
How long can you feel the way you feel? How long can you ignore and tell yourself it will get better, but it doesn’t. How long can you let it get in the way or keep you stuck? You don’t have to do that a minute longer. The minute you decide something needs to be different, then everything starts to change. Why not send me a message and let’s chat about how we can work together to help you feel better.
Do you feel like you’re treading water, struggling to stay afloat? Maybe you feel like life is weighing you down and holding you back, and every step is hard work. Maybe you feel lost and confused about where you should be going. Maybe you just need someone to hold your hand, while you find your feet again. Sometimes life can happen. It can knock us off course. It can leave us feeling overwhelmed but the good news is that you don’t have to stay feeling like that. It can get better, you can ditch the stuff that’s keeping you feeling that way and you can feel better – whatever ‘better’ looks like for you. It all starts with you deciding that you want something different and taking the first step and then I can help you find your happy again.
I get how your thing is affecting you. I get it impacts on every area of your life. I get the you want to get rid of it but you’ve had it so long you might not even believe it’s possible. But imagine it…life without your thing. What would you do? Have? Feel? How different and amazing would life be? You don’t have to dream about it, you can have that life. You can have all those things you want. Simply by removing that thing. Now, you might have spent a fortune and tried everything, but you haven’t tried working with me. I help people like you every day. You’re not alone. I’ve got your back, I can hold your hand, I can make it better. All you need to decide is that you want that new way of feeling more than you want to feel the way your feeling….and really, that’s exactly what you want isn’t it? All you need to do is decide and get in touch. Ready?
No matter what’s happened in your life, no matter what you’ve been told, YOU
get to decide who you are. And it’s never too late to rewrite your story and give
yourself the happy ending you deserve.
You might know why you’re feeling the way you’re feeling or you might not have any clue but that’s ok because you don’t need to know. You just need to know you want to feel differently and I can help you work out what that looks like and how to get there. We can do it together.
So why choose me?
Here’s what makes me different:
When you work with me, although I’m not permitted to give guarantees. I know you’ll leave my room having made positive changes.
When you work with me you work with someone who has most likely walked your journey.
I continually study the field of health and wellbeing, immersing myself in the latest thinking and research so that you get the best treatment for your needs.
For me this is not just a job! It’s my life’s passion and mission to help people just like you to get well.
You get a thorough assessment, a chance to talk in a homely comfortable environment and you learn the latest techniques and knowledge to get to back to good health. We fix your stuff in the session, but you also leave with a toolbox of methods to keep you well.
Depending on your problem, you will need just a small number of sessions. usually between 2 and 4, so you don’t come to therapy for months on end. There’s no need. My job is to become redundant as soon as possible so you can go live a great life.
I’m building up an excellent reputation, I’ve been trained by some of the best practitioners out there.
If you want things to change in your life, you have to take the first step. and I’m there waiting to help you.
I look forward to working with you.