A bit about me
I was born in 1962 in Gloucestershire and adopted at 18 months old. I grew up in London. As a qualified hypnotherapist I am able to help people overcome so many issues that can affect so many in today’s world. I love to help and pass on my positive attitude. I became interested in hypnotherapy after suffering a lot of poor health in my 30’s, I lost all my confidence and self esteem. I needed to turn it around and I used hypnotherapy. It worked, in fact it got me to a better place than I was before my illnesses. So years later I trained in hypnotherapy and after running a successful part time hypnotherapy practise I decided to go full time. I trained with and am a member of The British Association of Hypnotherapy. I have just become a Master Hypnotherapist dealing with age regression.
The pleasure I get from helping clients is immeasurable. Helping people to live the life that they deserve to live, achieving their goals and just changing their life for the better.
I accept that a lot of people are sceptical about hypnotherapy and its effectiveness. As a consequence, and in order to make the benefits of hypnotherapy more accessible, I offer a free initial consultation, during which we can discuss any issues you feel you need a little help with, and you can ask me anything you want about what to expect in the session. The initial consultation is completely free of charge and, as with all our interactions, will be dealt with in the strictest confidence. In essence you have absolutely nothing to lose and potentially so very much to gain.
Welcome to a place where you can learn to dare to be yourself and feel free to be you wherever you are.
Hiding in the shadows hoping not to be shown up for the fraud you feel you are is no life. Playing it safe and not going for what you want because you presume you won’t get it is a strategy for misery. When your inner critic is out of control keeping you feeling less than those around you it can lead to sleepless nights, worried days, keeping to yourself and playing it small. When you don’t feel solid on the inside it’s easy to be buffeted on the winds of other peoples whims. An innocent comment or difference in opinion can have you doubting yourself. But denying who you are, trying to fit yourself into a mould you think is more acceptable, staying in that dead end job when you’re capable of more or always saying yes to those ‘friends’ that put you down isn’t an answer. I guess you know that already or you wouldn’t be here.
Imagine the difference it could make to your life if you did feel solid on the inside. Being able to speak you mind even when others disagree, getting involved at meetings, looking forward to seeing friends and family. Knowing that it’s only natural that not everyone is going to like you and feeling okay with that. Liking yourself, warts and all and feeling okay with other people seeing who you really are. No being fake, no hiding just being free to be you. If that’s what you’re after then you’ve come to the right place. Feeling free to be yourself is totally possible and I’m here to help you do it.
Ready to make a change?
Working with me
I know what it’s like to always be thinking about what other people are thinking of you. To act (or more usually not act) from a place of fear, to be too eager to please and too scared to be seen. It’s something that’s difficult to rationalise yourself out of because you already know it’s not rational. You’re not on the FBI’s most wanted list but you’re always ready to feel guilty at the drop of a hat.
You’re stuck right?
You’ve probably tried to make changes on your own. Maybe you’ve been faking it but not making it or affirming your socks off without success. Sure you could read some more books and try some more stuff on your own but we all need a bit of help from someone else sometimes.
If you’re ready to ask for help I’m here to give it. I work with people like you either in person or online depending on your preference. We’re talking short term help not a long term commitment. I’ve helped many people like you make a big change in just 3 or 4 sessions
What happens in a session?
All sessions start with an informal chat about where you are now and what you want to achieve. Everyone is different and it’s important for me to understand what’s affecting you in particular and what you want to get out of our sessions together. If this isn’t your first session we’ll also review what’s improved since the last session.
This is followed by a session of hypnosis. Hypnosis is really just a state of inward focussed attention (see more in FAQs) which I help you relax into by telling you a story or talking you through some relaxing exercises using your imagination. You will continue to be fully aware during the hypnosis session itself which will involve following along with exercises using your imagination and listening to me talk and make suggestions. It’s a very relaxed state and you may find your mind wandering which is perfectly normal.
Following the hypnosis session I gently reorientate you to the room (it can feel a bit like waking up after a sleep as you’ve been still and quiet for a while). If you haven’t experienced hypnosis before you’ll be surprised how familiar and relaxing it feels.
How does hypnotherapy help?
Hypnotherapy helps by making changes on the unconscious level. We all have a part of our brain which runs below the level of conscious thought. It keeps your blood pumping, regulates your breathing, moves the muscles in your legs to walk.
When you learn something well enough that it becomes automatic such as tying your shoe laces, driving a car, keeping your hands away from fire, the activity is taken over by the unconscious part of your mind which creates an automatic programme so you don’t have to think about it consciously. When it works well it saves us a lot of conscious effort.
However sometimes the processes that the mind makes automatic aren’t useful such as panicking every time you have to speak in public or interpreting anything that doesn’t work out as meaning you’re stupid. With hypnotherapy we can reach this unconscious part of the mind and correct unhelpful programmes.
How many sessions will it take?
It really depends on the issue and the individual person. Hypnotherapy is usually quite a short term therapy unlike counselling or psychotherapy. Two to four sessions is often sufficient for many people although there are exceptions. (The equivalent of less than a day to make a significant change to your life.) You should notice a difference from each session which will let you know that you’re making progress.
What can hypnotherapy help with?
Hypnotherapy can help with any problem that would be eased by a change in perspective, thinking or feeling. For example a phobia can be helped with hypnosis because when you don’t have the fear any more it’s not a problem. Similarly social anxiety or low self-esteem are no longer a problem when you feel, calm relaxed and comfortable in your own skin.
What if I need to cancel an appointment?
If you let me know that you would like to cancel or change your appointment more than 48 hours in advance of your session then I can do that for you without any charge. However if you cancel or make changes with less than 48 hours notice there will be no refund.
Where do sessions take place?
I practice hypnotherapy in Haverhill Suffolk. CB9 I am situated in the borders of Suffolk, Cambridge and Essex.
Will I be in control?
This question usually comes from the world of stage hypnosis. Remember when someone goes up on stage they have a pretty good idea what’s going to happen and they’ve agreed to participate in a performance. In a hypnotherapy session the hypnotherapist gives therapeutic directions and suggestions but it’s up to you whether you want to agree to follow. Even in trance you will still be aware, able to move and talk when you wish but what’s happening inside your mind may be more absorbing than the outside world.
Will I remember everything?
You may do or you may not. It’s really like having a conversation in which your attention may drift or be absorbed by certain aspects. As in everyday life you don’t always remember everything that was said in a conversation.
Build Your Self Esteem
Hypnosis is a relaxing and safe process that involves redirecting the attention of both the conscious and subconscious mind. The aim of hypnosis for self-esteem is to identify and challenge patterns of negative thinking. It also encourages positive changes through the power of suggestion. Once you’re under hypnosis, a hypnotherapist will present various hypnotic suggestions, visualisations and other techniques. These help to promote positive thoughts, attitudes and beliefs that support a healthy self-esteem.
In the deeply relaxed state of hypnosis, your subconscious is more accepting of suggestions to change. By identifying your problems and goals in an initial conscious enquiry, a hypnotherapist can tailor their suggestions to meet your needs. In the case of hypnotherapy for self-esteem, the primary aim is to encourage self-empowerment and reduce negative self-talk. Thus promoting the development of long-term, healthy self-esteem.
Depression and Hypnotherapy
The aim of hypnotherapy as a type of depression treatment is to target the root cause of the issue and to develop better coping behaviours. In most circumstances you will usually forget or suppress the cause of your depression because of the association with negative feelings. It’s not difficult to forget an event on a conscious level, but it is on a subconscious level. This is why it’s best to confront the issue head on, rather than burying it, which can worsen your depression.
Hypnotherapy connects directly with the subconscious mind. Your hypnotherapist will address your perception of the event that has caused you to become depressed with the aim to improve your self-esteem, mood and help you gain your independence back.
These are only a few of the many conditions, hypnotherapy can help with.
Contact me for more details.